Madonna's Adoption Ruling Delayed, Son David Meets Biological Dad

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CELEAN JACOBSON | March 30, 2009 03:11 PM EST | AP

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U.S. singer Madonna with adopted son David Banda visiting the Mphandula Day Care Centre for orphans near Lilongwe, Malawi, Monday, March, 30, 2009. Madonna arrived in Malawi on Sunday in a bid to adopt a a 4-year-old girl as her second child from the southern African country. (AP Photo/Tsvangirayi Mukwazhi)

LILONGWE, Malawi — Madonna and her three children toured a day care center built by her charity Monday as critics slammed the star's attempt to adopt a second child from this poor African nation and a judge delayed a ruling in the case until Friday.

Some child advocacy groups say the 50-year-old pop star's plans to adopt a young Malawian girl have been fast-tracked because of Madonna's money and status. One accused her of acting like a rich "bully."

After spending about an hour in court Monday, Madonna swapped her high heels and formal skirt for camouflage trousers and big black boots for an outing into the hot, lush Malawian countryside.

Holding the hand of 3-year-old David, whose adoption from Malawi was finalized last year, the singer walked around the compound of the Mphandula child care center, about 30 miles (50 kilometers) from the capital.

Madonna also was accompanied by her 12-year-old daughter Lourdes and 8-year-old son Rocco _ who sported a mohawk haircut for his first visit to Malawi.

The center, which provides primary schooling and other child care to about 4,000 children, boasts neatly cut lawn, swings and slides, and freshly painted classrooms.

This was the first time the star had seen the day care center completed. On her last visit in 2007, construction had just started. Asked by reporters how she liked the progress made, Madonna gave a thumbs up.

In one room, Madonna tried her hand at basket-weaving under the watchful eye of a few local woman. David was given a cow-skin guitar as a gift, and he pretended to strum the strings.

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Meanwhile, a coalition of non-governmental organizations held a press conference in the capital, Lilongwe, criticizing the pop star's latest adoption application.

"We feel Madonna is behaving like a bully," said Undule Mwakusungula, chairman of the Human Rights Consultative Committee. "She has the money and the status to use her profile to manipulate, to fast-track the process."

Madonna's spokeswoman Liz Rosenberg in New York did not immediately return a call seeking comment Monday.

The girl Madonna is hoping to adopt is about 4 years old, according to a Malawian welfare official and another person involved in the proceedings who both confirmed an adoption application was under way. They spoke on condition of anonymity because the case is considered sensitive.

Monday's court roll listed only the child's name _ Chifundo James, which means "Mercy" in a local language. Her uncle, John Ngalande, has said she was turning 4 soon.

The girl's 18-year-old mother was unmarried and died soon after she was born, the uncle said. Her father is believed to be alive but has little contact with his daughter, he said.

The coalition's Mwakusungula told reporters that adoption should be the last resort and that children need to be taken care of by their own family.

"Mercy James is a child who has her extended close family members alive and we urge Madonna to assist the child from right here," a statement from the coalition said.

Mabvuto Bamusi, the coalition's national co-ordinator, said they were asking the court to uphold the country's laws and to "fully" assess Madonna's second adoption bid.

"Celebrities adopting children are merely taking advantages of weaknesses in our country," he said.

Malawian law is fuzzy on foreign adoptions. Regulations stipulate only that prospective parents undergo an 18- to 24-month assessment period in Malawi, a rule bent when Madonna was allowed to take David to London.

David's adoption was a trying process for the singer, who has said the storm of criticism hurt.

The boy's mother died when he was a month old. His father has said he believed he could not care for David alone, and that placing the boy in an orphanage was the best way to ensure his survival.

Earlier Monday, David spent 2 1/2 hours with his biological father at an exclusive lodge where the pop star is staying.

"I was very happy to see him," the father, Yohane Banda, told The Associated Press, adding that David did not recognize him. "He asked me who I was."

Standing outside the courthouse with a number of other curious onlookers, E. Ngulinga said he understood the criticism directed at the pop star but that it was hard to deny a child the kind of opportunities offered by Madonna.

