Woman drinking (14ymedio)
14yMEDIO, Yoani Sanchez, Havana, 22 August 2014 -- A woman on national television said that her husband "helps" her with some household chores. To many, the phrase may sound like the highest aspiration of every woman. Another lady asserts that her husband behaves like a "Federated man," an allusion to the Federation of Cuban Women (FMC), which today is celebrating its 54th anniversary. As for me, on this side of the screen, I feel sorry for them in the face of such meekness. Instead of the urgent demands they should mention, all I hear is this appreciation directed to a power as manly as it is deaf.
It's not about "helping" to wash a plate or watch the kids, nor tiny illusory gender quotas that hide so much discrimination like a slap. The problem is that economic and political power remains mainly in masculine hands. What percentage of car owners are women? How many acres of land are owned or leased by women. How many Cuban ambassadors on missions abroad wear skirts? Can anyone recite the number of men who request paternity leave to take care of their newborns? How many young men are stopped by the police each day to warn them they can't walk with a tourist? Who mostly attends the parent meetings at the schools?
Please, don't try to "put us to sleep" with figures in the style of, "65 percent of our cadres and 50 percent of our grassroots leaders are women." The only thing this statistic means is that more responsibility falls on our shoulders, which means neither a high decision-making level nor greater rights. At least such a triumphalist phrase clarifies that there are "grassroots leaders," because we know that decisions at the highest level are made by men who grew up under the precepts that we women are beautiful ornaments to have at hand... always and as long as we keep our mouths shut.
I feel sorry for the docile and timid feminist movement that exists in my country. Ashamed for those ladies with their ridiculous necklaces and abundant makeup who appear in the official media to tell us that "the Cuban woman has been the greatest ally of the Revolution." Words spoken at the same moment when a company director is sexually harassing his secretary, when a beaten woman can't get a restraining order against her abusive husband, when a policeman tells the victim of a sexual assault, "Well, with that skirt you're wearing..." and the government recruits shock troops for an act of repudiation against the Ladies in White.
Women are the sector of the population that has the most reason to shout their displeasure. Because half a century after the founding of the caricature of an organization that is the Federation of Cuban Women, we are neither more free, nor more powerful, nor even more independent.