GEVER TULLEY

TED WEEKENDS
Through the years, I've come to realize that fear is often a normal part of the parenting experience. If we don't learn to acknowledge and address it, our tendency to overprotect can actually hinder (and sometimes cripple) our children's development.
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Giving in to our own fears and taking over difficult or dangerous tasks sends them the message that they're incapable of accomplishing these things on their own. Children pick up on these messages when they're very young.
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We can offer an internal experience that can teach teens "mindsight skills"--ways of knowing their own inner sense of what is a good choice, that can also help them learn without shattering a leg.
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In any given day, I can find a thousand reasons to say, "Don't do that," from telling my child to stop playing with the jam packets in a restaurant to telling my husband not to use the last piece of toilet paper without replacing the roll. But I don't. I pick my battles. Because to dole out "No's" like playing cards can't be good for the soul.
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Not all kids are mature enough to handle power tools at eight years old but they may be able to when they're fifteen. Parents need to use their discretion and recognize the limits and abilities of their own children. While tinkering could be great for some kids it could be catastrophic for others.
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Paradoxically, in parents' well-intentioned attempts at protecting their children from harm, they actually leave them less prepared for the real dangers that your kids will face later in life. Exposure to what are for them risky experiences can build confidence, resilience, competence, respect, and responsibility.
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There were lots of moments when I wished someone were there to help me. But because there wasn't, I learned resourcefulness. I learned self-reliance. I learned that if I stayed calm and used my head, I could find my way through just about anything. These are lessons I carry with me to this day--and that have served me very well.
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Then comes what for most parents is the hard part - letting go and trusting that they will learn from their own mistakes, passions, uniqueness and psychological growing pains.
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What if the best way to help kids learn is to stop trying so hard to keep them safe? Hear popular TED speaker Gever Tulley's radical argument for letting kids play with power tools and other things that will make parents squirm.