"That baby is going to have the advantages of going to school and of becoming someone," he said. "Here it is very difficult."

Ngulinga said he hoped the girl and David would return when they were older to help Malawi, an impoverished country where 14 percent of adults are infected with the virus that causes AIDS. The U.N. estimates that half of the 1 million Malawian children who have lost one or both parents have been orphaned by AIDS.

Madonna first traveled to Malawi in 2006 while filming a documentary on the devastating poverty and AIDS crisis. Her Raising Malawi organization, founded in 2006, raises funds to provide food, shelter, education and health care for children.

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Associated Press writers Khaled Kazziha and Raphael Tenthani contributed to this report.

LILONGWE, Malawi — Madonna and her three children toured a day care center built by her charity Monday as critics slammed the star's attempt to adopt a second child from this poor African nation...
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    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:25 AM on 03/31/2009

I don't understand. Both of these kids have fathers (and other relatives) living. How can the kids be put up for adoption? Did the fathers give them up? Do the fathers retain any rights to see their children?

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:32 PM on 03/30/2009
- ailbhe I'm a Fan of ailbhe 13 fans permalink

No but they were stolen regardless, money can buy you anything in this world. Both families vehemently objected to the adoptions which is why the human rights groups are furious.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:48 PM on 03/31/2009
- shaaronie I'm a Fan of shaaronie 4 fans permalink

Big hearted Madonna! Not only does she adopt two children from an impoverished nation, but also opens a daycare that services 4000 of them. Then these two children whom she adopts and takes back to visit can one day, if they choose, return to to assist. As for the 2 year observation period, who are they kidding? Observe what? A child being neglected and unloved so that they can satisfy some insane beauracracy? I totally agree with tbone99.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 05:34 PM on 03/30/2009
- sjpersonal I'm a Fan of sjpersonal 3 fans permalink

I wonder when it will become "TRENDY" for celebrities to adopt American children. Could it be that American children do not need love and care as much as children from other countries? Or is it that they "Celebrities" believe that they will not receive as much publicity if they adopt children from this country?

JUST A THOUGHT!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:38 PM on 03/30/2009
- ywcachieve I'm a Fan of ywcachieve 116 fans permalink

Adoptions from other country, such as China, Korea, Vietnamese, Russia, The Ukraine, and African has been going on for a long time. The only time people feak out is when African children are adopted.

I hear no negative comments when Chinese, Korean, Vietnamese, The Ukraine, and Russian children are adopted by Americans.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:42 PM on 03/30/2009

Excellent point...

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 07:44 PM on 03/30/2009
- andvoodoo2 I'm a Fan of andvoodoo2 122 fans permalink
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Do you know of any orphanages in the U.S.? I don't. In the U.S., orphans are placed into foster care where they at least have some semblance of a home life. In third world countries, children in orphanages are one of hundreds cared for by 2 or 3 caregivers.

Madonna doesn't even live in the U.S. anymore. It's a big world. Children are far more NEEDY elsewhere. Try to think globally. We are all in this together.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 05:48 PM on 03/30/2009
- sjpersonal I'm a Fan of sjpersonal 3 fans permalink

I believe that she is still an american citizen. Foster care is NOT adoption, and all Foster Care is not is not a good thing,

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 06:11 PM on 03/30/2009
- cyguy I'm a Fan of cyguy 7 fans permalink

She lives in New York City. Last time I checked it was still part of the U.S.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 09:22 PM on 03/30/2009
- ywcachieve I'm a Fan of ywcachieve 116 fans permalink

People who are saying Madonna is using her celebrity as a bully are lying.

Madonna's process of adopting Mercy has been going on for at least 2 years. I remember as far back as 2 years, Madonna talking about adopting this child, Mercy. I wish people would stop lying about this case.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:10 PM on 03/30/2009

Some just try to be negative so that they can get a few sound bites or because they want the gravy train to stop closer to their own door. Too bad. I'm sure that Madonna couldn't care less about the opinions of such narrowminded, biased and self-seeking people.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 06:54 PM on 03/30/2009
- lillibelle I'm a Fan of lillibelle 62 fans permalink
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The generous comments made by David's birth father, which are clearly in support of Madonna, carry enormous weight. I do hope the officials will take that into consideration.

