09/11/2012 07:26 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

Unsolicited Advice

One night, at a comedy show in the East Village, a bearded,
post-hipster man-boy approached me with, "Hi. You were really funny."
After more conversation, he then decided he felt comfortable telling
me what he really thought of my wares of word. "Your tertiary comedy
is really good but your set ups are too long." Oh, why thank you,
perfect stranger, for gutting me where the wound must have already
been visibly gaping, even in the lighting of this seedy bar. I felt
embarrassed and defensive, partly because I completely agreed with the
second part. And partly because his statement forced me to have to
Google "tertiary comedy," you know, that term he had just made up? But
I allowed him buy all my drinks for the rest of the night while I
silently wept inside, because "tertiary" comics drink for free.
Everybody knows that. Just Google it.

That story isn't an uncommon experience. In every service industry,
there is always a customer who, despite having never done the job on
which they feel the need to offer critique, gives instructive thoughts
on how exactly they think it could be better done. Stand-up comics are
no exception to hearing from these "helpful observers" and their sage
words on improvement. The following quotes are real, unsolicited
advice given to comics by audience members after seeing their shows.
At least all these comedians can rest easy being very very good at
stand-up, despite the occasional ignorant wisdom that would
momentarily suggest otherwise.

Note: Every single one of the female comics mentioned in this post
have had more than one audience member approach them and say, usually

"You know, I don't really think female comedians are funny but you
were really funny."

In response to which, Jackie Kashian has this to say: "If you're
female and you're a comic and someone hasn't said that to you, then
you're probably not funny."

Jimmy Pardo:

"You should talk more about diarrhea, you know, like stuff people can
relate to. Not that stuff you just did."

Emily Heller:

"You should stick with it. You'll get the hang of it eventually!"

RG Daniels:

"You should do more stuff about looking like Bill Gates or shitting in
your pants."

Mark Normand:

"I like your jokes a lot but how about a little more energy? All you
do is stand there."

Ron Funches:

"I love the bits on your retarded kid."

Barbara Holm:

"Make sure you're not like other female comics and only talk about
dating and sex. I hate that. Male comics have a much wider repertoire
of material."

Jay Larson:

Audience Member: I love that story you did at the end. Is it real?
Jay: Yeah, 100 percent true.
Audience Member: Yeah, I thought so because it kind of falls flat at
the end. Have you ever thought of making up a new ending?
Me: No.

Nikki Glaser:

Audience Member: "Never say on stage that you have a boyfriend because
the second you do, every guy in the room stops listening."

So, for the last four years, Nikki has made certain to just not have a
boyfriend at all, so she doesn't have to worrying about not talking
about him.

Eli Braden:

"You'll never make it big with all that vulgar material in your songs."

Mike Drucker:

Audience Member: "You were my favorite comedian on the show."
Mike: "Thanks! That's really nice of you."
Audience Member: "To be honest, I just don't like black comedians."

Mike was the only white guy on the show and therefore won "Best Set"
by racist default.

Louis Katz:

"That's funny that you're a Jew because we call our friend here
(pointing) a jew all the time!"


Bryan Cook:

"Hey, have you ever seen that one comic do that joke about needing to
lose weight?

The audience member then told Bryan the joke and that he should just
start telling the other guy's joke because it was so good.

Also, Bryan does not need to lose any weight, which makes the
suggestion even more amusing.

Jackie Kashian:

Audience Member: "Is your email address on your website?"
Jackie: "Yes."
Audience Member: "Great. I have some notes I want to send you."

Jackie sits with bated breath still waiting for these notes which she
presumes includes, "Wear more lipstick," something that has been said
to her more than once after shows.

"Big Irish" Jay Hollingsworth:

Audience Member: You said the FUCK word 25 times in 5 minutes. Your
subject matter could be quite funny but you need to drop using the "F"
word. You need to think about your crowd. Comedy isn't about cussing."
Jay: Thanks for telling me what I "need to do." Next time, tell it to
someone that gives a fuck.

Myq Kaplan:

After doing jokes about gay marriage: "This is just supposed to be fun
comedy. You're not supposed to tell me what you think."

