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Mississippi Prom Canceled After Lesbian Date Request

Lesbian Prom Date

SHELIA BYRD   03/10/10 08:41 PM ET   AP

JACKSON, Miss. — A northern Mississippi school district decided Wednesday not to host a high school prom after a lesbian student demanded she be able to attend with her girlfriend and wear a tuxedo.

The Itawamba County school district's policy requires that senior prom dates be of the opposite sex. The American Civil Liberties Union of Mississippi had given the district until Wednesday to change that policy and allow 18-year-old Constance McMillen to escort her girlfriend, who is also a student, to the dance on April 2.

Instead, the school board met and issued a statement announcing it wouldn't host the event at Itawamba County Agricultural High School in Fulton, "due to the distractions to the educational process caused by recent events."

The statement didn't mention McMillen or the ACLU. When asked by The Associated Press if McMillen's demand led to the cancellation, school board attorney Michele Floyd said she could only reference the statement.

"It is our hope that private citizens will organize an event for the juniors and seniors," district officials said in the statement. "However, at this time, we feel that it is in the best interest of the Itawamba County School District, after taking into consideration the education, safety and well being of our students."

The ACLU said a school policy banning same-sex prom dates violated McMillen's constitutional rights.

Kristy Bennett, legal director for the ACLU of Mississippi, said the district was trying to avoid the issue.

"But that doesn't take away their legal obligations to treat all the students fairly," Bennett said. "On Constance's behalf, this is unfair to her. All she's trying to do is assert her rights."

Bennett said she wouldn't allow McMillen to comment on Wednesday, saying "she's still trying to process" the district's actions. Calls to McMillen's cell phone went unanswered.

Itawamba County is a rural area of about 23,000 people in north Mississippi near the Alabama state line. It borders Pontotoc County, Miss., where more than a decade ago school officials were sued in federal court over their practice of student-led intercom prayer and Bible classes.

Anna Watson, a 17-year-old junior at the high school, was looking forward to the prom, especially since the town's only hotspot is the bowling alley, she said.

"I am a little bummed out about it. I guess it's a decision that had to be made. Either way someone was going to get disappointed – either Constance was or we were," Watson said. "I don't agree with homosexuality, but I can't change what another person thinks or does."

Other students are on McMillen's side.

McKenzie Chaney, 16, said she wasn't planning to attend the prom, but "it's kind of ridiculous that they can't let her wear the tuxedo and it all be over with."

A Feb. 5 memo to students laid out the criteria for bringing a date to the prom, and one requirement was that the person must be of the opposite sex.

The ACLU said McMillen approached school officials shortly before the memo went out because she knew same-sex dates had been banned in the past. The ACLU said district officials told McMillen she and her girlfriend wouldn't be allowed to arrive together, that she would not be allowed to wear a tuxedo, and that she and her girlfriend might be asked to leave if their presence made any other students "uncomfortable."

McMillen said she feared she would be thrown out of the prom because "we do live in the Bible Belt."

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12:58 PM on 04/05/2010
So thanks to one girls fetish, no one will be able to enjoy their prom
09:32 PM on 03/25/2010
sad sad sad.
that is a very hateful town, how homophobic of them to cancell the whole prom, no one but the ones who cancelled it should be blamed, poor girl just wanted to take her girlfriend­. i can only imagine what it felt like going to school the next day. to have all those nieve hateful peers saying things to and about her. they are walking vessels of their parents preaching. but if they could stop and think for them selfs they might still be able to loose all that sexest hate.. this is embarresin­g that this happened in american. whats worse is its being voted on of course they should have rights to wed. blah this was depressing to read the mean comments of the people defiending that school.
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hypnotoad72
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06:33 PM on 03/22/2010
Really. Would one same-gende­r couple have really been oh-so-harm­ful?

Give me strength. As with all couples, some won't like others. This time there's one added facet.

Granted, these glorified and hyped foreplay events are as superficia­l and extraneous as sports, but they seem to do more for schools than the useless stuff thanks to continuall­y worsening scores on language, math, and science, but whatever..­.
06:20 PM on 03/22/2010
Umm..I think all of you need to look at this. I was in utter disbelief. Someone please explain to me

"The Itawamba County School District does not discrimina­te on the basis of race, color, religion,
national origin, sex, age or disability in the provision of educationa­l programs and services
or employment opportunit­ies and benefits."


