When we plan our projects we often think of all the resources we need to make it work: the financial resources, the people, the time we will be investing in each stage and the results we want to obtain. But almost always an essential element escapes us. An element that gives another dimension to our work, to our life. We don't include in the equation our emotions.
We all have different ways of reacting when we experience triumph, defeat, and obstacles, and very few of us know yet how our emotional cycles work. And that's how over and over we are victims of our emotions in an unconscious way. And suddenly we find our self saying phrases like: "I shouldn't have gotten into this project," "nothing I do goes well," "what a stressful situation," "this is too much for me," "I'm alone with all of this."
And we ask ourselves, "What happened? At the beginning everything had such a potential for success?!" And of course it had the potential, and it still has it. The thing is that you didn't think of planning one of the most important elements: How do you want to feel while developing your project? Do you want to feel joyful? satisfied? vital? creative? Do you want to go through it from a place of inner calm when you will be facing the storm of obstacles that every project brings? Or do you want to repeat the patterns of stress that take you always to that emotional extreme? You decide.
To define how do we want to feel doing an activity marks a big change in any process. It gives us a stable base and a a clear north to navigate the current even when the waters get a bit agitated. Not to lose the focus on this can really make a difference between a successful project (that makes us happy) or a failed project which happens either because we didn't achieve our goals or because we had a very bad time achieving them.
It's not about not feeling uncomfortable negative emotions, but it's more about not staying in that emotional place too long, because the emotional goal is clear. And this clarity serves us as fuel to keep moving forward.
Emotions change our perception of situations. When you know how you want to feel, you stop being a prisoner of your emotional habits, and of the distorted perception you have of reality because of them.
I invite you to ask yourself every day first thing in the morning, how do you want to feel. I have been practice this for about two years and it has brought great quality to my life. It allows me to preserve for longer time this calm state of inner peace that I get into during the morning meditation.
Remember that if you don't do, if you don't act, there won't be any result. So start from now and you will see how your life starts to change. The quality of each moment will improve and you will feel happier and fulfilled. And when the hard moment comes you will have a more clear north.
Please share your experience with this exercise on the comments below. I would love to know how it went.
Rakel Sosa has been practicing and teaching Rajadhiraja Yoga for 20 years and was trained by Master Healer David Elliott as a Pranayama Breathwork healer. She has been working in private and group sessions in Germany, France, Italy, Switzerland, United States and Venezuela since 2010. She is the co-author of Blooming Together, an Audio Pregnancy Program designed to enhance the well being of babies and expectant mothers. Rakel earned a master's degree in Communication from The Sorbonne University in Paris. She worked as a journalist for 11 years for Radio France International covering social and political issues around the world. Today as a filmmaker and healer she uses her professional skills for promoting self-realization and well-being.