12/15/2014 03:46 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

Don't Be Typical


I'm really not sure how it took so long to reference Bob Goff's infamous Love Does book but I couldn't wait a day longer. Earlier today I was skimming through his book and came across some of the notes I made in it a few months back. The words were so on point that I had to reach out to him. So, I did just that and sent him an email shortly before writing this. The excerpt below is what really got me:

I don't think anyone aims to be typical, really. Most people even vow to themselves some time in high school or college not to be typical. But still, they just kind of loop back to it somehow. Like the circular rails of a train at an amusement park, the scripts we know around a brand of security, of predictability, of safety, for us. But the problem is, they only take us to where we've already been. They loop us back to places where we were made to go.

What makes this so relatable is the truth found behind these words. I know this because when I read this some time ago, I knew that was how I looked. A few years ago, I fell into this same category. I was working at a job I hated but there was nothing I was willing to do to stop it. Even after months of writing down what I wanted to do and where I wanted to be, I still woke up every day and went to that job. There were other things I wanted to change as well -- my lifestyle, some relationships, how I spent my free time, where my money was going and much more.

Riding on the amusement ride loop was a very real thing for me and scared me more than I was willing to admit. After much thought, I concluded that most people don't get off for two big reasons: Comfort and fear. When the comfort of staying on outweighs the fear of getting off well then, you know where you will end up. On the contrary, when the fear of not getting off outweighs the comfort of staying on then you know you what to do. However, just coming to this conclusion doesn't mean everything is going to be peachy. Remember that post a few weeks back about If? Yeah, usually when you make this move you come face to face with If. Don't be unprepared.

Let's fast forward a few years to where I am now. I'm currently about to end the loop because the fear of not doing has outweighed the comfort. There is something that I want to let you all in on that may surprise you: I have been thinking about that comfort a lot. The freedom I once had with a well-paying job is temporarily gone. Choices I make financially now are under much more scrutiny. Steps I take have to be much more planned out. I catch myself thinking about the ignorance I allowed myself to live in when it came to some of the choices mentioned above. In some sense, money wasn't a real issue and I allowed myself to be careless at times. If it weren't for me making such a drastic move in my life, I would have to take a step back and reevaluate. One thing I must add, while I do think about the comfort, I know with utmost certainty that the choice I'm making is the right one. This feeling gives me more comfort than anything else.

In the words of Bob Goff, I'd like to leave you all with this:


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