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'Honor Killings' Have Morphed Into 'Honor Suicides' in Turkey

First Posted: 04/27/09 06:12 AM ET Updated: 05/25/11 02:10 PM ET

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When Elif's father told her she had to kill herself in order to spare him from a prison sentence for her murder, she considered it long and hard. "I loved my father so much, I was ready to commit suicide for him even though I hadn't done anything wrong," the 18-year-old said. "But I just couldn't go through with it. I love life too much."

All Elif had done was simply decline the offer of an arranged marriage with an older man, telling her parents she wanted to continue her education. That act of disobedience was seen as bringing dishonour on her whole family - a crime punishable by death. "I managed to escape. When I was at school, a few girls I knew were killed by their families in the name of honour - one of them for simply receiving a text message from a boy," Elif said.

So-called "honour killings" in Turkey have reached record levels. According to government figures, there are more than 200 a year - half of all the murders committed in the country. Now, in a sinister twist, comes the emergence of "honour suicides". The growing phenomenon has been linked to reforms to Turkey's penal code in 2005. That introduced mandatory life sentences for honour killers, whereas in the past, killers could receive a reduced sentence claiming provocation. Soon after the law was passed, the numbers of female suicides started to rocket.

Elif has spent the past eight months on the run, living in hiding and in fear. Her uncles and other relatives are looking to hunt her down, for dishonour is seen as a stain that can only be cleansed by death. One of the women's shelters where Elif has stayed has been raided by armed family members.

Elif is from Batman, a grey, bleak town in the south-east of Turkey nicknamed "Suicide City". Three quarters of all suicides here are committed by women - nearly everywhere else in the world, men are three times more likely to kill themselves. "I think most of these suicide cases are forced. There are just too many of them, it's too suspicious. But they're almost impossible to investigate," said Mustafa Peker, Batman's chief prosecutor.

Wearing tight clothes or talking to a man who is not a relative is sometimes all it takes to blacken the family name. Mr Peker said women who are told to kill themselves are usually given one of three options - a noose, a gun or rat poison. They are then locked in a room until the job is done.

A woman's fate is usually decided during a "family council", when the extended family meets to discuss breaches of honour. In these meetings, it is agreed how the victim must be killed. If it is not to be a forced suicide, a killer is chosen. The youngest member of the family is often ordered to kill, in the belief they will be treated more leniently if caught.

Mehmet was 17 when he was handed a gun and told he would have to kill his stepmother and her lover. "I didn't want to do it. I was so young and so scared," he said. Mehmet ran away, but his family tracked him down and warned him his own life would be in danger if he refused to kill.

He shot dead his stepmother's lover, but his stepmother survived the attack. He was given a two-and-a-half- year prison sentence.

"There were many other 'honour killers' in prison and we were treated with respect, even by the prison guards," Mehmet said.

Most honour killings happen in the Kurdish region, a barren land ravaged by years of war and oppression. Rural communities here are ruled under a strict feudal, patriarchal system. But as Kurds have fled the fighting between separatist rebels and Turkey's government, the crime is spreading across the country into its cities and towns. According to a recent government report, there is now one honour killing a week in Istanbul.

"Families who move here are suddenly faced with modern, secular Turkey," said Vildan Yirmibesoglu, the head of Istanbul's department of human rights. "This clash of cultures is making the situation worse as the pressure on women to behave conservatively is become more acute. And of course there are more temptations."

Ms Yirmibesoglu believes that the entrenched belief in the notion of honour - at all levels of society - is impeding any progress. "Honour killings aren't always properly investigated because some police and prosecutors share the same views as the honour killers," she said. "For things to change, police, prosecutors and even judges need to be educated on gender equality."

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09:59 AM on 03/29/2009
Folks, you are wrong to accuse Islam of causing these 'honor killings' in Turkey.

In Islam , a marriage is NOT valid unless the woman consents to it. That means she has the power to REFUSE HER INTENDEE according to Islam. The Prophet Muhammad himself upheld this and ruled in favor of daughters in such instances.

In Islam, a husband cannot kill his wife if he thinks she committed adultery. He can activate a divorce process called Li`an in which he swears to God she has betrayed him. She can respond similiarly if she wishes, swearing to God she did not and her husband is lying. This too the Prophet Muhammad encouraged husband's to take if they suspect their wife committed adultery.

In Islam, a woman can talk to a man in public without fear of retribution from her family. The Quran discusses this.

