Steve McNair's Wife Was Unaware Of Romantic Affair Until His Death

UPDATE 7/06 7:45PM: CNN is reporting that the pistol found at the shooting scene was bought by McNair's girlfriend Sahel Kazemi two nights before the fatal incident, according to police.

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Steve McNair's death on the Fourth of July has revealed that the former football star may have had a dark side that had been hidden from public view, the AP writes. Indeed, even McNair's wife may have only become aware of the romantic affair he had been carrying on with 20-year-old Sahel Kazemi after his death, sources told the New York Daily News

McNair, who was shot four times Saturday in what police have ruled a homicide, was known for his charity work and volunteering and was viewed publicly as a happily married man. But as the details surrounding his death emerge, the picture has become more complicated.

From the AP:

Even McNair's longtime agent said he didn't know about the former quarterback's relationship with Saleh Kazemi until news broke of the deaths. Now police call 36-year-old McNair the victim of homicide, though they aren't yet ready to label Kazemi's death a suicide despite her single bullet wound to the head.

"As good as he was on the football field, that couldn't touch the person," agent Bus Cook said Sunday, still shaken by McNair's death. "I mean it just couldn't."

Hints of a problem with alcohol surfaced in May 2003 when a Nashville police officer pulled McNair over on suspicion of drunk driving. Police said the quarterback's blood alcohol content was .18 percent -- well over Tennessee's legal limit. He also was charged with having a 9mm weapon with him, but all the charges were later dropped.

McNair was charged with drunken driving in 2007 because he let his brother-in-law drive his pickup truck. Those charges were later dropped when the DUI charge against the brother-in-law was reduced to reckless driving.

And McNair could have been charged again Thursday night when the same officer who arrested him in 2003 stopped a 2007 Cadillac Escalade driven by Kazemi and registered to both her and McNair. Kazemi was arrested on a DUI charge, and he was allowed to leave in a taxi.

Meanwhile, Kazemi's sister Soheyla tells the Florida Times-Union that her sister "expected McNair to leave his wife in the next two or three weeks and eventually marry her."

Comments

[superaunt]

Steve Mcnair left his beautiful wife and children, and chose to sleep with the enemy or I stand corrected, he chose to sleep with Al QAIDA! If you play with fire you will get burnt! simple math. What a legacy to leave for your children! I hope that all married men will learn from this..and may I suggest that if one is unhappy in a marriage, get out of it, instead of causing so much hurt, especially when children is involved.

[superaunt]

Correction: especially when children are involved.

[OdinsEye]

"chose to sleep with the enemy or I stand corrected, he chose to sleep with Al QAIDA! "

Oh Puhleeze! If you are bound and determined to display your ignorance and bigotry, far be it from me to stop you.


The young woman was not al Qaeda. She was not even Muslim.

[superaunt]

It looks and smells of it, don't they love to kill in cold blood? THIS IS A GREAT EXAMPLE. Truth causes confrontation period. Who are bombing the churches right now in Iraq? That is her background, it is in the genes.

[beachbum1218]

Regardless of whether McNair cheated or not, it would be good if he is remembered for all the good things he did and that was many. He so unselfishly gave to many, many causes. His family has his death to deal with and heal from and all of the negative comments does not help. Like the preacher at the funeral said, let those without sin cast the first stone. It is actually none of I.P. Publc's business if he had an affair or not. Let them heal.

[superaunt]

When you hang your laundry out to dry, it is the public's business don't you think? well I think so.

[Jenjohnson]

This is a hard price to pay for cheating.

Men.. try to be faithful to your wives.

Girls.. leave other women's men alone.

[superaunt]

I agree with you 200%. Now there is someone who is full of wisdom. LOVE IT.

[superaunt]

This is a hard price to pay for cheating? He uncovered his wife! he betrayed his wife and children,
where is the integrity and character of this man! he had the nerve to take his family to the same restaurant where this young woman worked? she could have poisoned his whole family in that jealous lustful rage.Isn't that a harder price to pay? when you sit back and think that a whole family could have been wiped out because of steve McNair's choices?NOW GIVE ME A BREAK!