Madonna also deserves credit for creating workable relationships with the fathers. Can you imagine how trying that must be?

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:49 PM on 03/30/2009

He's one of the most blessed parents on earth to have his son so well provided for and to have access to him as well.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 06:56 PM on 03/30/2009
- piul05 I'm a Fan of piul05 57 fans permalink
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The whole adoption procedure has been going on for TWO years, so it's hardly a celebrity's fad; but I really would like to see if there would be all this outrage had she been trying to adopt a child from Iceland, for instance.

These misguided do-gooders, who think ethnicity and culture are interchangeable concepts, must be thinking that it doesn't matter if Mercy becomes just another number in infant mortality in Malawi, or meets the same fate as her young mother, so long as it's all done among "her" (read "black") people.

I wish Madonna and Mercy good luck; someone I once knew told me that, when asked by her adopted son where he came from, she answered: "People who have children from their belly can't choose those children, but you, you are very special, because there were so many children there (in the orphanage) but you were the one I fell in love with".

That (black) boy - now a lawyer and fatyher to three children -turned to be the pride and joy of a (white) couple who would, otherwise, have had a very lonely old age.

Alternatively, he would have ended up in like many children in Rio de Janeiro do; in the streets.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:55 PM on 03/30/2009
- ywcachieve I'm a Fan of ywcachieve 116 fans permalink

Great comments. I agree.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:07 PM on 03/30/2009

Please tell Madonna to get to the rear of the adoption line! This ain't fast-food, international adoptions are a lengthy process. Take your money and fame, and wait in line, like the rest of us...

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:38 PM on 03/30/2009
- ywcachieve I'm a Fan of ywcachieve 116 fans permalink

Obviously you don't know anything about this case. Madonna applied to adopt Mercy about 2 years ago.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:13 PM on 03/30/2009

International adoptions take two to three years now, after 9/11 they must all be approved by Homeland Security. We started our adoption of three children from Haiti in December of 2006. Haiti is the poorest country in the western hemisphere, and only a 90-minute flight from Miami. If Madonna started this process two years ago she would have brought him back the first time she was in Africa.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 07:46 PM on 03/30/2009

Totally agree!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 08:47 PM on 03/30/2009
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Living in Uganda for the last 3 years and seeing the living conditions of most children, I can only applaud Madonna for what she is doing.

I have been trying to raise $,9000 for a Heart valve replacement operation for a 10 year old girl from Uganda, which needs it because of an infection in 2006.. Her mother works as a maid for about $40 a month, so there is no way the family can raise the money to save her. Nothing except medication was done until I stepped in. I live on social security, so don't have the money to save the child. The cardiac surgery team is coming to Uganda from the UK the first week of May to do open heart surgeries for those that are funded. If we miss this opportunity, the damage will be to great by the time they come next year. We need to have $2,000 in this week for International Hospital Kampala to purchase the heart valve.

I sent out 2,400 email appeals to a republican donor data base that I got my hands on (I know it is spamming, and I hate getting it, but felt the cause warranted it), I figured I would get some donations. So far not one donation! So much for republicans having a heart.

I am at my wits end. A lousy 9 grand to save a child's life! Anyone wishing to contribute or have any ideas please email me at gmail.coms@gmail.com.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:04 PM on 03/30/2009
- TJCole I'm a Fan of TJCole 163 fans permalink
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"He'll put the priest in his pocket, put the flame to the heat, lay the motherless children at the feet of a harlot..!

Bob Dylan..

Madonna's in town hide your children..­.!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:54 PM on 03/30/2009

David is not an orphan, nor is the girl Madonna is trying to adopt. If Madonna and other Westerners are so concerned about these African children, then WHY not provide funds for the SURVIVING Parent and /or relatives to take care of this child in their NATIVE country. If she really thinks this boy is going to forget his roots in Africa and that he was uprooted from his family because a rich white women wanted him for her SELFISH PLEASURE, she is sadly mistaken.

