This is a part one of a three-part series.
When it comes to making excuses, I have found most are driven by three fears. Overcoming those fears starts with awareness and willingness to be courageously honest with yourself. That is probably the hardest step. The challenge, once you have taken that first step, is to continue the journey.
You'll face these fears for a time as they are rooted (often deeply) into our habitual excuses and go-to safe zones. The more you take action on them, challenge them, and engage these simple tools, the less resistance you will have long term.Fear #1: Fear of judgment This fear is very rooted in the desire to be accepted. Humans are wired to be a part of a tribe for survival. Sometimes this fear comes from parents who had high expectations or were unavailable. The fear looks like:
- What makes me special?
- Why would someone chose me?
- My ideas, visions, and dreams are stupid.
- I'm a fraud.
- I'm not ___ enough.
- What if it doesn't work?
- It can't work. Why would it work?
These judgments often come from our own self and rarely allow us to take the idea or vision to fruition. If we are courageous enough to share it with someone close to us, their own fear and the energy of our fear leads them to cast doubts, further halting momentum.
Solution: Stand with both feet pressing into the floor. Repeat your fear. Ask yourself, "What if that is not true?" Keep asking until you have nothing left. In that space of emptiness, breathe deeply, raise your hands up towards the ceiling, and repeat "I am here now" three times. Then decide what is one small thing you can do (inspired action) immediately to get closer to that vision. Do it.
You have a unique expression and purpose. The world is waiting for you to show up and reveal yourself. Not everyone will resonate with you. Some will be completely out of sync, in fact. That's okay. You're not here to serve all 7 billion people of the world. Even if you only serve 1/10 of 1 percent, that's a lot. Start looking for the people who connect to your your purpose and passion. That is where the magic happens.
Be sure to check out parts two and three to learn the other fears and their solutions.
Wendy Reese is a lifestyle strategist specializing in being whole. Would you like to learn more about the four core archetypes that keep you stuck in fear or serve as a dream team through the fear? Check this out!