[45Caliber]

Read this article from Fox Sports..

http://msn.foxsports.com/nfl/story/9777174/Don%27t-be-so-quick-to-make-McNair-a-hero

[bre4u]

He may be a hero, but like all of us we are not without sin.
i do find it strange that she would shot him that many times and then herself. it seem to me that she would have left the apartment in a panick and maybe killed herself somewhere else, or maybe even calling someone she was close for help. maybe it was thought out to where she know she was going to kill him and kill herself but why no note to explain her actions. there will be a lot of question left answered.

[texmike]

I think this had to have been a crime of passion, not a pre-planned scheme.

My guess is he either directly told her he wasn't divorcing his wife or she misinterpreted whatever he said to reach that conclusion.

[beachbum1218]

Local news reported she went to an ex boyfriends and pounded on the door but by the time he got to the door she was gone, some have speculated she went there after she shot McNair and then went back and shot herself.

[superaunt]

We are not without sin, I agree....we are not perfect, I agree, but we have choices to will and to do! There something called "RIGHT AND WRONG" "GOOD AND BAD" "YES AND NO" It is the choices that we make that determines our destination.

[remnant0888]

in some countries it would be an honor killing done by a relative of the girls ... for to sleep with a married man is "sin" ..punishable by death ..

[OdinsEye]

Not for her religion. B'hai do not practice that.

[bhosmer]

Way to go, insightdeluxe. What a sorry, pathetic, posting. Speaks volume about you, doesn't it?

[insightdeluxe]

Tina Turner asked what's love got to do with it? And I judge not b/c that's foolish. This is more of a gun violence issue than a one about marriage vows or love in my mind. Who gave this bird a gun??? Let's get off the pedastal and be real.

[insightdeluxe]

Furthermore, and forgive me, relationships are complicated things. Love is a complicted thing. People's needs differ and change. Time can corrode as well as shine.
McNair was a model father and citizen. This was a huge loss for football fans and people who care about their communities.

[dteg]

Gets more strange. She only had a gun 2 days yet she seems like a pro with her aim.

[dteg]

Wonder what the hold up on determining her cause of death is. Probably will never know what all happened other than Steve's death was a homicide,

[telsea]

Actually, if she was a pro she wouldn't have "riddled" him with bullets as the reports have stated. Now this was a tragic love story unlike Sanford's fairy tale.

[OdinsEye]

1. You have no idea how close she may have been to him or if he was moving or not.

2. You have no idea if she had ever had any experience with firearms.

3. You have no idea what kind of firearm it was and if it was particularly difficult to shoot

[beachbum1218]

4. Or how angry she was?

[SonyaInTx]

Point blank range takes no skill.

[BlackYowe]

Well when you live a seedy dark life on the side bad things are going to happen. They never learn. Black or white the ending is the same. Wealthy powerful people forget they are human and then they slip on the big banana peel!

[TheWanderer]

I hardly call having being married and having a girlfriend a "dark side." Lots of married people have all sorts of relationships with each other and with others.

[Talossa]

Then don't get married.

[Palemoon]

"CNN is reporting that the pistol found at the shooting scene was bought by McNair's girlfriend Sahel Kazemi two nights before the fatal incident, according to police."

You know, there used to be a federal law requiring a 7 day waiting period, lol. But the NRA successfully fought to overturn that. Too bad. Might have saved McNair's life if the 7 day "cooling off period" had been in effect. And I realize with the NICS system being implemented, backgrounds could be checked in a fingersnap. Course, that doesn't prevent some dealer selling it to someone ANYWAYS. Money trumps all, after all.

Especially given the fact that federal law bars selling of firearms to persons under 21 (which she was) by licensed dealers. Also, the "Anyone who is an unlawful user of or addicted to any controlled substance", per the Gun Control Act of 1968, would have prevented her buying a firearm the moment the background check found her very recent arrest record.

All in all, the so-called "background check" failed horribly in this instance. Too bad the NRA was willing to forfeit peoples lives so that killers could get their weapons immediately, rather than wait a few days to think about it.

So, in my opinion, if it's officially found that she killed him in a crime of passion, then committed suicide, whoever sold her that gun had best be going to prison for violating federal law.

[OdinsEye]

"You know, there used to be a federal law requiring a 7 day waiting period,"

Never applied to private sales. Further, it is extremely, extremely rare for firearms to be used in a crime within 15 days fo purchase.

"Especially given the fact that federal law bars selling of firearms to persons under 21 (which she was) by licensed dealers. "

As you said, by licensed dealers. The federal age limit for possession of a handgun is 18 as is the federal age limit for purchase/tranfer from a private individual.

"All in all, the so-called "background check" failed horribly in this instance."

There is no requirement for background checks for prvate sales/transfers.

"whoever sold her that gun had best be going to prison for violating federal law."

Again, the person who sold her the pistol most likely did not violate federal laws.

[Malkin71]

Maybe it SHOULD apply to private sales and ALL sales.

Maybe Steve McNair would be dead next week, but he would be alive today if a 7 day wait was still the law.

She might have calmed down by then.

[Talossa]

Murder itself is also extremely rare, so that should be legal too?

[beachbum1218]

Local news said it was bought from an individual.

[insightdeluxe]

I'm sure he had an arrangement w/wifey. Keep the bils paid and my house peaceful and Big Stevie can do whatever he wants. A lot of you people are in Neverland w/this stuff. He's an NFL MVP QB. He ain't no average dude. And, he probably has above-average needs. All you regular dudes is monogomous b/c you want to be! If you had the $$$, you'd have a tight, teenage girlie holed away in some love nest on the other side of town. $$$ changes everything even your options in extrmarital affairs. Poor Steve picked the wrong chippie, though...

[Ginger5]

trudat

[slb83]

I agree with you somewhat, however there are many "regular" dudes that are not in monogamous relationships even if they are married. That dude who had 21 children by 11 different women was just as "regular" as one could be. Yes, I would agree that a man's options are more open when he is in the position that McNair was in in terms of the caliber of women, however a man or woman will cheat if they want to regardless of their household income and social status. Moreover, it seems like this woman caused him more trouble than pleasure. There is a thing called restraint. Unfortunately many people don't exercise it for various reasons. Also, it's unfortunate you think that he chose the wrong woman to cheat with as if there is nothing absolutely problematic about the act. So you clearly didn't learn anything from this because how was he supposed to know this in the beginning of the alleged affair. Regardless of what the stipulations were in the beginning, people do change over the course of a relationship. We will probably never know what the dynamics of the relationship was between him and his wife or the girlfriend. I'm in a monogamous relationship not because I can't cheat, but because dealing with one female is more manageable in my book than dealing with multiple ones.

[jessicadevyn]

Absolutely. I have a male cousin who has over a dozen children by several different women. He has never been rich.

Also, most men have the fallacy that all other men think and feel exactly the same way about women and sex as they do. This is simply not the case.

[truthbetold41]

You guys need to stop reading things so literally. Of course, "regular" dudes can cheat. The point is that when people like McNair have the type of fame, wealth, and/or power that he did, then it is not only easy for him to cheat, but very likely that he will cheat. This is no new concept. I suppose in a utopian society people would be able to restrain themselves, but we're not. So guess what, people cheat!

Restraint is a novel concept. Think about it, when women get involved with these "sugardaddys", they obviously know not only who they're dealing with, but also know that they are dealing with a married man. Because of the oppurtunity for financial gain, the often forego their better judgment for a chance to live the "good life". So the women are just as guilty as the men. And for the people on this forum that are pointing the "shame on you finger", many of you would also sell your souls for the right amount of cash, so stop with the judging.

Men have cheated on women since the beginning of time. When are we going to accept that that's the way it is? Bill Clinton, Bill Cosby, Mark Sanford, John Edwards, Bradd Pitt, Magic Johnson, Kobi Bryant, etc., etc. Let's face it, monogamy is obviosuly not a natural human instinct. But we keep telling ourselves that it is.

The bottomline is, men who don't cheat are the exception and not the rule.