I do not commend Madonna or other great white hope wannabes for releasing their white guilt or their white inner fantasy at the expense of these poor African victims.

There are many who adopt because it is needed and necessary and then there are the Madonna's who do it for pure pleasure, and make no mistake people, this is misguided pleasure for Madonna.
Arsenio Hall once told Madonna -"You are not black and you never will be". That's Madonna real reason, she thinks by being an adoptive white mother will somehow complete her fantasy of being "black". Don't confuse Madonna with Jolie-who is REAL.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:46 PM on 03/30/2009

You don't care about the child, you just want to punish Madonna...­How Pathetic

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:01 PM on 03/30/2009
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TennesseeTruth said: " I do not commend Madonna or other great white hope wannabes for releasing their white guilt or their white inner fantasy at the expense of these poor African victims." ----------­----------­---------

So, you would commend her if she did nothing, like most people do???

Oh and by the way: EVERYONE adopts for pure pleasure .... ask any adoptive parent is they 'enjoyed' adopting their child.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:04 PM on 03/30/2009

I would COMMEND HER IF SHE set up funds for the child to remain in HIS/HER native country with their FAMILY, FAMILY, FAMILY, REGARDLESS OF HOW POOR THE FAMILY IS, IF RICH WHITE MADONNA IS SO CONCERNED ABOUT THESE POOR LITTLE AFRICAN CHILDREN WHO HAVE A PARENT-THEN LET HER PROVIDE FUNDS FOR THIS CHILD TO GO TO SCHOOL, LIVE, ETC.

for the rest of you bleeding heart westerners LEARN SOME AFRICAN HISTORY. AND REMEMBER WHY AFRICA IS IN THE CONDITIONS IT IS IN NOW- BECAUSE OF IMPERILISM, COLONIZATION, AND WHITE SUPREMECY.

Donate funds, give your time-if you have IT. BUT DON'T STEAL THE CHILDREN OF THAT NATION BECAUSE OF of sick fantasy you have about black people. I am talking about Madonna- her past history dictates she has some sick fantasy about black people, especially black men, I just don't trust her motives. And I could care less about what you think!
Sometimes the truth HURTS.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:25 PM on 03/30/2009
- expanse I'm a Fan of expanse 5 fans permalink

You are a twisted person. Maybe in your twisted mind, that is how you think. Don't project your twisted ideas onto someone you don't know. How many children have you adopted?

If these kids are not orphans then why the H*LL where they left in orphanages their entire life( Mercy is 4) ? Explain that. David's father promptly ran off and got another woman pregnant while David was in the orphanage dying. DYING. Where are Mercy's extended family now and where have they been for 4 years while she has languished in an orphanage?????

Madonna is doing more than adopting kids from Malawi. She is building schools to provide health care, education and food. She has made an excellent documentary about Malawi to raise awareness and try to help Malawians help themselves. In the meantime, why is saving a life selfish? If saving a life gives Madonna pleasure, wow, what a horrible woman isn't she? LOL. Imagine, getting pleasure from saving a life. The nerve.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:04 PM on 03/30/2009
- limber I'm a Fan of limber 36 fans permalink
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The orphanage system outside of the US is very different to what you're used to. Many of the orphanage kids are placed there because they'll have better access to food and to healthcare, and their loving families are truly trying to do the best for them.

Think of it like welfare; if a family had kids and had to accept welfare to make sure their children were eating and getting their shots, but then a foreigner comes along and offers to adopt the child. Everyone around you points out that the child will get even better care than in the orphanage.­.. but they'll also be taken away from you forever.

I think this whole thing's unfortunately shady. Anyone who's tried to adopt will know that an over-50, single, foreign recent divorcee is nowhere near an ideal candidate. The fact that Malawian law apparently forbids adoption to singles AND resists taking the kids out-of-country makes this entire deal sound like Madonna isn't so much a "Malawian adoption pioneer" as a rich Westerner who is promising to pour money into the country, but hey, she'd also like a few of your kids, so how about looking the other way, eh?

