08/03/2012 04:23 pm ET Updated Feb 02, 2016

Adam and Eve: A Rational Argument Against Gay Marriage?

We are told by some that "God made Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve." We are also told that because God made Adam and Eve, this somehow means it is "God's will" that marriage is only between one man and one woman. Unfortunately for those who argue this, this concept is highly selective, illogical reasoning that ignores the rest of Scripture and the message of Christ.

I grew up in a fundamental, independent Baptist church, school, and home, and even graduated from the nation's most conservative Christian colleges (Pensacola Christian College and Liberty University). I was taught that the Bible is the final authority on every matter, and naturally I grew up believing everything I was taught as the "gospel truth." There was no questioning it because "that's what the Bible says," or so I thought. Despite being told over and over again throughout my childhood that gay people "make God sick," despite being raised in a conservative Christian home that constantly condemned gay people, despite being sheltered from the "influences of the world," guess what ... I am gay. I never chose to be gay and have never been attracted to the opposite sex. It wasn't until my service in the Marine Corps where I began to accept the way God made me and I began to question what I had been so adamantly taught.

It's quite revealing to study what the Bible really does and, more importantly, what it doesn't say. It's even more revealing when you actually use historical context to interpret it. Opponents of marriage equality continue to argue that because God made Adam and Eve in the creation story, somehow, it is "God's will" that marriage is only between one man and one woman. Never mind that the creation story never says anything about the word marriage or even attempts to define it. They choose to use selective reasoning and try to make this story say something that it simply never says.

Scripture never "defines" marriage as only between one man and one woman. Rather, it repeatedly refers to examples of marriages that could be used to define it much differently. Yes, these same folks choose to only consider the story of Adam and Eve's creation for their logic and "Biblical definition of marriage" because it fits their worldview and the way they want marriage to be defined. However, using this same foolish logic, it could just as well be argued that incestuous relationships are "God's will." After all, God only made "one man and one woman." How do you think Adam and Eve's family were fruitful and multiplied? The Scripture also repeatedly says that God not only condoned but blessed the marriages of men with multiple wives, including a whole bunch of concubines to go with it. I guess that means that it is "God's will" that we do the same and we should be advocating polygamy? This argument would be just as ridiculous to so-called "traditional marriage" advocates as their argument is to marriage equality folks. The ridiculous lengths that this line of reasoning can go are limitless. Point being, stop taking select verses and trying to define something as "God's will" while ignoring the rest of Scripture.

In reality, the folks who use this reasoning are modern day Pharisees, equal to the religious majority of Christ's day who were more concerned about maintaining the status quo, following archaic religious laws, and proclaiming their own self-righteousness than they were with the well-being of other people. Christ's message was something quite different. He was more concerned with society's outcasts then he was with religious laws. In fact, His message was starkly different and revolved around the way that we treat others. It's funny how those who are so focused on condemning gay people claim to follow a Man who never said anything on the subject. They are often more concerned with trying to make modern society conform to the religious laws of the Old Testament that the Pharisees followed then they are with following Christ and His example.

The influence of these modern day Pharisees is dramatic. Because of their logic, we continue to deny same-sex couples equal protection under the law in a nation whose constitution is supposed to guarantee such things. Same-sex couples that are legally married in states that permit it are denied federal recognition of that marriage and the numerous rights, responsibilities, and protections that come with it. Widely ranging from things like health care to survivor benefits, the impact of this faulty logic is far reaching in the lives of thousands of gay American citizens.

It's past time that this inequality ends. As the federal trial court in Connecticut just said in a case challenging DOMA's definition of marriage, "no conceivable rational basis exists for the provision." In my humble opinion, this would include a story about Adam and Eve.