The ultimate marriage...what does that mean to you? Does it conjure up visions of romance and amazing sex? For many of my clients (and myself too) the definition of the ultimate marriage includes those things but mainly consists of two partners having a sense and presence of deep and enduring love -- the kind that inspires others by expanding their perceptions of what's possible. It's that couple that you can't help noticing and watching and think, "Oh, I so want that". Not because of what they may be doing at the time, but instead because of the amazing energy they have and exude.
Well in order to get "that", you need to first grow and evolve in ways that help you reach the same level required to match "that". In other words, to reach for something great you have to be great. Essentially, however, you are already great -- it's just that you aren't aware of or have experienced that truth yet. At least in a non-egoic way anyway (non-egoic truth is authentic -- egoic truth is not).
So how does one become aware of and experience their greatness so that they may then experience this uniquely fulfilling type of marriage? With homework of course -- personal growth homework to be exact. Ironically, the test is given at the onset and all that is required to pass this test is to do the homework. Or at least a genuine willingness and effort to do it.
So are you ready and willing? If so, here are your assignments:
- Heal Your Wounds. We all have wounds that affect how we behave and interact within relationships - especially love-based committed ones. Some people may require a little bit of help to discover these wounds. Help is available through counseling, yet interestingly enough the information may be right under your nose. Being in a relationship is like being in a classroom and it's likely that your ex-partner(s) have been the teachers who have pointed out those wounds. Some of us carry many wounds but it's not necessary to absolutely heal ALL of them -- just the ones that are directly impacting you and your next marriage. However it is essential to continue working on healing whichever wounds "come up" during the marriage as well.
Having the ultimate marriage is entirely possible. Once your heart and soul is awakened to that fact, there will be no stopping you.
Pamela works one-on-one with her clients to empower, heal and transform so they may reach their goals of having a loving, joyful and emotionally fulfilling relationship. To find more about Pamela and her services, visit www.PassageToInnerJoy.com