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Online Dating Profile Pictures: 6 Surprising Tips For Better Pics (PHOTOS)

Huffington Post     First Posted: 04/19/10 06:12 AM ET   Updated: 05/25/11 04:35 PM ET

The free online dating service OkCupid.com analyzed over 7,000 photographs from users on its site to better understand what kinds of profile pictures are most effective for men and women.

Their surprising conclusions debunk some commonly held profile photo myths. Those corny MySpace shots? They do pretty well in the online dating scene, as it turns out...

We've synthesized the findings from all their statistical analysis and number-crunching in the slideshow below to present a few tips on what poses, settings, camera angles, and clothes work best for dating site profiles.

Want more details and examples? Check out OkCupid's blog OkTrends for the full report.

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  • Eye Contact

    OkCupid found that making eye contact with the camera is effective with some facial expressions, but less so with others. The worst attitude for women? Making a 'flirty face' without eye contact. Women who look directly at the camera while making flirty faces or smiling tend to get more messages than those who smile or look flirty <i>without</i> eye contact. For both sexes, not smiling while <i>making </i>eye contact is an ineffective pose. The optimal pose for guys' pics: don't smile, don't make eye contact. The second best? Smiling, without eye contact.

  • Camera Angle

    Those cheesy self-shot and webcam photos (aka the 'MySpace shot') actually have an edge in the online dating scene. For both men and women, self-shot pictures are more successful than average. OkCupid also found 'the MySpace Shot is the single most effective photo type for women.'

  • Showing Skin

    A little skin--helpful or harmful? OkCupid found that for women, the 'Cleavage Shot' is 'very successful, drawing 12.9 new contacts per month, or 49% more than average.' Women get fewer new messages as they get older, but a 'Cleavage Shot' can help stem this decline in messages: 'The older the woman, the more relatively successful she is showing off her body,' OkCupid concludes. Shirtless photos can help men, as well. 'If you're a guy with a nice body, it's actually better to take off your shirt than to leave it on,' OkCupid recommends. If you're staying clothed, dress as you normally would--guys who are 'all dressed up' fare less well than those who wear 'normal' outfits.

  • Smiling

    Even if you're friendly, funny, or just plain happy, smiling is not necessarily the best way to go. OkCupid's data indicated that women (when they looked directly into the camera) received more contacts when they made a 'flirty face' than when they smiled. On the whole, however, smiling is still better than not smiling for women. Men's photos are most effective when they look away from the camera and <i>don't</i> smile. Next best? Smile, but don't look at the camera.

  • Face

    Most dating sites--OkCupid included--tell users that they should be sure to show their face in their profile pictures. In fact, whether or not you show your face doesn't make much of a difference on your success. 'We found that all other things being equal whether you show your face really doesn’t affect your messages at all,' the site explains.

  • Context

    Want to show how social/well-traveled/fit you are in your picture? What you show yourself doing in your profile photo can affect the number of connections you make. The most popular photo contexts for women were: 1) 'Myspace' shot 2) In bed 3) Outdoors. For men: 1) With an animal 2) Showing off muscles 3) Doing something interesting. But what about the <i>quality</i> of those connections? OkCupid examined what kind of photos led to 'legitimate conversations.' The top three contexts (for both genders): 1) Doing something interesting 2) With animal 3) Travel photo.

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The free online dating service OkCupid.com analyzed over 7,000 photographs from users on its site to better understand what kinds of profile pictures are most effective for men and women. Their sur...
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PollyTics
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03:06 PM on 03/27/2010
Not having done any of the online dating scene, but having met a number of men online; I find that being the being "handsome" thing is all that important. Sure I'm attracted to men that I consider good looking, but that is hardly the end all or be all for me.

I look for intelligence, humor and who they are in their "off" hours. IF they look like Brad Pitt, great; but I have also dated (and loved) some men who like Homer Simpson.

