11/23/2014 11:39 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

Lights Go on Part XXXV -- For Mom

it's always been easier to describe my relationship with my dad
man to man
even when i was a child
my mother was more complicated

beautifully so
i had to discover her
my dad would answer questions
my mom would welcome my attention
a man and a woman

even then

mom always said
when you notice something special 

about someone

tell them

even if they're a stranger

it'll make their day

putting her advice to use
has brought about
some of the most memorable moments in my life

when I became interested in girls

mom's advice was as creamy as her voice

girls like it when

you open the door for them

you seat them first

you stand when they stand

but most of all when

you're present

you listen

you're a safe place

thank you mom

i am grateful for you

you always told the best jokes too

click here 
and I'll tell 
one of 
Mom's jokes


if you'd like for me to read this to you, click here