THE BLOG
09/29/2014 03:25 pm ET Updated Nov 29, 2014

Life's Highest Experience: A Circle of Love

A circle of love is a profound experience -- well worth working toward. It's what we all yearn for in our souls. Fun, joy, intimacy and creativity are some of the results of the circle of love. So, what can you do to create more circles of love in your life?

A circle of love occurs when two or more people are together with completely open hearts -- open with their true Self, with each other and with Spirit. When we are deeply connected with our core Self and with the love and sustenance of Spirit, and we are sharing our Self and Love with others -- and they are doing the same -- a circle of love occurs.

Yet most people in relationships rarely, if ever, experience a circle of love. This is because when your intent is to protect against your painful feelings rather than to learn about loving yourself and others, you heart is closed -- closed to your Self, closed to others and closed to Spirit.

The major thing you can do is to consistently practice the Six Steps of Inner Bonding. These steps are designed to create and support your connection with your Self and with Spirit, while healing the fears and false beliefs of the wounded self that are in the way of this connection. By practicing these steps throughout the day, healing will occur and connection will consistently deepen. It is only when you have established a circle of love within yourself and with Spirit that you can extend this circle out to others. Without the inner and spiritual connection, any "love" you share with others isn't really love -- it's a pull for love, attention and approval.

The energy of love comes from Spirit, and can then be shared with others. If you are not connected with Spirit, then you are not aware of receiving the love and sustenance of Spirit. When you are not aware of receiving this, you do not feel the fullness of it inside. Instead, you feel empty and alone and hope to get love from others to fill the emptiness. You might have learned to give "love" to get love, but what you are really doing is trying to control the other person into giving you what you think you need to feel safe and lovable. You will never feel the incredible joy of a circle of love when your intent is to get love from others rather than from Spirit.

What could possibly be more important in life that being able to share a circle of love? Nothing else in life compares to this ultimate experience. While we certainly need to spend time creating financial security and physical health, and taking care of the everyday tasks of life, be sure to place learning to create a circle of love very high on your priority list. Doing your inner work really does work to create the foundation for the circle of love -- the essential inner and spiritual connection. Learning to love your Self and connect with Spirit is the foundation necessary to create a circle of love.

Don't miss out on life's ultimate experience. You have the power to bring this incredible experience into your own life by the choices you make. You will be amazed at how many people are available to share a circle of love with you -- for a minute, an hour, a day, or a lifetime in the case of a partner -- when you do the inner work you need to do to become available for a circle of love.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a relationship expert, best-selling author, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® self-healing process, recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette, and featured on Oprah. To begin learning how to love and connect with yourself so that you can connect with others, take advantage of our free Inner Bonding eCourse, and join Dr. Margaret Paul for her 30-Day at-home Course: "Love Yourself: An Inner Bonding Experience to Heal Anxiety, Depression, Shame, Addictions and Relationships." Discover SelfQuest®, a transformational self-healing/conflict resolution computer program. Phone or Skype sessions with Dr. Margaret Paul.

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