11/03/2014 04:33 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

You Always Have a Choice

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It's a wonderful thing to know that at any moment you have the freedom, the ability, the power to choose what to do and how to live your life.

Choice is the greatest gift we get from life.

Yes, it sounds easy but it can be the hardest thing in the world to do... to make a choice and then live with it because the choices you make create your life; make you who you are. They are your present. They are your future. They are your destiny.

Sometimes we make up our minds about things without even noticing

We choose yogurt over eggs. Shoes over sneakers. Choose to answer the phone or not. Choose when to go to bed. Simple basic everyday things we do all the time.

We choose our friends and that has more awareness and care to it.

We may have to choose between two jobs we really want or whether to stay in a relationship or not. Choices can also be tough.

Depending on how we feel life treats us we choose to be negative or positive in the way we think. We choose to judge people and things with complaints and bitterness or to be kind and fair. Essentially you choose to be a victim or a hero.

It's an amazing gift -- the freedom of choice -- because if you want to change, to be different in any way because something doesn't stand for you, you're free to do that. You're free to choose goodness over cruelty... understanding and love over anger and hatred.

Life is full of choices and every choice has its consequences. It either makes you a stronger, better person or it can ruin you; make you feel you have to fight for yourself because the world is a bad place and you can't trust anyone.

Try this easy exercise to see if the choices you are making are smart or not...

Whatever it is you're making your mind up about be aware of each option. Focus on it and drop it from your mind right into your heart. Let it rest there for a few moments, be still and take some deep breaths. Then ask: What does my heart tell me to do? Feel the effect it has on your body... let it get into your gut and emotions. Trust yourself. When it's wrong for you you'll feel uneasy, tight, tense. The smart choice, the right one for you, makes you feel happy, relaxed and sure.

No matter how difficult the choice or decision you are making you can ask some simple questions for clarity: What do I really want? What will give me peace and calm me down? How can I turn this around, reframe it so I find the best answer?

The more you ask questions the more you open yourself up to a peaceful state of mind. Positive energy is in the desire to know and when you feel yourself relax -- body and mind -- you know you're on the right track.

A Choice Poem

Autobiography in Five Chapters by Portia Nelson is a simple story that says: Either life is an accident and we're all victims or you can make other choices that will enable you to live the life you desire most. You always have a choice. Be aware. Be active. Get out of resignation and confusion. See what's actually going on and make the best choice you can and change.

Life is both easy and hard. Sometimes it knocks you down regularly but even then you have the power to choose how you want to experience life. You don't have to be helpless. You can choose to fight for change, to improve and grow, choose to look on the bright side and find something you're grateful for, proud of, something that makes you happy and strong even at your lowest.

Maybe you want to eat better, to stop gossiping or to give up an addiction. It can be a hell of a challenge to choose a piece of fruit over a bag of chips, to find something you respect in someone you dislike, to stop smoking or drinking.

1. See what the choice is really about?

2. What are the benefits and the disadvantages of making this choice?

3. What do you really want and why?

4. Take your first small step to start your change. It's worth it because each choice you make brings you closer to *making choice a way of life*. Living the choice life you most want.

Change is a choice. Change is also a process and life is a process we're all living in. Let's enjoy it.

Autobiography in Five Chapters

Chapter 1

I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost...I am helpless.
It is not my fault.
It takes forever to find my way out.

Chapter 2

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don't see it.
I fall in again.
I can't believe I am in this same place.
It is still not my fault.
It takes a long time to get out.

Chapter 3

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it there.
I still fall's a habit now.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

Chapter 4

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

Chapter 5

I walk down another street.