choices
Don't just accept your "lot in life."
I encourage you to read each of the descriptions for the seven decision making styles. You will learn more about yourself, and you may begin to see your team members, coworkers, children, partners or spouse in a new light and appreciate the unique contributions they can each bring.
WHAT'S HAPPENING
Most of reality doesn't matter, but a few things -- in this case choices -- matter a huge amount. In other words, there is a very small number of choices that will determine the great majority of results.