08/29/2013 09:35 pm ET Updated Feb 02, 2016

Drag and Music

An interesting side effect of being married to a Drag Queen is how closely drag and music are tied together anymore. If I hear a song for the very first time at a drag show that song will always be tied to that performance when ever I hear it. This happens quite often since I live in what I like to call the Drag Mecca of the country, Columbus Ohio.

There are several Drag Queens in Columbus, Ohio that always seem to discover a new song before the rest of the general public. One being Nina West, I can't tell you how many songs I hear on the radio that will be eternally tied to a performance of hers. One in particular that always brings a smile to my face is Florence + the Machine's "Dog Days Are Over." The first time I heard this song was at Nina's Halloween Show. She performed this song wearing a Scooby Doo costume and I immediately fell in love with not only the song but the performance as well. So now when ever I hear this song I think of Nina. Even if I see the official song video I have visions of Nina's performance.

It goes with out saying there are several songs I can't hear with out thinking of the # 1 Drag Queen in my life, Vivian. She has a way of putting a spin on songs that in my mind will always be hers no matter how many other Queens I see perform the song. There are too many songs to list for Vivian but one that I will that I always think of Vivian doing is Pussy Cat Dolls' "Don't Cha." The reason Vivian always comes to mind is she performed this song as an old lady with sagging breasts and it was funny as hell.

The other way music and drag is tied to each other for me is when every I hear a song that I have seen performed several times by the same queen. When I hear these songs I immediately try to connect what Drag Queen performs that song. This happened the other night while Vivian and I were watching So You Think You Can Dance. A song came on we have seen performed several times, "Sexy Silk" by Jessie J and we both blurted out who we thought was the Queen who "owns" that song. Vivian said Anisa Love, I said Virginia West and I was right, which when it comes to music is the norm.

For me it is funny how some thing that can bring me so much frustration from time to time, Drag, can be tied to some thing I love deeply, music. I guess it's that love of music that allows me navigate the turbulent waters of Drag.

This post originally appeared on Diary of a Drag Queen's Husband.