01/22/2015 12:18 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

Why Are You Reluctant to Stop Doing It All?

When the behaviors of a Type A are out of control, we can take responsibility for situations and outcomes, for the feelings and experience or others, and for absolutely everything around us. We think everything is our responsibility, and thus, within our control to affect. We fear if we don't take care of everything needing to get done, there will be horrible consequences.

The stress coming from being overtaken by our Type-A tendencies, eventually takes a toll on our mood, mental clarity, relationships, work satisfaction, and our health. The goal of this book is to help reduce these negative side effects of being a Type A before they cause major damage in your life, or if you have hit bottom, these tools can help you regroup and regain your life.

The pride we have in all we accomplish, and all of which we are capable, is the usual reason we give for wanting to remain a Type A. The deeper truth is removing our Type A badge of honor is terrifying. Being Type A gives us purpose, gives our life meaning, keeps us, and those we love safe, and keeps the world spinning on its axis.

We fear if we release our Type A tendencies and don't take care of everything:
  • Someone will get hurt, possibly us.
  • We will become a destitute and homeless slacker.
  • Things will fall through the cracks and results will be devastating.
  • We will be unloved and attacked for our mistakes.
  • We will lose our jobs, finances, friends, family, and everything we hold dear.
  • The world as we know it will stop functioning.
But are our fears of letting go of control and doing it all better or worse than the results of this way of living? Which of the following are true for you:
  • Do you have hobbies? Do you have passions? Or have you lost who you are to all of the things you are doing outside of yourself?
  • Do you sleep well at night?
  • Are you fit? Do you feel good in your body?
  • What is your blood pressure?
  • How is your digestion?
  • Do you have close loving relationships, or are those around you cowering after you gave your last order?
  • Do you feel a slave to the needs of those around you?
  • Do you celebrate your successes, or do you jump into the next task?
  • Do you feel overwhelmed by all you need to do?
  • Do you have work-life balance?
  • When was the last time you laughed?
  • How often do you smile during the day?
  • How much do you enjoy what you are doing?
  • How much of your day, life, and relationships do you miss because you are focused on the project at hand?
  • How much of your life have you forgotten in a blur of completed tasks?
  • Are you truly living your life or are you a machine frantically completing one task after another?
  • Do you feel stuck, constricted, strained, and restricted?

Are you willing to give up a bit of control, a bit of doing it all, to regain what you have lost?