So buck up guys, it's WHO you are, not always what you look like!
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Plurabelle06
02:30 PM on 03/27/2010
I actually met my husband through an online dating service. Neither of us were homely people who couldn't get a date, but I wasn't finding the kind of person I wanted to date and he was single after being married for 15 years. His profile picture from work wasn't great (it was of him reporting at a crime scene) and I couldn't tell much about him, but what he wrote in his blurb and his e-mail to me was what attracted me to him as opposed to the other responses I got. He is the only person I replied to and after a few e-mail exchanges we talked on the phone and then met for dinner. We have been married for 6 years now and are still as happy with each other as the day we met. The advantage to online dating over meeting people by chance is you know that both people want a relationship and what the person's interests are. I had dated before and even been engaged before, but no one shared by interests and beliefs like my husband does and if I hadn't given the online dating a shot, I would've never found him. I also know of 4 other couples who married the person they met online and they are all still happy too. I think those odds are just as good as people who meet in a bar.
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Balzac
07:41 PM on 02/17/2010
I did something similar to one of these bad dating profile pics, but the point was to make a silly picture like Snooki naked in her ugly bedroom, or one of these terrible bathroom mirror photos which have become so common. But then I took it down, because it was enough for a gag one day.
04:47 PM on 02/17/2010
This is like 80% of the polls out there. The entire methodology and assumptions are false. I'm not trying to diss anyone here for using online dating services, but most of the users of them are already a B- at best in the looks department. Online dating sites are a place you go to "settle", end of story. Nude pics say "I'm too immature to even show up for the date, or my face needs a bag". Actions shots say "I don't really travel that much, but here's a picture from that one time I went somewhere". Dog pics are usually the most obscene and twisted individuals (think predator trying to catch his prey). Tattoos are one night stand material. People with pictures of them doing things of questionable legality probably aren't even serious about being hooked up with anyone, and even if they are, they aren't relationship material. "Myspace shots" mean, I said I was 19 on the form, but I'm really 15, and wont tell you until the "Catch a Predator" guy walks out with the cookies.

The most promising long term relationship people are the ones with obvious flaws in their picture, a few extra pounds on them or some other feature deemed unattractive by societal standards, with a boring job and you can hear the desperation behind their profile description. Even then it's a crap shoot.
10:19 AM on 02/22/2010
Speaking as a "middle aged" guy, who jumped into online dating a couple years ago after a divorce, alot of Notawingnut's comments seem pretty spot-on, especially about the ones with prominent "dog pics". Have seen the stats that posing with an animal is considered "more attractive", but be careful what you wish for! I was married to a woman who was later clinically diagnosed with a serious personality disorder (NPD/BPD). Have since come to recognize from hard-won experience that the heavy-duty "animal lovers", especially the ones who obviously make it a part of their "identity".... these are definitely not good "relationship material", especially from the standpoint of psychological and emotional health. And when you get to know them, the term "predator" pretty accurately sums it up!

http://samvak.tripod.com/animal.html
06:04 PM on 03/26/2010
Hey, that isn't true!
04:03 PM on 02/17/2010
Ok Cupid has a limited cross section of daters in its pool. It appears that users of their site are younger (20 or 30). Thus, generating their advice and information to more mature and discerning on-line dater is a poor and un-useful extrapolation.
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Vernon Brown
03:59 PM on 02/17/2010
What about flipping the bird? I see that one a lot. Where did that come from?
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Mirabai305
Are you Jeff Vader?
02:53 PM on 02/17/2010
The shibari picture is pretty nice, though.
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lawrencemuh
02:48 PM on 02/17/2010
they forgot the tip of taking shotsin the year 2010 versus those taken 10 years ago and 100 pounds lighter.
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Fernando
My Micro-bio is empty? Really?
05:48 PM on 02/17/2010
LOL!
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alisonv
02:38 PM on 02/17/2010
I wouldn't do a deep cleavage shot if I were looking for a serious relationship. Getting "lots" of hits is not the same as finding love. I also don't think I'd be attracted to a man who showed off his body to the world on internet. Oh...OK, I might be attracted...but probably wouldn't call. I would think he was a playboy. How do the women here feel about that?
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laaambchop
Cheerfulness is a sign of wisdom
03:00 AM on 02/18/2010
agree on both points
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LastAngryWoman
waiting for godot
03:06 PM on 03/26/2010
Yup. Agree on both points.
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Tyler-Durden
leading a revolution of one
02:36 PM on 02/17/2010
i hate the myspace shot.

you can't take a picture of yourself without half your arm in the way?

and why are they holding the camera over their head? can't just hold it straight out in front of your face?

you can try to make yourself look thinner, or your breasts bigger, or your nose smaller, but it's not going to help when they see you in person and are significantly let down. why not just airbrush your pics too?

posers.

