Does Marrying For Money Make Sense?

Times Online:

A woman with two daughters, a stepson, a large mortgage, a big job and no time was rifling in a tidying -- not a nosy -- way through some of her new husband's papers recently and found a wish list he had made. And there, with a star next to it, was the line: "Make enough money so that [she] doesn't have to do a job she hates."

"That meant so much to me," she says. "It's one of the reasons this relationship works and my last one didn't."

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Comments

[timezone]

Marrying only for money short changes both parties. Obviously money can help make someone, men and women, a more attractive mate, but marrying ONLY for money, particularly when there is incompatibility or lack of attraction to the person with money, what's the point? It's important to be happy in a relationship, and if you' don't genuinely care about or like the person, money alone can't make you happy.

[ailbhe]

Marry for money, repent at leisure....

Money certainly makes life a lot easier and the more you have the more opportunities you have but I cannot see how marrying for money can improve your life. The one who owns the money, controls it and if you are dependent on them for survival then they control you.

How can a woman expect any man to respect her if she is only playing nice because he has a fat bank account? Rich men are always targeted by goldiggers, they generally treat most women like dirt because they are paying for it! If they want a genuine relationship they will steer clear of predatory females with money signs lighting up in their eyes, if they want to rent a trophy they will pick the youngest and best looking and trade up regularly. Most women are not physically up to the standards required to be a trophy, those who are have to be extremely cynical (or desperate?) to feign attraction to someone they don't fancy and whom they have nothing in common with.

How can anybody go out with (and sleep with) somebody if there is no chemistry or shared interests? Marry rich and you are guaranteed to earn every penny.

[ZellaBee]

Better to been in love for love and true friendship. I think it's the only way to be for me.

[Diogenis]

It may not make sense, but is does dollars.

[NickyD]

I went to the book signing for "Smart Girls Marry Money," great book and its lessons that I never learned as a child from my middle class parents. Money is not going to buy happiness but it sure is going to make like a bit easier. How lucky for the authors that the Los Angeles Mayor stopped by for a book!!

[Hollywooddeed]

I was the mother of two little kids, broke, stuck in a job that I hated. I married someone I liked, but did not love, who had an excellent income as a physician. It was the worst time in my life. He was a controlling jerk, mean to my kids and lousy in bed. I earned every penny.

We divorced after three years. Huge lesson learned. I'm back stuck in a job that I hate, but at least I have no one to answer to but myself.

[Diogenis]

Likes, but did not love is the problem.

[sweetwhine]

No.

[OtayPanky]

I married the old mare for her dough...and it's a damn good deal.

[texhall00]

People say next time I'm marrying for money! Its not about the money and thats learned down the road. Just because a man has money doesn't mean his going to give it to you, or be kind or generous, or thoughful.
Money is power. He who owns the gold makes the rules. Everything comes with a price. its just a matter of how much? Loving someone is about how that person makes you feel when your with him. Love isn't a feeling, its about behavior.

[SusanRen]

So right you are, my SIL married her 4th he got the bucks but makes the rules. She is so miserable but cant leave him. She feels trapped because her health is bad and cant support herself. Everyone of her husbands was for a different reason but never for love.

[texhall00]

Susan tell your SIL to look at it this way...what if her husband dies over night. Where would she be? She would have to find some kind of work and now there benefits that fits everyone budget because of all this unemployment. Her illness will get worst if she stays, no one traps you, you only trap yourself. She needs to start putting some money away until she's able to leave, she needs to make a plan. Once she does that she's fine the person that was lost inside of her enter and ready to live her best life.

[Ricardo Valentin]

Now they tell me! I always thought that you just married the one the tribe ordered you to marry.

[Lenniejean]

Translation, GOLD DIGGER: A woman who doesn't want to end up on welfare with several kids.

[ThomasMc]

Oh, sure, heteros can get married for money, publicity, whatever, but gays can't because of the "sanctity" of marriage.

[eleven0]

yeah, we do a pretty good job of ruining the sanctity of it ourselves.

[GalenL]

The comments on the full article are excellent.

[DrVeruju]

"For better, for worse"

My dear departed mother, in a moment of confusion at her wedding, just repeated the second part and for the rest of their 50+ years of marriage, my parents always chuckled over this slip of the tongue.