Suicide and premeditated homicide are heinous sins in Islam. There is no obedience to anyone, even one's parents, if they order one to commit suicide or homicide. The Prophet Muhammad said this.

It is particularly misinformed and uninformed to jump to the conclusion that Islam is the cause of these killings.
12:12 AM on 03/30/2009
I agree.
This is all CULTURAL ideologies and certainly not a religious one. But it's always easy to blame Islam everytime something like this occurs in a Muslim country.
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10:32 AM on 03/28/2009
The idea that there is any honor in suicide or murder has got to go.
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09:33 AM on 03/28/2009
200 a year in a Muslim country? How horrible.
A British report says 100,000 women are burned in India for their dowries. Will that be reported too?
07:53 PM on 03/29/2009
didn't a british REPORT just REPORT that? LOL
05:24 AM on 03/28/2009
It is time to stop excusing the role Faith plays in Crime; Violent Discrimination, Child Abuse, and Murder. This is the age of REASON, the ENLIGHTENMENT; we need to leave the Dark Ages and its superstitions behind.
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01:50 AM on 03/28/2009
If anyone actually read the story, this is common in Kurd society. Give them their country already and let them establish a rule of law. Most Kurds would never allow this horrible practice.
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01:41 AM on 03/28/2009
Yet another reason that Turkey should not be allowed into the European Union.

Why they even applied to get in is beyond me -- except of course to get money out of them.
10:15 PM on 03/27/2009
From what I've read about honor killings, it's more a societal problem than a religious one because it happens in many indian (hindu) and middle eastern (muslim) communities. It's ingrained in these societies akin to something like "losing face" in east asian cultures. Deep shame can cause a family to be shunned which in turn can destroy it. Western societies have shed this tribal phenomenon so we can't relate to it.
I'm a woman and I am absolutely appalled a father or brother or uncle can kill a female family member so easily for something as trivial as a text message. Obviously the burden is on the females as they are treated as less than human.
Until these societies can eliminate this patriarchal custom, it will continue into the next century.
It truly is a human tragedy.
05:25 AM on 03/28/2009
India and the Middle East are Asian.
06:59 PM on 03/29/2009
I know. East Asia is Japan, Vietnam, Korea, etc. although some are part of southeast asia. Slightly different geographically and much different culturally from the "middle east asian" countries. I was making a distinction which you didn't seem to grasp.
08:47 PM on 03/27/2009
These people are no better than the Taliban.
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07:41 PM on 03/27/2009
I read this article several times and saw no reference to "Islam", "Arabic-Islamic cultures", "sharia law", "koranic verses" or even "organized religion". Why does every one of these articles elicit a knee jerk reaction from so many readers? To be clear, I don't set foot in church/temple/mosque; save your diatribes against organized religion; you're preaching to the choir. This is perhaps the ugliest news article I've read in a long, long time. As getsit posted below, the roots of this kind of behavior are "buried in the very dark ages" and I would agree, but we are still living in that dark age. The darkness now infects the species; not many are ready to grasp that yet and as we point fingers, the darkness grows. Islam has been the vehicle for the enlightenment of millions through many centuries; if Muslims want to bring about a real reawakening, they can begin by clearly separating themselves from patriarchal abuse of the feminine and of women. All Turkish Muslims, in particular, should condemn this behavior and root it out in their neighborhoods. Until women are treated as the equals of men world-wide, men will remain unbalanced and in darkness. The alternative to religion so many propose, a society guided by the "objective empiricism" of modern science would likely produce horrors that would make these seem quaint by comparison. Many serious scientists realize that their methodology has hit a dead end and are seeking a reawakening of their own.
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07:58 PM on 03/27/2009
across all history, religion and cultures, the one rule that rconsistently holds up is 'do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
08:48 PM on 03/27/2009
You left out the most important part of that philosophy:

