04/02/2008 04:33 pm ET Updated Nov 17, 2011

14 Ways To Stop Obsessing About Your Weight

1. Volunteer at a food-oriented charity: a soup kitchen, a food pantry.

2. Volunteer at a non-food-oriented charity helping people with problems bigger than weight: a kids' cancer ward, for instance, or a hospice.

3. Donate your scale and all your diet books to Goodwill.

4. Try on every single piece of clothing in your wardrobe and get rid of everything that doesn't fit and look good right this very minute.

5. Plant an organic vegetable garden - hard exercise and healthier food, all in one.

6. Find a man who worships your body just the way it is.

7. Forget the picture of Kate Moss: Put an attractive picture of you on the refrigerator.

8. Hire a professional to take a gorgeous naked picture of you.

9. Get rid of all magazines that make you feel less than wonderful about your body.

10. If your weight was perfect, what other problems would you still have? Make a list and set about solving those.

11. Make a list of all the things that are good about weighing what you do: You get to eat cookies with impunity, for instance, or you have an awesome collection of size 14s. Emphasize the positive.

12. If there are no positives and your weight is truly your biggest problem and you can't stop obsessing about how miserable you are, then you need to finally and truly commit to the kind of total life change that helps you take off the weight - and be willing to embrace the pain that goes along with that.

13. Know that most diets are unsuccessful, that even when you lose weight 90 percent of the time you'll regain it, and that you may be wasting a lot of time and energy on an impossible pursuit.

14. Exercise for at least 20 minutes three times a week. Studies show that women who exercise feel better about their bodies no matter what they weigh.

From 1000 Ways To Be A Slightly Better Woman, a BookSense Notable pick for April, by Pamela Redmond Satran, published by Stewart, Tabori & Chang. Satran's website is