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:37 PM on 03/30/2009
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Tennessee Truth, I don't see any truth in your post, just bigoted rhetoric. You are the type of person that does nothing for anyone and hate anyone who does. I bet you are a practicing "born again christian", but don't follow the teaching of Christ. God judges by our deeds, not by our words. I expect you will burn inhell and Madonna is on the path to heaven.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:16 PM on 03/30/2009
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Global Resource Allience was a charity that I gave monthly to before I lost my accounting job for a commercial real estate company.

Here is a short you-tube (less than two minutes) with some information on helping those who want to help themselves; might be worth a watch for Madonna & company:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=89-DpVHGOwA

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:50 PM on 03/30/2009
- AngieMom57 I'm a Fan of AngieMom57 70 fans permalink
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"...the inspiration and leadership for our work, comes from the communities we serve...ac­cording to their own visions.."

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:55 PM on 03/30/2009

Go to Hulu.com and type in "I Am Because We Are" and watch Madonna's documentary on Malawi and its orphans. It will be a well spent 1.5 hours. As a Malawian commenter says there--only 3 Americans in her 5 years of living here knew where Malawi is. Since Madonna "adopted" the orphans of Malawi as her cause this country-- and the fact that almost 7% of the population-- has received more coverage than many another poor country. And Madonna is emphasizing education, a gift that keeps giving. It all seems pretty good to me. And let's face it, this documentary will receive MUCH MORE viewing because it was made by Madonna. 'Nuff said.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:47 PM on 03/30/2009
- CAMBEL I'm a Fan of CAMBEL 15 fans permalink

I love how all the actual Malawaians interviewed are saying that this is a great opportunity for the child, and the people complaining are all employees of Western Aid groups with their mixed up utopian ideals that it is somehow better for this child to grow up with no family, no education, and no prospects, in a country with staggaring poverty where people rely on familial connections to survive. They don't care a thing for children, only that their ideals are being met. They are the same people that would rather see children waste away in foster care than be adopted by a loving family of a different race. I'm not a fan of Madonna but nobody can argue that taking this child out of an orphanage and feeding her, giving her an education and access to health care is a major life improvement for her.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:17 PM on 03/30/2009
- piul05 I'm a Fan of piul05 57 fans permalink
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Exactly.

Save The Children and Co. just want to push forward an ideology which is neither sound - they see ethnicity and culture as interchangeable concepts, nor logical - if Mercy stays in the orphanage and survives infancy, she might still die in childbirth at an early age, just as her mother did; so what would that achieve? At least she'd lived and died among black people such as herself, they seem to say.

I'd like to believe that if Madonna were trying to adopt a child from Iceland, for example, there would be the same outcry - but somehow, I don't think so.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:33 PM on 03/30/2009
- ywcachieve I'm a Fan of ywcachieve 116 fans permalink

If Madonna was adopting children from Europe, Russia, some white country. There would be none of this protest. This is all racial, simple as that.

This is why I am cheering Madonna on.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:23 PM on 03/30/2009

So true. Sadly, there are many in the NGO arena who are critical of international adoption. They believe that preserving a child's cultural heritage is more important than placing them with a permanent, loving family if that family happens to be from another country. UNICEF, for example, would rather see children placed in in-country foster homes (as if they even existed) than adopted internationally. It's absurd! It defies common sense to believe that any child would be better off in institutional or temporary care than in a permanent home.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:21 PM on 03/30/2009

"It makes a difference to that one"

There are so many children there who will die in childhood of neglect and starvation, will grow up to lives of hardship, rape, neglect, etc. - and no one can save all of them. But each one adopted to a good home that will let them know where they came from is one more child saved. And indeed, if they can go home later, to use their education, privileges, to help rebuild their country, that will be even better.

But regardless - whether it works ideally or not - the issue is simple - a child being left in an orphanage is going to get a home - that is a good thing.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:16 PM on 03/30/2009
- piul05 I'm a Fan of piul05 57 fans permalink
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Totally agree.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:34 PM on 03/30/2009
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