06/30/2014 04:02 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

Go Ahead, Indulge! It's Not a Bad Thing


There is nothing wrong with indulging yourself.

Usually the word is seen as something bad or forbidden. Something you shouldn't do. Something you give into. A weakness. But it's not. You can indulge yourself and be strong -- increase yourself, not lessen who you are or betray your values.

What are the pleasures, desires, passions and gratifications you most want and enjoy?

Maybe it's shopping, getting a massage, eating at your favorite restaurant, walking along a beach, traveling, being alone, being in love.

You have the freedom of indulgence -- the ability to allow yourself to think and feel and do whatever you please. It's your life. You're in charge. You make the rules. But be aware... indulgence has side effects... consequences. You pay for your choices.

Whatever you indulge in will either make you strong or weak -- enhance you or tear you down -- make you proud or ashamed. Every thought and action you give yourself permission to indulge in guides and shapes your destiny.

I'm reminded of these words from the Upanishads:

"You are what your deepest desire is.
As is your desire, so is your intention.
As is your intention, so is your will.
As is your will, so is your deed.
As is your deed, so is your destiny."

Indulgence has energy, enthusiasm and purpose. It calls to you and asks for something. Listen well. Indulgence is irresistible.

Indulgence can be deeply religious and honor the highest of rituals such as good will and gratitude, which are desires deep within our nature.

Here's an opportunity to satiate yourself with thought... change... new possibilities... truth.

Indulge yourself in these 12 quotations. Treat yourself. Each one is a gift. They express your deepest desires: caring for individuals -- being of service -- giving without thought of getting -- loving yourself truly -- making wise personal choices.

-- How do these quotes stimulate the best things in your life?

-- What do they do to your mind, heart and all your senses?

-- How do they guide, control, fulfill and impel you?

Totally enjoy! Utterly play and celebrate these ideals. Find relationships and value in them for yourself and others. Be extravagant -- indulge!

1. Mind Your Business
How do you treat and care for your fellow man? The famous ghost Jacob Marley was chained to his choices -- bound to regret, injustice and neglect. What does he teach you about indulgence?

Business! Mankind was my business. The common welfare was my business; charity, mercy, forbearance, and benevolence, were all my business. The dealings of my trade were but a drop of water in the comprehensive ocean of my business. -- A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens

2. Never Stop Learning
How do you best take care for yourself?

Then let us all do what is right, strive with all our might toward the unattainable, develop as fully as we can the gifts God has given us, and never stop learning. -- Ludwig Van Beethoven

3. Here's Good News: You Have Potential

Everyone has inside of him a piece of good news. The good news is that you don't know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is! -- Anne Frank

4. Finding Faults
You will either praise things and find benefit or complain. It's your choice. What runs you?

The fault-finder will find faults even in paradise. -- Henry David Thoreau

5. What Kind of Service Are You After ?

It's high time the ideal of success should be replaced with the ideal of service... only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile. -- Albert Einstein

6. Belief -- What Do You Live For and Value Above All Else?

One life is all we have and we live it as we believe in living it. But to sacrifice what you are and to live without belief that is a fate more terrible than dying. -- Joan of Arc

7. Knowledge Changes Fear

Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. -- Marie Curie

8. What Do You Owe Another Person?

Even after all this time, the sun never says to the earth, 'you owe me!'
Look what happens with a love like that, it lights up the whole sky. -- Hafiz

9. Connect With Your Own Heart

No one can give you anything -- love, shame, self-esteem -- until you give it to yourself. Today give yourself good things. -- Martha Beck

10. Indulge In Your Dreams
It's wise to dream. It's your future.

Without leaps of imagination or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities.
Dreaming after all is a form of planning. -- Gloria Steinem

11. It's All the Same. Make Your Choice

We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong.
The amount of work is the same. -- Carlos Castaneda

12. Go After What You Love -- Indulge Yourself in Service

I've come to believe that each of us has a personal calling that's as unique as a fingerprint - and that the best way to succeed is to discover what you love and then find a way to offer it to others in the form of service, working hard, and also allowing the energy of the universe to lead you. -- Oprah