07/21/2010 06:13 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

3 Tips for Buying and Wearing Fabulous "Hot Mogul" Shoes

"A pair of shoes can change your life. Just ask Cinderella" - Unknown

I wasn't always, what my husband lovingly refers to as, a shoe whore. I can't even remember when shoes became important to me. I never really thought about them in college; I was tall, so I rarely wore high heels. I was much more concerned with shoes that would allow me to dance into the wee hours of the morning. I lived in my Soffe shorts and cotton jerseys with all forms of U of F, Florida, Gators emblazoned upon them.

"Three inch stilettos are not for the drunk." - Sarah Ivens

I do remember, sometime after college, building an outfit around a pair of buttery Nine West pumps and casually mentioning to a friend, "Many times my outfit starts with my shoes." However, it wasn't until I began making a little more money that I discovered that magical dizziness called the Shoe High.

"I still have my feet on the ground, I just wear better shoes." - Oprah Winfrey

I even have a chapter in my new book called "When Is a Shoe Not a Shoe: You Are What You Stand On". When I'm speaking at an event, many times women will notice my shoes and ask "How do you walk in those all day?". Here are three of my best tips for wearing fabulous "Hot Mogul" (a.k.a. Kick-ass) shoes without killing your feet.

1. Stilettos, Wedges and Platforms, oh my! Selection for occasion, is important. Consider: if you will be on your feet all day, you'll definitely want wedges or platforms. Anything else: I call these my limousine shoes, because you should only wear them when you are getting in and out of a limo and posing or perching, not dancing and definitely not walking very far.

2. Size does matter. Buy at least 1/2 size up. This gives you room for Tip # 3 (see below) and always go shoe shopping at the end of the day, after you've been upright, on your feet and walking around for hours, this is when your feet are the most swollen. If you must purchase a pair of shoes in the morning, make sure to try them on before bed and do a few laps on your area rugs, before tackling the outside world You may find that your feet have grown and you will still be able to take them back and get a better size.

3. Gellin Like Magellan. Two words. Gel Inserts. Get you some. In fact, get you some in lots of different shapes and sizes, because it's not so much that the gel inserts are magical, although after many hours in these:


Gellin' just might make you feel all tingly. It's the change in pressure points. Taking gel inserts in and out over the course of a long day, hence changing the pressure points on your feet will bring relief and many more hours of Hot Mogul-licious shoe-wearing time.

I just looked up the official (urban dictionary) definition of "gellin"

In addition to the accurate and humorous examples of how to use this word in a sentence, definition # 2 has a long list of great rhyming words for rapping about gellin, like this little ditty I just made up on the fly. Yo, check it:

"Whether you're an author that's best sellin'
Or you used to be a felon
Take my advice, cuz I be foretellin'
Ignore my tips and you just might be resellin'
Your Choos & your Louboutins, excuse my misspellin'
Get yo aching dogs to the store and pick you up some Dr. Scholl's
and we be gellin' yeiah
Together, y'all yeiah yeiah
Everybody's gellin' yeiah
Happy Feet = World Peace, y'all"

It's way past my bedtime, can you tell?

So, what about you? What are your favorite shoes? Post a picture! What are your best tips for comfy toes? Send me your rap song about shoes.

Peace Out.