06/10/2014 02:41 pm ET Updated Aug 10, 2014

Life's Challenges Are Here to Stay

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I've been told that life's tests are challenges that push us into our destiny. When we learn to handle ourselves positively in times of testing, we discover our purpose in life and become a better, stronger person. Some of the challenges that arrived in my life were: illness, unemployment, bad relationships and the loss of a loved one, just to name a few. I'm sure you have your own list. I can tell you that I wasn't very positive when they showed up. The sudden appearance of these challenges resembled the arrival of an unexpected guest, one who didn't call and simply showed up on the doorstep of my life, for the most part when I was relaxed and curled up in my "it's all about me" recliner. The only baggage they carried was a huge box labeled "handle with care -- fragile message inside."

In case you have experienced one of these unwelcomed visitors, you know that their length of stay can be indefinite. They can hang around for a month, a year or even a decade. They are here for the duration or until we finally "get it." "It" being the message that was in the box Challenge carried.

After I reeled back from the shock of my new visitor, I found that there is purpose in life's tests. It revealed to me the good, bad and ugly. Those flaws in my character that needed to be transformed to create a better me. Also the gifts and talents that were lying dormant, that could be developed to make a difference in someone else. Challenges come to stretch and to grow us. To prepare us for God's work. It's the reaching out to help your fellow brother, not about the "me, mine and nobody else matters" philosophy. It's about surrendering some of your time and pleasures to help another person achieve a more pleasurable life.

I've discovered in my personal challenges that transformation was necessary to reach my destiny and to realize my purpose in life. Funny thing about destiny: It's like a point in time that constantly moves. When you think you've arrived at your goal, more challenges appear to reveal something new about yourself that needs to be transformed again. Also, it doesn't matter how old you are, there are plenty of challenges that will adjust to your age group. Abundant opportunities exist to aid you to transform from the old to the new. Prayer groups, meditation, books, videos, support groups are very accessible. You will find that you are not the only one in the struggle.

We must be flexible and adapt to the new demands of transformation and move forward. Reinvent, recreate, and restart. Whatever it takes, don't give up. Take the medicine, change the diet, do the walking. Learn to meditate. Just don't give up. Stay on the road toward your goal, mission, and task. KEEP ON MOVING. It all works together for your good. Keep yourself motivated, no matter what! Eventually you will know that when challenges knock on your front door, two new guests will be standing alongside. They are new possibilities and greater experiences. Then you will put down the welcome mat because you believe that it will all work out for your good!