05/20/2013 04:03 pm ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

Tips to Rock Yo Mama Self

Wendy Silvers


There are no limits to the power of the mama. Mother energy is tender, fierce and unceasing. Think of Mother Nature. Today, we are redefining what Mama Power means.

You know that you don't have to be a mama to rock yo mama self, right? In certain cultures, we call little girls, "mama." Do you know that there are many ways to rock yo mama self -- rockin mama, hot mama, sassy mama, cool mama, sexy mama, stay-at-home mama, work-at-home mama, mamapreneur, meditating mama, attachment parenting mama, peace mama, single mama, married mama, straight mama, gay mama, the ways are endless, there's not one way. However you do it, one thing's for sure: The Mamas I've talked with and counseled are about having freedom over their own bodies and good lives and want all the women and children to be safe, fed, housed, clothed, loved, educated and celebrated!

How do we do this? It starts with each of us, One heart, one person, one family, one teacher, one politician, one community at a time 'til it builds and becomes undeniable. We incorporate compassionate parenting and communication into our lives on a daily basis. We look inside ourselves for the places within us that feel stuck and do our own inner work rather than pointing fingers at others. We celebrate ourselves. Dance naked, if we want to. Hug a tree. Continue our education, get a degree, maybe a PhD, a JD, or not. Work full-time, part-time, or stay at home. Be devoted to our children's and our well-being. Give someone something without them knowing it's from us. Begin to focus on what we appreciate in our children and loved ones rather than focus on what we don't. Appreciate ourselves for all we do. Keep our minds filled with the good that's all around by surrounding ourselves with people, music and entertainment that lifts us up. Be honest with ourselves and our sisters. Live authentically.

Turn off the news. Demand clean water, clean food, clean air, safe schools, by contacting our elected representatives. Support an organization that is aligned with what you believe in. Join the Million Mamas Movement.
Support the teaching of compassionate parenting in our neighborhoods. Make a difference by being different. Dare to bring loving mindfulness to all you do. Cultivate a compassionate heart. I practice and teach compassionate parenting and the 4 Pathways to Cultivate the Compassionate Heart of the Mother. Let's support all mamas in being the powerhouses that they are, providing training to those who want it, rather than knock them down. Let's make our world a place where all children truly are safe, fed, housed, clothed, loved, educated and celebrated. We address one thing, and, as we do, we begin to address the others. And, remember to give thanks to the papas, for without the papas, there would be no mamas. We need to honor those visionary men who recognize that our society is in dire need of the Mother energy to restore the imbalance the patriarchal power over pattern that has been in charge created.

A mother will go to any length to keep her children safe. Think Angelina Jolie -- she took a huge and radical step by having a double mastectomy surgery so that her children will have a mama as they grow up. Let's stop judging her and acknowledge her for using her celebrity for good. She brought awareness to the general public about the BRC1 test. Think 2011 Nobel Peace Laureate Leymah Gbowee -- she galvanized the Muslim and Catholic women of Liberia to bring peace to Liberia and oust despot Charles Taylor. I had the honor of spending the day with Leymah Gbowee and she is one of my she-ros for sure. Think Maria Belon -- her experience with the 2004 Tsunami was made into a movie, The Impossible. And, there are many more mamas, living on your street, in your neighborhood, who will go to great lengths for their children or the children they love.

We are evolving family-hood through love, compassion in action and empathy. The next time you see a mama, smile at her. See if there are any mamas or papas that need your help. What children need help? Where can you lend a hand? Or a donation?

Your voice matters, you matter. Never ever underestimate how your being here makes a difference in someone's life. Activate that unstoppable power within you that says I'm here, I have a right to be here, I matter and I've got things to say! And if you need someone in your corner cheering you on, you just call on me. So, Rock on! Because I know, absolutely, that you are here on purpose, with purpose and that when we mobilize the mamas, we transform the world!

To continue this conversation, join Wendy on June 8 in Los Angeles.