DON'T GO ONLINE FOR DATES. GROW SOME CAJONES AND GO OUT IN PUBLIC AND MEET PEOPLE.
02:20 PM on 02/17/2010
Here's a huge protip..be attractive. All this is bs, if you're like someone like myself that honestly isn't that great to look at, teeth not fantastic or in shape, you'll be ignored. Been there, done it and seen it. We live in the era of lookism.
04:20 PM on 02/17/2010
I suppose being nominally attractive is a good thing. Although, that phrase has a different meaning to each user. However, your photo should be designed to emphasize your good features. For example, dressing neatly and properly coordinated attire is important. In addition, if you have an issue with your teeth, keep your mouth closed. Although, if you have dental issues you should be actively working to address them. Theses issues could affect your health as well as your dating potential.

In stead of the photo above, choose a sport coat complemented by a stylish shirt. Choose colors that complement your complexion and insure that the background allows you to be the emphasis. Perhaps you see someone about a more flattering your hair cut.
05:32 PM on 02/17/2010
or not.
01:06 PM on 03/26/2010
Actually, I think "no looker" men sometimes do themselves more a disservice by ALSO posting lousy photos of themselves. This doesn't mean get a fancy headshot done but post a photo, even a myspace photo that looks the best. Not the one where people can barely see your face, or your so far in the background no one can see much about you, or you're in the dark, or the photo's fuzzy or you're standing there in your stained tee shirt with a day's growth of beard.

Take a whole bunch of photos and pick the best one or have a friend help you shooting the pictures and choosing. I know a lot of women for whom the guy not being a "looker", maybe heavy set isn't the actual turn off but the "lack of self-esteem" that seems to be inherent the lack of good presentation of photos. Put some effort into it! It shows!

Also, spend sometime and write something intelligent in the "intros" on each site. Not the same blah, blah, blah.

I also think if for both women and men, if you can post an extra "funny" photo (not stupid but funny) of yourself in you set of photos it can be an ice breaker. Or a photo that is unusual and says something interesting about who you are.
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alieninvader
01:59 PM on 02/17/2010
Quantity is not the same as quality. No face cleavage shots might get me a lot of responses, but something makes me think they wouldn't be looking for relationships.
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alisonv
02:39 PM on 02/17/2010
Exactly!
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Rusty Gordon
12:19 PM on 02/17/2010
I am almost certain the photo of the woman taken in the 1940s holding the heart shaped box is singer/actress Julie London. Can anyone confirm this?
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Zillacabra
Fighter of the Nightman. Champion of the Sun.
11:18 AM on 02/17/2010
This article is not true!!!! I posted a photo on a dating website of me go-karting nude through Tijuana while hugging a mulefoot hog and got ZERO responses!!!!!
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Mirabai305
Are you Jeff Vader?
11:47 AM on 02/17/2010
Were you smiling?
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alisonv
02:39 PM on 02/17/2010
And looking away from the camera?
11:07 AM on 02/17/2010
I've actually had the unmittigated gaul to copy a womans pic to my desktop, (WITH permission) work the lighting and the color balance only (no REAL photoshop work) and send the pic back to the woman in an email. Not only has every one of them thanked me for the effort, but they have also re-posted the corrected image. It never ceases to amaze me, that if you're ON a computer posting images, there are programs available in your OS to do even the simplest fixes to help portray oneself in the best possible way. The BIGGEST offense is simple lighting. So many people on sites look like residents of Pandora in Avatar becuase the pic is shot in front of the monitor! Turn some lights on, people! Put a small table lamp next to the monitor, or a gooseneck on over the top. Are you in THAT much of a hurry? There's a reason the Hollywood phrase goes 'Lights... Camera... ACTION!'