David Tveite:

David's account: A woman who came up to me, said, "Hey. That was
good." Then she awkwardly hugged me, gave me a concerned look and
walked away. It was like she was channeling every phone conversation
I've had with my mom since I started doing standup.

Dan St. Germain:

After bombing at a Mumford & Sons after-party (he followed an hour and half performance by a Reggae band), the banjo player came up to him
and started apologizing, which was even worse than the bombing itself.
Because, when British people apologize, they take a half an hour to do
it. "Daniel St. Germain, I am dreadfully sorry for the events that
have transpired this evening. What happened on that stage was nothing
short of an abomination." He was so serious about it that I felt that
at any moment he was about to say. "Ladies and Gentlemen, Princess
Diana has died."

Solomon Georgio:

"You know that angry black man thing, you should do more of that."

To which Solomon said nothing but now wishes he had robbed her and
thrown up a gang sign.

Aparna Nancherla:

Aparna does a very popular puppet closing bit that she has been doing for years:

Audience member: (touches her shoulders, leans in confidentially, and
gently shakes her) "Everything worked, but that puppet thing you did
at the end. Why did you do that? Never do that again."

Al Jackson:

"What happened, buddy? Man, you really lost 'em at the end there, buddy!"

He kept calling Al "buddy," seemingly unaware he was standing 10
inches from a black man who was now plotting his death.

Giulia Rozzi:

"Your breasts were distracting during your set."

Bil Dwyer:

A woman yelled out "K-Mart!" during Bill's show, then afterward, she
spoke with him about it:

Bil: Why did you yell that?
Audience Member: "You're autistic, like Rain Man. And he loved
K-Mart. You're a little autistic, I can tell."

This was a woman who could barely stand because she was so drunk
however, she could tell that Bill was a "little autistic."

Cameron Esposito:

"Good job, but you should have mentioned semen."

- Audience member's opinion after a show where he did crowd work with
another audience member who turned out to be a forensic psychologist

Paul Oddo:

"Nice try."

Ryan Stout:

"Hey, man! That was great! But, you know what you should do? You
should get one of those Cat-in-the-Hat hats. 'Cause you look like him,
kind of."

Rhiannon Archer:

"You know what you need to do? Dress more like you are on a date. Like
it's Saturday night and you want to look really good. Dress it up."

Chris Fairbanks:

"When I first started in Texas, I used to have a part where I would
yodel while climbing a stripper pole during my opening bit. Someone
came up and told me that I was good at yodeling, and I should do it
throughout my act. It could be my "Git 'er Done" catchphrase. I still
worry to this day that they might have been right."

Phoebe Robinson:

Standing with group of male comics and an audience member says, "Do
you do comedy too? I thought you maybe you were just like someone's

Josh Gondelman:

Audience Member: "Hey, I wanted to let you know something because I
know you guys are always looking for feedback."
Josh: "Nope. No, we aren't."

Then, he went on to tell Josh that his act was racist and that he knew
that because every time Josh mentioned anything race-related, the
audience member would turn and stare at the black man sitting near him
and the black man seemed really uncomfortable every time. But it
couldn't have been the staring. No chance.

Virginia Jones:

"I don't know what their problem was, but I thought you were
hilarious." (Emphasis on "I")

Barry Rothbart:

Audience Member: "Hey, man. You ever thought of doing more face comedy
after your punchlines, like crossing your eyes?"
Barry: "What?"
Audience Member: "Yeah, like crossing your eyes to get more of a laugh"

Rojo Perez:

Rojo is Puerto Rican, FYI:

"Boy, you were pretty funny. But you should really ham up that 'Rican
stuff. We don't get a lot of your kind down here. Now, don't go raping
my wife now. Ha! I'm kidding. I like you." - Guy in North Carolina

Ian Karmel:

"You should shave your mustache into a Hitler one. It'd be really good
for your act."

Ian mentions in his act that he is a Jew.

Mary Mack:

"Have you ever thought about going back into teaching?"

Jono Zalay:

Online comment about Jono: "I've seen this guy perform and he's way
less funny than his OkCupid profile. That profile is absolutely
hilarious. But he's only just a little funny when he does stand up.
Oh, well."

And finally, how Moshe Kasher handles complaints and suggestions: