Jenny Sanford Meets With Husband For First Time Since Affair Admission

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JIM DAVENPORT | 06/25/09 08:07 PM | AP

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South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford wipes his tears as he admitted to having an affair during a news conference in Columbia, S.C Wednesday, June 24, 2009, and said he is resigning as chairman of the Republican Governors Association. (AP Photo/Mary Ann Chastain)

COLUMBIA, S.C. — A top South Carolina Republican leader says philandering Gov. Mark Sanford should resign and practice the philosophy he's preached of holding GOP leaders accountable. Glenn McCall is one of the state's two national representatives to the Republican National Committee. He's also a county party chairman and said Thursday that party members want Sanford out.

McCall says Sanford repeatedly has said party leaders should be held accountable for not upholding the GOP's principles. And McCall says the married father of four should be held to the same standard.

The governor returned Wednesday from an international trip to see his mistress in Argentina. Hours later he publicly revealed that he's been having an affair for the past year.

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COLUMBIA, S.C. (AP) _ South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford was with his family Thursday as legal and ethical questions swirled over his secret trip to see a woman in Argentina with whom he admitted an affair.

The state's top senator questioned whether Sanford broke the law when he disappeared for several days on a trip to South America and didn't transfer power to the lieutenant governor.

"I would think that if the evidence indicates that there is a willful effort to circumvent the constitution, I think there would be a chorus of calls for him to resign," said state Sen. Glenn McConnell, a fellow Republican.

McConnell said Sanford needed to answer questions about whether taxpayer money was used during the affair, but stopped short of calling for an investigation. Sanford's spokesman has said no state resources were used.

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His wife said in a statement Wednesday that she had kicked him out two weeks ago and asked him not to speak to her while she came to terms with his infidelity, but spokesman Joel Sawyer said they were together at the family's beach house Thursday. The Sanfords have four sons.

"The governor is in Sullivans Island with his family," Sawyer said. "He's also going to be spending some time today and spent some time last night as well touching base with other elected officials."

Sanford was a three-term U.S. House veteran who once cited "moral legitimacy" when he was a congressman voting for President Bill Clinton's impeachment, but he has taken a swan dive from the moral high ground.

By admitting to an extramarital affair, the Republican governor makes the already-difficult end of his term-limited administration nearly untenable.

Sanford was raising his national political profile with his outspoken fight against using federal cash for anything but paying down debt. As chairman of the Republican Governors Association, he was raising money for candidates and deflecting talk he was planning to run for president in 2012.

The speed of his collapse was shocking. Even his former chief of staff and friend of 30 years, state Sen. Tom Davis, said he didn't know about the affair until Wednesday.

"I think that South Carolinians, in particular Americans, have tremendous capacity for forgiveness. That said, they can also recognize hypocrisy. I think the tale of the tape will be the next few days, whether or not Governor Sanford is sincere in his repentance," Davis told ABC's "Good Morning America" on Thursday.

About three weeks ago, Sanford lost a court battle to reject the federal stimulus money. A few days later, his wife, Jenny Sanford, kicked him out of their home to begin a "trial separation" with hopes of reconciling.

Then on Monday, lawmakers and reporters started questioning where the governor had been for five days, including Father's Day weekend. His aides said the outdoorsman was hiking the Appalachian Trail to wind down from a grueling legislative session.

But Wednesday the governor held a rambling, tearful news conference in which he finally revealed the truth: "I've been unfaithful to my wife." His family did not attend.

The 49-year-old ruminated on God's law, moral absolutes and following one's heart. He said he spent the last five days "crying in Argentina."

Sanford described the woman as a "dear, dear friend" whom he has known for about eight years and been romantically involved with for about a year. He said he has seen her three times since the affair began, and his wife found out about it five months ago.

Sanford denied instructing his staff to cover up his affair. He said he told them he thought he would be hiking on the Appalachian Trail and never corrected that impression after leaving for South America.

"I let them down by creating a fiction with regard to where I was going," Sanford said. "I said that was the original possibility. Again, this is my fault in ... shrouding this larger trip."

The State newspaper in Columbia published steamy e-mails between Sanford and the woman. Sanford did not identify her, nor did he answer directly whether the relationship with her was over.

"What I did was wrong. Period," he said.

Now the people of South Carolina and national GOP leaders are picking up the pieces.

Davis, Sanford's longtime friend, said he expected the governor to stay in office.

"We're all human, we all have failings and all we can do when confronted with those failings, is to own up to them and acknowledge the hurt you've cause others," Davis told CBS' "The Early Show."

Mississippi Gov. Haley Barbour took over leadership of the Republican Governors Association after Stanford resigned from the post. In little more than an hour after his announcement, other Republicans were backing away from him: the Value Voters Summit dropped him from the lineup for its September roundup of GOP notables.

Political experts expect little from his last 18 months in office, and certainly not with the Legislature he's fought with for years. A lame duck session looms for Sanford.

"Truth be told, over the past few years, he has soured his relationship with the Legislature so much that he hasn't been particularly effective at getting an agenda through," said Scott Huffmon, political scientist at Winthrop University. "And with the stimulus fight, pushing it all the way to the state Supreme Court, that affirmed the governor's subordinate position in this state."

For now, Sanford's looking at the basics.

"Over the time that I have left in office, I'm going to devote my energy to building back the trust the people of this state have placed in me," Sanford said.

It will be a tall task. While some South Carolinians said they appreciated Sanford's eventual candor in admitting to his affair, the tawdry news surprised many.

"I was shocked, shocked," said Tom Daly, 42, a magazine editor in Charleston. "First of all he's a Republican golden boy and he's a strict, staunch conservative. I'm so shocked. It was something I did not expect."

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Associated Press writers Meg Kinnard and Susanne M. Schafer in Columbia and Bruce Smith in Charleston contributed to this report.

COLUMBIA, S.C. — A top South Carolina Republican leader says philandering Gov. Mark Sanford should resign and practice the philosophy he's preached of holding GOP leaders accountable. Glenn McCa...
COLUMBIA, S.C. — A top South Carolina Republican leader says philandering Gov. Mark Sanford should resign and practice the philosophy he's preached of holding GOP leaders accountable. Glenn McCa...
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Why did Sanford subject us to his blubbering confession ? Does this public mea culpa redeem him in some way ? Fessing to lessen fall out ?...Or did Maria dump him and this was his way of communicating his deeply tortured and impossible love in the hopes of getting his lover's attention again.
It's as mysterious as his penchant for wearing frayed blazers
What about Jenny. Yes. Why did she waste time penning that letter from the principal's office, citing scripture supporting her decision to forgive and reconcile with someone who is crying for his soulmate.

It is all distracting and riveting to some of us, but stinky politics to all of us.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:47 PM on 07/10/2009

As hard as it would be, and I know it's hard to dump the father of your four sons, but this guy needs to be let loose. Only today he said that he has 'crossed the line' with more than one woman (but only, apparently , slept with the Argentina woman). He's trying to 'fall back in love' with his wife? Sorry buddy - it doesn't work that way. There is just nothing left to salvage with this marriage. And after seeing the 'other woman' taunt the Senator a wee bit about going out with a 'younger man' in their emails to each other, she is just as untrustworthy as he is. The old saying' they deserve each other' is spot on in this situation.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:51 PM on 06/30/2009
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I'm glad I'm not a christian, or I might feel obligated to show compassion or to forgive.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 05:40 AM on 06/27/2009
- cwcarman I'm a Fan of cwcarman 10 fans permalink

As a fellow human being, I can relate to falling in love, in or out of marriage. The emotions felt at that time are such that one's "better judgement" is suspended. I don't care for Sanford's politics but feel that, as a human being, he responded in a manner consistent with being a good guy. He went to Argentina to tell Maria that they had to stop because he wanted to reconcile with his wife and children. Give the poor guy a chance to move on with his life and allow his family the opportunity to forgive him.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 06:37 PM on 06/26/2009
- Okieborn I'm a Fan of Okieborn 61 fans permalink

Hmmmm!!
A Republican cheating on his wife Huh !!
Now this is real news !!!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:48 PM on 06/26/2009

"I think the tale of the tape will be the next few days, whether or not Governor Sanford is sincere in his repentance,"

How could a South Carolinian or any other person know the status of another person's repentance? By observing their actions, which until just recently were of a pious person, tsk, tsking at the infidelities of other politicians? I don't think so. Either a person is genuine or they are not. If the measure of whether someone can lead others or not is tied to their personal lives, ethics, honesty and beliet systems, then Sanford has to go. If it is measured in carrying out or being derelict of duties, then Sanford has to go. Whether or not he slithers back into the good graces of his wife and children is of no consequence in his professional life.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:48 PM on 06/26/2009
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He claimed to be the family values candidate, along with being against gay rights. He was one of the leaders of impeaching Clinton and said other people should resign.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:25 PM on 06/26/2009
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I think that if someone else out him then he should have to resign. But since he outed himself, I think forgiveness is the order of the day. Not for any reason derived out of sense of christian compassion or forgiveness but just because he himself admitted it and it was to little or no detriment to the state.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:32 PM on 06/26/2009
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He outted himself by being stupid and leaving the country. RESIGN. He should be ashamed. He used the WRONG head to think with.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:52 PM on 06/26/2009

there is something rotten in Argentina!!! this story just doesn't add up. I think there is more to come out

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:44 PM on 06/26/2009
- bogues I'm a Fan of bogues 40 fans permalink

When Mark Sanford took the state vehicle and went to Georgia to get on a plane for Argentina, he had every intention of spending time with his lover, while no one knew about it. He did not expect anyone other than his staff, to question his where abouts and he sure did not think reporters would be waiting for him when he got back to the states. His claim that he "spent the last five days crying in Argentina so he could come back here and do it again" appears to be deceptive to me. If he cried in Argentina, it more than likely happened after he found out that the whole country had discovered what he was up to. I hope he is being more honest with his wife, than he is being with the public.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:40 PM on 06/26/2009
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"I think that South Carolinians, in particular Americans, have tremendous capacity for forgiveness. That said, they can also recognize hypocrisy. I think the tale of the tape will be the next few days, whether or not Governor Sanford is sincere in his repentance," Davis told ABC's "Good Morning America" on Thursday."

So, what kind of tape measure do you use to measure the sincerity of one's repentance and where can I get one?

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:20 PM on 06/26/2009
- AnnfromCA I'm a Fan of AnnfromCA 168 fans permalink

Dump him. He's in love with the mistress. Let him go to Argentina.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:10 PM on 06/26/2009
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Food for thought, and something I suspect Mrs. Sanford, who strikes me as having a pretty good head on her shoulders, probably is considering as we natter.

Her husband, like everyone, has good and bad points.

Her husband cheated on her, carried out a love affair on the dime of the state taxpayers, and got caught.

They sought counseling of some kind or other, but it didn't take for the man.

He ran away to Argentina for one last roll in the hay with his girlfriend.

A woman can forgive a lot of sins, and every woman is different, but what we have here, in essense, is a man who is comfortable, competent, and capable of multiple and repeated lying. This isn't the kind of lying designed to protect a spouse: this is lying to protect his political career.

Here I share my own prejudices: the only two completely disqualifying traits in a man are:

1. Liar
2. Coward

Governor Sanford is both. If she can live with it (and some women can) good for her. Personally, I don't think he's worth it.

Dump the bum: sue for divorce, grounds adultery. You'll clean him out of every dime he has, if any, and forever, in a state where the "religiousity" factor is pretty high.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 06:29 AM on 06/26/2009
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Adultery is hideous on the cheated on spouse but lots of couples do recover and build stronger marriages. I don't believe divorce is the answer everytime, each spouse should decide based on their life goals and criteria. Truth is Sanford will have a very tall order to ever rebuild Jenny's trust in him, considering she was responsible for shaping his successful political career. She does have strong grounds for divorce if she chooses to pursue that road. For women, the first consideration is always the children and what's best for them. Secondly, income and the reduction of it and all the nasty co-joined property issues etc. Reading her statement the other day, I felt she is looking for an opportunity to forgive him and maybe reconcile if he proves his repentance to her. Who knows? Women have always been incredibly resilient :)

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:00 AM on 06/26/2009
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"Wouldn't that be funny if he said he committed the affair instead of divorce because he doesn't believe in divorce?"

Raises interesting cultural questions, that. If I recall, for much of the 20th century, Japanese husbands regarding the American convention of men leaving their wives for a new trophy to be pretty barbaric. The proper thing, of course, was to be discreet in the proper circles about the affair, and keep first loyalty to the mother of your children. While not giving up the mistress, of course.

So which is worse? Being non-hypocritical or being hypocritical but unswavering in priority of family allegiance? Yes, I'm mostly discounting the third option of staying grimly faithful in the face of loveless marriage and constant temptation. Men, particularly powerful, successful type-A's, are not going to go with that one, WHATEVER they preach. Sorry pastor, but them's the facts.

As for Mrs. S., if she takes him back, it won't be for the sake of God's law, either. It will be to better ensure continued involvement of her husband in the lives of their sons, and for the stability of a life she is used to. And she'll probably be just as happy if he takes those long hikes frequently, but *discreetly*.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 05:35 AM on 06/26/2009
- AbyGail I'm a Fan of AbyGail 3 fans permalink

Gov. Sanford turned his back on his wife and his sons. Why on Father's Day? Is his mistress pregnant?

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:39 AM on 06/26/2009
- damebee I'm a Fan of damebee 11 fans permalink

Oh please, how stupid this is a man who I believe reading his e-mails is in love, what a delemna , wife holds the purse strings, married her for all the wrong reasons and is caught between a betwixt and between! I do not condone his actions and what he did and said on Clinton is abhorrent, however Mark Sanford if you truly love this woman go for it!, We only live one life, and if you give up the love of your life you will regret it for the rest of yours!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 05:40 AM on 06/26/2009
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Yeah them delemnas are a b*tch.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 06:53 AM on 06/26/2009
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His e-sonnets to Maria sounded very contrived to me. I think he's used them before. Look for more "Maria's" to surface. He's a cad. I think the wife has put forth conditions she knows he will never be able to meet. Her grandfather founded Skil Tools; she probably supports the family on all levels except "fame." But she probably wants the door open for Mark to be a good dad to their sons. Smart move.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:42 AM on 06/26/2009

I agree with you 100%. I read those emails to the mistress. the man seems to be in love. It is a complicated issue because this hurts his wife and children deeply. But what is worse, living in a loveless marriage or moving on with your life and working through the pain.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:58 AM on 06/26/2009
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Does anyone wonder who gave these e-mails to the press in December, I do!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 06:09 AM on 06/26/2009
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I would imagine his wife did.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 08:31 AM on 06/26/2009
- larmarch5 I'm a Fan of larmarch5 39 fans permalink
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Someone in the gov. office or legislative offices that didn't like him. Whoever it was probably sent them to the wife also. Office files are backed up on servers as part of maintenance and easily available for anyone with access. Having a private email on gmail or yahoo or aol is no guarantee if you're accessing it on a pc at work. And "deleted" is just the name of another file.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:45 AM on 06/26/2009
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