05/09/2012 03:54 pm ET Updated Jul 09, 2012

Open Letter on Race Relations Follow-Up

Since the publishing of my open letter to the LGBT community on race relations in Boystown, there have been some intriguing takes on the matter. Readers have thanked me for coming forward about my personal experiences. Other readers have shunned the matter and my experience as just another nondescript problem, while others have inferred notions and conclusions that weren't even included in my open letter. However, above all, readers are discussing the letter among those who agree and disagree, which is the only way a topic such as race relations will take legs.

I want to address certain trending comments and topics by readers about my open letter to the LGBT community on race relations in Boysotwn. I want to address the issue of higher crime rates in Lakeview (the neighborhood that Boystown is located) and those rates being correlated with African American youth who hang out in the area. I don't agree with any criminal activity of the sort no matter who it is coming from and who the victim of such activity is. I can't stand loitering myself, and do feel that everyone should have somewhere to go. But I can't help but ask those same readers who brought up criminal activity and African American youth, "What does this have to do with me and my personal experiences in Boystown?" I don't loiter. When I go to Boystown, I'm usually either covering an event, attending a charity meeting, or just meeting up with friends for a cocktail. So to bring up such a topic -- one that is completely not related to my personal experiences -- is grouping a whole community of people into one, which is quite questionable.

Another trending topic among readers is sexual attraction based on race in the LGBT community. Certain readers have expressed the notion that it's not racist if certain minority or non-minority groups aren't attracted to you. Once again, I'm not sure where or how those readers inferred such a topic since I never even touched on sexual attraction and race in the LGBT community -- or how it even relates back to my open letter. However, I will address the issue, since it is a trending topic. Personally, my dating life truly reflects the United Nations. I've never had an issue navigating the dating scene with men who are from varying races, ethnicities and nationalities. I was raised around an array of people from varying everything, and I still maintain a heterogeneous social circle, which perhaps points to why my dating life is across the board. People are attracted to whoever they are attracted to, but if you are discriminating your dating life based on race, I do challenge you to think past the surface and think why that is the case; and that goes for both minorities and non-minorities.

I don't hate Boystown. I support a lot of the businesses, professionals and organizations that are centered in Boystown. I've volunteered and raised money for Equality Illinois and Center on Halsted. I've promoted, covered and shared with listeners on my weekly radio show on 89.5fm about events going on at Minibar and other neighboring places. My problem is with the few backwards, small-minded people who have verbalized and carried-out hate such as racism. I don't navigate through the world thinking, "Oh my God, I'm this gay, black man in a white dominated world." I wasn't bred in such a way and I'd probably die of a heart attack by the time I turned 30. But when certain heated questionable circumstances and/or comments occur that are very race heavy, it does trigger one to think about one's label at the time. The mere fact that racist, hateful behavior and comments have happened more than once warrants a discussion, since the LGBT community is supposed to be a welcoming one.

I didn't write the open letter with or for a specific audience and demographic in mind. I didn't write the open letter for LGBT members of color. I didn't write the open letter for non-minority LGBT members or any other community for that matter nor do I speak on behalf of all LGBT minorities. I wrote the open letter for myself.