"Unless you're doing it to a woman in which case she either deserves it or you have the right rto do it because you're a man."
05:27 AM on 03/28/2009
Too bad Religious people NEVER follow it.
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09:42 PM on 03/27/2009
I think the issue is that these things occur so often in Islamic countries. Like the 13 year old rape victim stoned to death in Somalia. As you say, these countries need to make it clear these things are not acceptable. Until they stop happening on the scale they do, then there will be criticism.
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11:18 PM on 03/27/2009
Very well stated. But when you bring up relative scale, we've moved beyond reflecting on a single story. The crimes and weaknesses of other cultures are always more obvious and we usually only know of them because our media has selected these stories and presented them to us, largely devoid of larger context. Secondly, the media presents the sensational and ignores what is quietly prevalent; I'm thinking of the stories about the family in Austria and now the one in Italy, which shock, as opposed to the daily horror of drunken "spousal abuse", which, somehow, does not. So, to properly evaluate the true extent of the psychic, physical, political, and economic oppression of women in two societies, you'd need to know about the average households, as well as what might be perceived as "cultural tendencies." Patriarchal dominance is more common in Islamic cultures, but it isn't foreign to Ireland, Italy or Greece. Pornography in many Western societies has become less sexual and more violent and sadistic and, with the Internet, much more prevalent, and while the upper class males in the Gulf States may be titillated by it, most Muslims in villages from Mali to Afghanistan would be profoundly disturbed by it. Your point is taken, but there is no culture where men don't have a lot of work to do in reconciling themselves with the feminine.
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06:40 PM on 03/27/2009
If the info below is true, then somehow if women could be organized more effectively worldwide things could change. It isn't just the honor killings, it is the disgusting enslavement of women for sex by their families either by imprisonment or by sale into prostitution.

According to Wikipedia: Are there more females than men in he world?
According to www.INED.fr The number of men and women in the world is roughly equal, though men hold a slight lead with 101 men for 100 women (in 2005). More precisely, out of 1,000 people, 503 are men (50.3%) and 497 are women (49.7%). For every 100 girls, 105 boys are born, but males have a higher risk of dying than females, both in childhood and at adult ages. So at a certain age, the numbers of men and women even out. In France this occurs at age 35 (in 2005). Beyond this age, women outnumber men and the numerical difference between the two sexes increases with age. In France, eight centenarians in ten are women (in 2005).
06:11 PM on 03/27/2009
Another example of why organized religions are dangerous. Islamic honor suicides, popes against condoms. You just couldn't make this stuff up.
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06:31 PM on 03/27/2009
also, popes against sorcery in emerging countries having problems w/ mur der based on accusations.. way to go, O infallible one...
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06:05 PM on 03/27/2009
Bravo for surfacing yet another disgusting vestige of faux religiosity. Would that we would evolve.
08:51 PM on 03/27/2009
This has nothing to do with religion. This is evidence of men's deep-seated hatred and fear of women. The men simply use religion as an excuse to commit these atrocities because they want to commit them. These men (and there are more than anyone wants to admit) all over the world HATE WOMEN!
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01:38 AM on 03/28/2009
They hate what they fear, thus degrade what they fear, to hide the fact that they fear it. They fear women because they fear, repress and kill the feminine within themselves. Cloaking hatred in religious garments in no way redeems their squalid egos, it only degrades religion. They hate Nature and what is natural, as well: strip mines, clear cut forests, poisoned water and air, slaughtered whales, butchered seals, on and on; and all rationalized one way or another because they worship their own petty reasoning and hate their own hearts. In the end, they hate and fear Life and worship Thanatos, Death. Thank you for these three posts.
05:29 AM on 03/28/2009
Women are every bit as responsible as men for passing these barbaric practices on. Women perform ALL female circumcisions. Get Real.
05:33 PM on 03/27/2009
Honor preserves and respects Life.
There is no honor in murder.
04:43 PM on 03/27/2009
insane...
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04:27 PM on 03/27/2009
Sometimes I wish stories like this were at the top of the page instead of the sensationalism that is usually there.

IF any of you read the other links as well, Iraq has become a nightmare for women. So much for "liberating" the people of Iraq. Can you imagine 3 or more women found every day, shot, strangled, beheaded, and stabbed to death in America and the police refused to do anything about it.

That is what is happening in Iraq right now and we wasted all those American lives and our treasure for these barbaric people? The entire population of Iraq isn't worth the life of a single American soldier when they have retreated to this level of barbarism. We managed to actually send Iraq back 700 years and now we allow and BACK the people who support the murder of young girls (some as young as 10 are being murdered under Sharia law) AND it is happening here in America as well.

This last year saw a half dozen that are the result of "honor" MURDERS right here in the United States.

Women had it better under Saddam which is one of those dirty little secrets the Bush/Cheney crime cabal didn't want you to know.
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05:46 PM on 03/28/2009
Yes, women did have it much better under Saddam because the country was secular. Same was true for Russia under communism. It is only when religion becomes a factor that women lose.