[slb83]

It's sad that these are the alleged circumstances surrounding his death, however I think it's best to talk more about the actual crime instead of trying to find a reason to justify cheating. You may not be affected by this, but I bet there are some men that are in the position that McNair was in, that are sticking closer to home at least for the moment.

[beachbum1218]

True, unless they are afraid she will come to his home!!!

[nippyfan]

You've got it all figured out, huh? Maybe, just maybe she loved her husband and didn't want to believe the worst about him. Happens all the time, rich, poor or whatever. Maybe people who CHOOSE to marry should try honoring their wedding vows.

[jessicadevyn]

Yes and no. Things are a lot more complicated than that. Sorry I had to break it into 2 posts.


1.) From his side: It's pretty clear that the relationship wasn't just about sex. If he just wanted sex he could have paid the high end escorts who look like supermodels. Kazemi is cute, but she really isn't a stunner and is pretty average for many women her age. Also, escorts are independent from their clients. Since this girl wasn't Ashley Dupree ,she was solely dependent on McNair. He enjoyed the fact she was emotionally and financially dependent on him. This fed his ego more than seeing a top line escort who would would have been more gorgeous and would have got the job done. He could have just as easily had a different, hot escort every night of the week but instead chose to be with a regular looking girl for almost half a year.

[bethebest]

A.I.D.S

[NoahVail]

If ONLY they had a 3-day waiting period for the purchase of handguns in TN.

[OdinsEye]

It is extremely, extremely rare for firearms to used in a crime within 15 days of purchase.

[insightdeluxe]

Here.Here.

[beachbum1218]

Would not have helped in her situation, she was too young to get a gun legally anyway, she purchased it from an individual according to local Nashville news.

[Talossa]

Is Fox News reporting this as an attack by a Middle Eastern suicider?

[maxine842]

Yea, and am sure they'll put some of the blame on Obama.

[dollyfedup]

OH yeah, they blame Obama for everything. I remember my sister telling me that FOX news pundits were one day blaming Obama for rap music and he needed to do something about it.

[digitalprophet]

Yeah.. I can't wait for O'Reilly to spew some hate about this

[nippyfan]

Fatal Attraction. In the last moments of his life he must've thought...this was not worth it. Sad for everyone involved. Right or wrong.

[Danita Williams]

Oh, so right. It is so unfortunate that most men don't know how to turn down tail. McNair seemed to have a wonderful life. He had a beautiful, black, wife; who had 4 children for him.Pregnancy and childbirth are not easy.His wife obviously trusted him;unless he was a closed-door abuser who made her feel as though he could do whatever he wanted just because he was bringing in so much money.Chasing a man around, trying to make him account for every free second of his time can be very stressful. Then, the woman is accused of being a nag.

[Danita Williams]

This woman obviously could not take being strung along, then feeling as though she was about to be dumped, after McNair made who knows what kind of promises to her. If she was happy, it was because she was believing his lies.But, publicly, he was also happily married. Now which story is the truth, and which one is the facade? No one need to know now, because the wife and kids are sitting financially pretty without a cheating husband.She and her children can now live happily ever after. It is unfortunate, and my prayers and condolence go out to all who are grieving right now; especially the wife who must be not only distraught over his death; but, having to learn of and accept that he was cheating on her, while she is at home caring for 4 small children. What a bomber. Men need to do right, and stop the lying and cheating. It really is never worth it during the drama, nor in the end.

[felisa11]

- Kazemi was pulled over for DUI Thursday morning between 1-1:30 AM. McNair was a passenger but was allowed to leave the scene via taxi with another person. Kazemi admitted to being high.

-Thursday night, Kazemi purchased a semi-automatic pistol. Police will not say who she got the gun from.

- Early Saturday morning, McNair meets Kazemi at his Nashville condo.

- 1:30 PM Saturday, 911 call is made alerting police of the shootings. Police believe bodies were actually discovered before 1 PM -- cops are "concerned" about the time lapse.

Cops are still waiting for ballistics tests and gunshot residue reports to classify Kazemi's death.