05/13/2015 03:34 pm ET Updated May 13, 2016

How To Reinvent Yourself With Confidence


"I feel like I'm stuck."

"I'm very motivated and driven; I want more in my life, I just don't know what."

"My life is the same thing day in and day out."

"I don't know what to choose or what I'm supposed to do next - there's this piece that's missing."

Sound familiar?

These are some of the most difficult feelings we will ever have. We want more; we can feel it; we can taste it! We have the desire.

But overwhelmingly, we just feel stuck. We want that feeling to go away. We want MORE.

Yet the more we want it, the more frustrated we become.

It's a vicious cycle that seems to go on and on, day after day, week after week.

A lot of women feel this way at one time or another. But what you choose to do with those feelings will ultimately seal your fate.

You can choose to find a way to bury that nagging feeling once and for all.

Or you can choose to find a way to move forward in a big way.

Moving forward in a big way isn't easy. In fact, it can be one of the most difficult things you'll ever do. You'll have a lot of nay-sayers trying to talk you down. You'll have a lot of obstacles in your way. But it can be done.

All it takes is a little confidence in yourself, trusting that deep within, you know exactly what you have set out to accomplish.

You'll need confidence to trust in yourself through every pitfall you face; to know that ultimately you are on the path you are truly meant to on.

And you can start down this path by doing a few things right now.

1. Stop pleasing everyone else
Women are people pleasers; that's what we do best. Yet the more you please others, the more you suppress what is really going on inside of you. Confident women know that to be the best you can be, you have to stop hesitating about what works for you in order to make others happy. Learn to say no to others once in a while, and say yes to you.

2. Stop wasting time worrying
Time is the most valuable commodity we have. If you put your focus on the negative, things that may happen or things that could have been, you are disengaging from the things that are possible. A confident woman notices her actions and only concentrates on things that will move her forward.

3. Stop doubting yourself
Second-guessing your actions stops you before you even try. We all have regrets in this world; it's funny how most of them are around the things we never tried. It's easy to say to yourself "I can't do this because ..." What's more difficult is giving yourself the freedom to move forward through those doubts, and saying yes because you can. Confident women know they have nothing to lose, and say yes more every day.

4. Stop putting your needs last
Have you ever said things like "when my daughter goes to school, when we have more money in the bank, when the kids are a little older?" We all justify our actions by blaming our circumstances on the things happening around us. A confident woman knows that by giving herself the time she needs to do what interests her, the happier she will be, and the more she will have to give to those around her.

5. Stop judging yourself by your failures
The road of life is a bumpy one. We have successes and we have failures. Yet what seems to be a given when we are young turns excruciatingly difficult as we age. We let failure define us rather than guide us to our true potential. A confident woman knows that failure is simply fear of the unknown. And if we choose to move past our fears and do it anyway, great things are waiting to happen.

6. Stop ignoring your instincts
We all have that little inner voice that guides us and directs us throughout the day.
That inner voice is always there, yet it's easy to lose sight of what it's trying to tell you. A confident woman knows to start trusting that inner voice more, knowing she will lead in a spectacular way.

7. Stop defining yourself by your stuff
Your stuff doesn't define you. It doesn't make you the person you are meant to be. It may give you happiness... for a while. But a confident woman knows she is defined by who she is and what she has to offer the world, not the stuff she has accumulated. So she focuses in more on experiences that will help her become who she is meant to be.

8. Stop denying yourself
Regret comes from not doing the things you most want to do. And when you hold yourself back, you spend too much time worrying about what you can't have instead of what you can. Learn to eat better... and give yourself a hot fudge sundae every once in a while. Take care of everyone else's needs... and schedule a night with a hot bubble bath, a glass of wine and a good romance novel too.

Confidence gives you a reason to be more comfortable in your own skin, and to do the things that are best for you. And the better you get, the more you have to give.

Maybe that's why people love being around a truly confident woman!