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It's not quite the ultimate battle of good versus evil, but it'll do: America's Sweetheart is taking on a freshly jail-broken porn star in what's shaping up to be quite the headline-grabbing custody dispute.
The child in question is 5-year-old Sunny James, the daughter of Monster Garage host Jesse James and his trouble-plagued, sobriety-challenged, adult-film-star ex, Janine Lindemulder.
Sandra Bullock Battles Porn Star Janine Lindemulder for Child ...
Sandra Bullock Battles Porn Star for Child Custody - ABC News
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yeah.. calling it a fight seem a bit lame, it should be a slam dunk convicted felon who is with convicted felon, has drug charges, is in the adult industry vs. upstanding, able and biologicaly connected citizen...
Great cheekbones and bone structure in general but a little weight wouldn't hurt.
Contrary to popular opinion, the ability to give birth does not make you a good mother. Having money does not make you a bad mother, loving your step child and wanting them to be in a healthy does not make you an ogre out to "steal" someone's child. There are good mothers and bad mothers of all races and economic situations. Why don't we let the courts handle this, frankly, if the porn star was a good mother, she wouldn't be in this position.
I don't think a lot of those things are popular opinion.
Being a millionaire doesn't make a mom either. Sandra should not be actively trying to take this child from her mother. If Sandra is so righteous she should try to work with this women so the child is not traumatized as she grows up watching rich Sandra and her father wipe the floor with her mother. The woman (in another article) sounds very rational and fine and has offered to work with both the child's father and Sandra, the latter of which seem to want to use the judicial system to separate this mother from her child and this relationship SHOULD, be sacred and not interfered with by someone who chose never to have children herself.
Lets be clear, whatever the natural mother has been through, Sandra could never love that child as much as her natural mother; I’m sorry I don’t care what anyone claims about step-motherhood.
Many natural mothers are incapable of unconditional love and have so many issues themselves that their maternal instinctm even if strong, gets lost in translation,
That's not true. I am a stepmother, I love my daughter. Her mother abandoned her and has never looked back. Don't tell me about real mothers being better mothers. A real mother is the one that takes care of the child, the one that takes her to school, that helps with the homework, that reads to her every night, that takes her to the doctor. The one that raises her. A stepmother can be a better mother than a real one. And you don't know if Sandra didn't want to have children. I was never able to have them. Not because I didn't want to, because I couldn't. You don't know Sandra's situation. Also, I've met women that had children, who have been terrible mothers, and I know stepmothers who are great mothers.
My favorite comment of the night!
This mother didn't abandon her daughter, rather she made a bad decision about her taxes and had to pay for it by doing jail time. Whatever she may have done in the past, she's never been arrested for neglect of her child. It's too easy for someone without children, a millionaire with many advantages to stand up and claim she's a better mother. People come as they are but as good a step-mother as suppose you and your husband divorced and his new wife is a significant power in her community, with money and prestige and a spotless “record” so to speak; should she take over your parental duties to a child you invested your love and time in because she probably has the influence in the community to take the child?
This mother made a mistake but seemed sound of mine in other interviews I’ve read, and actually wants to talk and work with Sandra and the father of her child; the reports make it appear that Sandra and her husband just want the child for their own and are prepared to do what it takes to keep her, and don’t want to hear anything the child’s mother has to say. That's not good step parenting in my estimation; and I will dare say it; if the natural mother is not crazy and hasn't abandoned her baby, even with mistakes made, she of course should have the right to raise her own child.
On one hand its admirable that Sandra Bullock is "committed" to the child's welfare, but on the other hand she has no children of her own but a lot of money and perhaps she likes being a mom at the expense of the real mother.
Going to jail for tax evasion is not going to jail for child neglect so now that the natural mother is out of jail, if she's not on drugs, she should get her child back. Why confuse the child and make her chose loyalties if it that can be prevented?
It's wrong for Bullock to throw her money around especially as the natural mother is offering to talk to her about the situation. I read in another article that the natural mother is trying to negotiate amicable with Bullock and her husband, but Bullock and the child’s father have all the money, so they have the upper hand.
I hope the natural mother gets joint custody of her child, sharing custody with the child's father. Sandra Bullock should stay out of it.
Tell you what: Why don't we let the natural mother do a test run by joint-parenting one of your kids?
I'd counsel her in any way if I could; and she'd be welcome around my own child.
While I applaud Sandra's efforts to do the right thing by the child, I hope she'll be wise enough to avoid creating an environment of disrespect for the child's biological mother. Kids really do need to be able to love their parents, regardless of their bad choices, and not suffer from conflicting loyalties. We went through many years of dealing with my husband's ex---who was a major party girl---and it was a real challenge not to bad mouth and judge her at the time, but my step-son has continually thanked us all (his Mom, too!) for working so hard to get along as many of his friends lived in war zones growing up.
