03/18/2010 05:12 am ET Updated Nov 17, 2011

Ask Maddisen: How To Live The Life You Desire - Starting Now

Dear Readers:
In my previous column, How To Release Mental Patterns That Don't Support Your Goals, reader LJ asked how to release mental patterns that were getting in the way of his goals, and I responded with a specific approach that included keeping a pattern journal and a desire journal. I promised to follow-up in a subsequent column with the next steps for more deliberately living the life you desire, and here it is. If you didn't read the previous column, that's fine, you can start right here.

We have dominion over our thoughts, our perception of events, and our attitudes. And what we continuously focus on tends to continuously show up in our lives. Therefore, I'm recommending that you start now, today and the days ahead, to focus on what you truly want and on what you want to think and feel - for your highest good and the highest good of all concerned. To support yourself in living the life you desire, follow these steps:

Step 1 - List Your Heartfelt Desires and Goals
To get clear on what you want, write down the heartfelt desires and goals that inspire and excite you. What do you want? What do you want to think? What do you want to feel? What do you want to experience? Just let it flow onto the paper.

For example, perhaps you have specific desires for partnership and family, goals for work and financial health, and intentions for your physical well-being and beauty. A good rule of thumb is to make these at least 50% believable to you. Whatever they are, write them down now.

Step 2 - Categorize Them
Once you complete Step 1, arrange your desires and goals into major categories.

Here are some examples of major categories:
-Health and Beauty
-Financial Health
-Personal Growth (Mental, Emotional, Spiritual)
-Loving Partnership
-Friends & Community
-Home Environment
-Pleasure and Relaxation

Step 3 - Write Your "I AM's"
From a centered and relaxed place, look over your list(s). Now, enhance every desire and goal by turning it into an inspired "I AM" statement, using vivid and empowering language.

For example:
"I AM deeply fulfilled with my life coaching career and my wonderful clients."
"I AM successfully managing and growing my money and reaching my financial goals."
"I AM vibrantly healthy."
"I AM willingly creating thoughts and feelings of love, compassion, gratitude, and happiness."
"I AM loving my daily exercise routine and how great it makes me look and feel."
"I AM very happy in my loving, compatible, and inspiring partnership with my wonderful Man."
"I AM inspired and relaxed by the beauty of every room in my home."

Note: The "I AM's" describe your desired outcomes, and not the action steps to achieve them. "I AM's" ignite your desires and start the wheels of their manifestation in the physical world.

Step 4 - Read Your "I AM's" Daily
Read your "I AM's" daily, or at least 5 times every week. Continue this practice for at least one month, preferably forever! And as you start manifesting your "I AM's", update your list and add new desires and goals. Make this a living, changing document. Practice reading them aloud or quietly. For fun, try reading your "I AM's" aloud while walking in your house or in the yard. I work with my "I AM's" daily, and update them regularly as I manifest them or as they change.

Step 5 - Live Your "I AM's" Daily
As you read, ponder, and visualize your "I AM's", be aware if there any small steps you could take to start creating them. Write down the steps and perhaps dates for completion. Be realistic and give yourself plenty of room for success.

Ask yourself questions like, "Where am I now? Where would I like to be? How can I get there?" Take inspired actions and if it feels right, be open to collaborating with and receiving support from others. You may also find that your "I AM's" manifest in different and unexpected ways, and as a result of direct and indirect actions. Allow Creation to do its thing! Be open to support. Trust your heartfelt desires and goals. Allow yourself to be Who You Truly Are.

And so, dear readers, are you ready to begin this new practice of focusing on and living the lives you desire? Because you are reading this column, I believe you are!

Until next time, I close with this powerful quote from Abraham-Hicks. "Contrast [that which you do not want] helps you to identify desire. Desire is summoning. It's always flowing through you. You have the opportunity of opening to the harmony of the vibration of your desire or not. As the desires are being summoned through you, and you go with the flow, you thrive, but if you use things to be your excuse for not going with the flow, you are arguing for your limitations. We want to show you how to go with the flow. Which means nothing more than finding vibrational harmony with your own desire, and letting the Universal Energy that your desire is summoning to it flow to it through you. It is optimum creative experience." And so it is...

Your Coach, Maddisen

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