02/04/2014 11:33 am ET Updated Apr 06, 2014

Lucky to Have Locks: How to Embrace the Hair You Have

"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder."

"Inner beauty is what truly matters."

"Imperfections are beauty."

These are all things that we say in an attempt to comfort others when they are lacking confidence in their appearance. However, when you are the one looking in the mirror and wishing that you looked differently, you may find that those quotes aren't as comforting as you had previously thought. This can be especially true when your hair is thinning, or you are losing your hair altogether. The question then becomes: What do I do? What you need to do is follow these two key steps:

1. Embrace it
2. Work with it.

"Embrace it" means that you need to stop pining for what you don't have, see what you do have and appreciate it. The fact of the matter is, it is dangerous to hate your hair, no matter how little or how much of it you have. Never lose hope because there is always something that can be done to enhance your look and leave you feeling more confident in your appearance. This brings me to our next step, which is "work with it."

"Work with it" means that you need to do the best that you can with what you have. Even the finest hair can be cut into gorgeous styles. Invest your time and effort in finding a hair stylist who knows how to make you look and feel your best, and once you've found him or her, never let go! However, if you're suffering from extreme hair loss, getting a fabulous new hair cut may not be an option, but that doesn't mean that you're out of solutions. For you, "working with it" may mean considering a long-term solution, like the patented Intralace system or sporting a wig while you figure out the root of your hair loss. Do what works for you. In addition to this, there are also things that we can incorporate into our daily routine that will not only help to prevent any further hair loss, but prevent any further loss of self-confidence and self-esteem.

Condition your hair daily!

Conditioner isn't just to make your hair silky and smooth. Conditioners actually contain amino acids that protect hair from damage. Heated styling tools and chemical treatments, such as coloring, actually cause strands to break and fall out. Therefore, it is extremely important that you condition your hair regularly, not so much if it's oily.

Avoid hair gels, creams and serums.

These can weigh down fine hair and make sparse areas more noticeable. Lightweight hairsprays or mousses give hair body and volume.

If you want your hair to be healthy, you have to provide your body with proper nutrition.

If you're vegetarian or anemic, you may lack adequate iron, which is essential for strong, healthy hair. Make sure you're eating plenty of leafy greens -- such as spinach, kale, and chard -- and beans, tofu, or lean cuts of red meat, which are all great sources of iron, as well as biotin and zinc, two nutrients that play a role in hair growth.

Scalp Message.

Massage temporarily increases circulation to the scalp, which pumps hair follicles with the nutrients needed for hair growth, as well as all important oxygen.

Brush with care.

Used in conjunction with a blow-dryer, round metal brushes can heat up significantly, and some brushes with hard plastic or metal bristles can cause breakage. Instead, try a brush made of gentle boar bristles when possible.

Of all of the tips and tricks, the most important one can't be taught, and that is to accept you. No hair cut or wig can make someone beautiful. Once you realize that, you will be able to use the aforementioned tips for their intended purpose, which is to enhance the beauty that is already there. You will finally begin to realize that you are lucky to have locks!