09/24/2009 05:12 am ET Updated May 25, 2011

Gay Marriage: Just Because You Can, Does that Mean You Should?

Frederick Hertz, a divorce lawyer in a long-term unmarried same-sex partnership, has co-written with Emily Doskow a book called, Making It Legal: A Guide to Same-Sex Marriage, Domestic Partnership, and Civil Unions. It covers a wide range, from the first same sex couple to apply for a marriage license (two men in Minneapolis in 1970 -- who are still together, by the way), to marriage and domestic partnership in Europe (marriage there is an entirely civil affair, legally speaking), to the shifts in both gay and straight cultural values since Stonewall and the AIDS pandemic (mainstream culture has become more open-minded, and gay culture more mainstream). Especially interesting are the potential benefits and losses associated with marriage, particularly if there is a divorce... and of course gay divorces are no less ugly or amicable than straight divorces.

Listen to an interview with Frederick Hertz on The Santa Fe Radio Cafe with Mary-Charlotte Domandi.