childless

What if you're in a serious relationship -- perhaps thinking about marriage -- and your partner is no-room-for-negotiation sure that s/he never wants children. Perhaps you've been on the procreation fence yourself.

Here's the ugly truth: We suck at doing it all. The moment the doctor handed me my crying newborn, it all stopped. I was not just Janie. I was Janie, the Mother of Sullivan. I became a mom, and for a time, I didn't care about anything else but my kid.

When it comes to the "biological urge," it's time to shift our thinking to reflect what is real.

Babies are born from the womb. Maternity is born from the soul. There are many ways to mother.