As a divorced parent now married to a WONDERFUL stepfather, I can say that Sandra will not NEED to disrespect this child's mother. Kids are so smart and so observant- no matter how much you try to shelter them, they realize a lot more about what is going on that adults want to admit they do. If this woman is doing drugs, behaving badly, etc. her daughter knows it. She will realize it and have to come to terms with it when she gets older.
I am sure that Sandra Bullock has read the step parenting books and - at least from this account- it sounds as if she has played by the rules and made wise choices for this child so far. I am sure this little girl loves her mother and even that her mother loves her back. But it just sounds like the James/Bullock household is a much more stable environment for a child. For starters- I had not heard anything about this until the MOTHER went on TV- it sounds as though Bullock and her husband have tried to keep it out of the press and keep the child's life private.
do not get invloved in theis custody fight SB.. don't ... nothing good come sout of custody fights, kids are hurt and in the end you will find yourself getting duped... stay tight lipped ...and a side-liner.. be a role model and parent ..but don't get mixed up in he said she said crapola.
'America's Sweetheart?' Oh please..
Right?!I thought Julia Robert's was America's sweetheart?(another joke)
yeah.. I thought Drew Barrymore was American's Sweetheart.. or was it Reece Witherspoon?
don't you all mean Meg Ryan?? wait, did I just write that?
I love you Sandra, call me when you get tired of the jerk.
Have supervised visitation and this has nothing to do with Sandra Bullock. Its between Jesse and his former wife. They all four should sit down mediation and resolve privately. The number one priority are the children and should not be completely taken away from their mother. Addiction is a terrible disease and hopefully Janine can show her sobriety and children are number one. Jesse & Sandra have substantial incomes and I am sure can provide a wonderful environment but Sandra needs to remember you don't step in and try to take away children from their own mother. Work out an agreement and again this is between Jesse and Janine.
Take a look at the skin-head, swastika tattooed convicted felon that biological mom married (who herself was just released from prison and is living in a halfway house) and answer honestly if you think anyone's child should be subjected to that environment.
Judging from seeing both of them on Inside Edition, they don't have the intellectual capacity to "sit down at mediation" anyway.
Check out photos of mom below:
http://www.cbsnews.com/elements/2009/10/29/crimesider/photoessay5450805.shtml?tag=page
Oh yeah, Jesse looks like he stepped off the cover of GQ - NOT.
Looking at it objectively, the child is significantly better off living with her father and Bullock.
I hope teh judge in this case will see that, and make visitation arrangements very carefully so that the child can keep what bonds of affection exist between her and her biological mother without her being put at risk.
Good point. Supervised would be best, until the sobriety of the mother is well established, if ever. Let's not forget the tragic deaths of children in auto accidents with drunk mothers/fathers.
When a young daughter is permanently taken from her mother not only is the mother/daughter bond altered negatively forever but the daughter suffers into adulthood. Women get their confidence in life by their mothers; their sense of self-esteem.
The teenage years between a mother and daughter are the worst but crucial for the daughters. Although there are lots of arguments, the daughter also knows there is no one on Earth she can trust more than her mother. When mothers and daughters are separated, there is no relationship that can replace it, particularly if the step-mother worked as hard as Sandra seems to be doing to separate this mother from her child.
Visitation will not cut it, Sandra needs to step back and allow her husband and the mother of his child work this out between them. Sandra, with her money could win the battle, but between this mother and her daughter Sandra will definitely lose the war because the child will grow up with her various insecurities and resent Sandra for her input in this situation.
Certainly the mother-daughter bond is vital and iving apart dis[rupts it... but living in a house where the mother is not only NOT emotionally available but is being emotionally abusive toward herself and her child disrupts that bond AND endangers the child.
If the woman is capable of unconditional love, she would want her child to be in a safe, stable place at least until she gets her sh*t together.
If this situation were reversed all of you would be applauding to have the child taken away from the father. The news piece chose to look at just Sandra's letter, barely noting that Jesse also wrote a letter. This is common in custody disputes, all parties write statements as to why they feel the child would be better off placed with them. Sandra is a major factor in this because she is 1/2 of the parenting team in Jesse's home. It would be more frowned upon by the courts if she didn't get involved as she will be helping to raise the child if he gets custody. Everyone makes poor choices in our lives and we have to deal with them, it is the current situation that is being discussed and of the 2 homes Jesse's may just be the more sober and stable one. Out of the 2 parents it seems he made the better choice of a second partner in terms of sobriety and stability. Exactly what would you do if you were he? Would you say "your honor, she gave birth so she must have the child, I'll just stop worrying about my babies health and stability because I didn't have the womb." Not. If a child is in an unhealthy situation, you do something about it. If you ignore it your an @ss.
It sounds like Sandra has the childs best interests at heart. Giving birth to a child doesn't make you a great parent. No one really knows what is going on here truly but I just hope this child grows up in a healthy environment. Good luck.
Janine has a long list of baggage. The child needs a stable home life what else is there to say?
If Janine Lindemulder is having trouble finding a job after committing tax evasion perhaps she should look into becoming Treasury Secretary. Granted working for the Obama administration is a step down from porn star.
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