11/16/2012 08:18 am ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

Having Trouble Changing Your Life? Here's Why

When you're trying to change your life -- for example, get new results like more money, a better career, better health, happier relationships, and so forth -- what you're really trying to do is create a new reality.

So let's illustrate that by saying you want to go from your current reality to a new reality.

The funny thing about reality, though, is that all reality is perceived reality. Another way of saying that is perception is reality to the perceiver.

For example, let's say you are a diehard Boston Red Sox fan, and you're watching the Red Sox play the Yankees with a diehard New York Yankees fan. (I have no idea why you're in the same room with that person, but still.) Are you and your friend going to see the same game?

The answer is, of course, yes and no.

Yes, you are watching the same set of circumstances that occur on the field -- a guy on one team gets a hit, someone on the other team strikes out, etc.

But no, you are not watching the same game at all -- because one of you will celebrate whenever "your" team gets a hit, while the other one will moan in pain! One of you will high-five your friends (who also root for "your" team) when "your" team wins, while the other one will mope around for days because "their" team lost.

That's why perception is reality to the perceiver.

Take-Action Challenge:

This week, notice when something or someone bothers you. It could be a coworker, a family member, or just something about life in general.

When you catch ask yourself being upset or bothered, ask yourself: "Is there another way I could see this situation?"

Then see if you can change your perception of the situation and experience the whole thing differently.

I believe in you!

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Noah St. John is the inventor of Afformations and bestselling author of The Secret Code of Success: 7 Hidden Steps to More Wealth and Happiness (HarperCollins).

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