06/02/2014 10:19 am ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

Gratitude for "Stubborn Tenacity"

My husband and I are coming up on our anniversary and every year we say a toast to "stubborn tenacity."

Stubborn tenacity is the determination to love your spouse so deeply that you become unflappable when there's a problem and yes, even grateful for it. It's the determination to see an obstacle as nothing more than a clue that will help you unearth even deeper love.

When you bungle love -- which we all do from time to time -- your stubborn tenacity will remind you to appreciate the undaunted fighter that you are and to prize your well-intentioned, indomitable heart.

Stubborn tenacity is never mentioned in wedding vows, but I have come to realize it should be the most important vow a couple ever makes.

What is your modus operandi when you face an obstacle with your spouse? Do you have stubborn tenacity?

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