09/28/2015 10:54 am ET Updated Sep 28, 2016

Joy In 18 Steps

Yesterday a friend remarked to me that he wished he had more joy in his life.

I felt bad for him.

My own day was filled with joy.

  1. When I woke up I felt the warmth of my cat who had nestled himself behind the crook of my knee.
  2. I showered with my favorite fragrant soap, with one of those net scrubbies that makes a ton of lather.
  3. I hugged my husband when he was fresh from his shower. He smelled of my soap mixed with shampoo and shaving cream.
  4. My husband made coffee, as he does every morning. We used the mugs decorated with maps of Paris.
  5. The toast came out a perfect light-brown, and I was able to grab it while it was still hot - so my peanut butter melted to a creamy liquid.
  6. When I turned the key in the ignition, the car started.
  7. With a car that starts and runs, I can go anywhere I want to go, but I chose to go to work. I will make some money today.
  8. I said hello to my best friend at work. She looked very nice, and I told her so.
  9. I finished a task that I especially disliked. I crossed it off my list.
  10. I reapplied my lipstick after lunch, and when I went into the ladies' room, I thought I looked pretty good. I told myself so. Out loud, since there was no one else in there.
  11. I got to go home after making some money. I swung my arms as I walked to my car.
  12. My dog greeted me with his happy dance. We ran around the yard until we were both panting.
  13. I had chicken for supper. With peppers from the garden -- a mix of sweet and hot, sauteed with just a bit of olive oil. I bit into one pepper so spicy my mouth stung, and my husband put a spoonful of cottage cheese on my plate to put out the fire.
  14. I took off my shoes.
  15. I watched people sing on TV. Most of them sang very well, and the ones that were not as good were encouraged to keep singing anyway.
  16. While watching TV, I washed the sheets. I put them back on the bed directly from the dryer, and crawled in while they were still warm.
  17. I kissed my husband goodnight.
  18. The cat settled in and began to purr.

My life is overflowing with joy.

It just depends on how you define joy.