12/30/2015 05:26 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

It Sucks to Be a Mom

We say that being a mom is the most beautiful, powerful thing a woman can do. We say that being a mom is amazing and you become overfilled with joy immediately. Sometimes though, being a mom is tough. It's messy. It's exhausting. It's downright annoying.


Society tells us that we have to LOVE being a mother every second of every day or we are terrible and selfish. Society tells us that we have to take care of the house, the kids, and the significant other; have career goals and a personal life; and we have to be happy about that 24/7 or we are bad, rotten mothers.

Well I call, "BS!"

Wanting a clean house and a hot cup of coffee is not selfish, it's normal. Wanting to sleep past 5 a.m. on the weekends and shower daily is not frivolous luxury, it is a simple pleasure that people without kids take for granted. Wanting a career should not be a requirement, but a passion. I want to work and have professional goals, but I don't want to HAVE to work in order to be deemed a successful parent.


Yes, the perks of motherhood outweigh the hassles, but maybe we should ALL feel comfortable enough to share the hard parts so women in general don't feel guilty for wanting some of life's previous conveniences -- there is enough pressure on mothers as is.

"Breastfeed for at least a year. Breast is best. Oh, but don't breastfeed in public, I'm uncomfortable seeing it and it needs to only be done in the privacy of your own home."

"You still let your toddler sleep in your bed? How is he ever going to survive without you."

"Tummy time. Baby wear. Let them be little. Organic everything forever."

"Be 100 percent perfectly put together 100 percent of the time; no exceptions."

Can we all just take a breath, please?


I'm a mom who loves her child more than anything in this world, but I also miss simpler times, and it's okay that I feel that way. It's okay if you feel that way too. You're not a terrible mom and you should not feel guilty. In fact, you are amazing, and you freaking rock.

Share your not-so-glamorous mommy moments in the comments below. Hashtag your public photos on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook with #allmomsrule and @mommymyway so I can see them, love them and share them. <3

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