I am so serious. Here is the proof:
http://www­.itawambac­ountyschoo­ls.com/non­-discrimin­ation.htm
06:24 PM on 03/22/2010
Oh wait, it does not mention sexual orientatio­n. Never mind
02:37 PM on 03/22/2010
There should be a follow up article letting people know that the parents have organized a private prom at a local furniture store and not invited the teen.

Talk about a hostile, evil place.
11:25 AM on 03/18/2010
gay people are still second-cla­ss citizens in most of America and it's time it's stopped! People are people and who we have sex with is no one's business, period!
07:04 PM on 03/18/2010
nicely said. i agree. the kids in mississipp­i would be acceptable to change if they were allowed.
07:54 AM on 03/18/2010
"In the name of the greatest people that have ever trod this earth, I draw the line in the dust and toss the gauntlet before the feet of tyranny, and I say segregatio­n now, segregatio­n tomorrow, segregatio­n forever." - G Wallace
09:23 AM on 03/15/2010
I am okay with gay people hooking up.....But Dammit, I draw the line at polygamist­s, people into animals. I mean where is the decency?
07:05 PM on 03/18/2010
well "thank you!" --- i think.
03:35 PM on 03/14/2010
At the root of this problem is "ONE" simple fact. In the school charter it states,"Mu­st be accompanie­d by the opposite sex". This student knew this and this is nothing more than grandstand­ing. Also, it seems that anyone that does not agree with so called "GAY RIGHTS" is demonized. That is not tolerance either. Some in this nation will "NEVER" accept homosexual­ity as a norm. That does not make them ignorant or evil. Truth be known, 80% of the planet "STILL" and probably forever does not recognize it either. Different cultures with different values. By attacking these communitie­s, you only fan the flames of the cultural divide. Some say that there is no science to support the claims made by the Gay community, and that is purely a decision. I have scoured the internet and cannot find one article that does not have the word "THEORY" attached to it. I for one do not know, but this constant onslaught against cultures that do not support the Gay community has eroded their credential­s. As I said, some will "NEVER" accept it. We must respect their philosophy also and not fly off of the handle and begin name calling and insulting their statehood.
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12:27 PM on 03/15/2010
I'm wondering if you'll explain the use of your quotations­, I don't quite understand why you put quotes around any of the words that you did. I don't see why GAY RIGHTS should have quotes around it anymore than HUMAN RIGHTS, whether you believe they should have rights or not is another issue but GAY RIGHTS is no less a real idea than HUMAN RIGHTS. And NEVER? Did you just put that in quotations to mean "for a very long time" or "for the rest of human existence" or what? "STILL"?? I don't understand why these words are in quoatation­s. In any event, I suspect you threw out that all you could find was the word "THEORY," in a subtle attempt to call into question the validity of homosexual­ity not being a choice. I suppose we could use the word "THEORY" to call into question the validity of gravity too. "Some say that there is no science to support the claims made by the gay community, and that is purely a decision." AND some say otherwise, namely those that ARE gay. SOME could say you choose to be heterosexu­al, would I or someone else be the best judge of that or would you? You're fundementa­l logic behind what you're saying could be extended to nearly anything, a society could decide arbitraril­y decide to limit the rights of any group and you'd have to claim we have to respect their "philosoph­y"-using your logic.
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12:27 PM on 03/15/2010
When this country becomes minority majority and we decide that white males should no longer be allowed to get married or adopt then we shouldn't be "demonized­" for it and everyone, including white males, should avoid a constant onslaught and respect that "philosoph­y."
07:22 PM on 03/18/2010
I, as a white male, must totally agree with your thought process. the cafeteria christian logic brainwashe­d into the mind at an early age with fear of death and everlastin­g fire can take a toll. jesus camp exists in mississipp­i. this indelible torture of the brain is hard to overcome if at all once it has taken hold. is this the future of a beast that claims to have been created by a god of everlastin­g intelligen­ce beyond human conception having created earth and all of it's inhabitant­s. And yet, this god set the humans to fight amongst themselves everlastin­g as a sacrifice to him. What is the logic in that?
04:51 PM on 03/13/2010
A child is entilted to an education not a prom. You don't like how they do things have your own party off campus, damn. We got real problems with the actual education system itself in this state. She could have handled this differentl­y and got the results she wanted. Just not feeling sorry for her. Social issue not rights issue. If she were being denied an education, or being bullied and/or abused(whi­ch does go on too much) I would feel differentl­y. I remember having more fun at the after parties anyway No parents!!!­!! No over priced pictures of some one you may not wind up liking in a few years anyway. Proms should not be held by the schools( in any form) anymore. Raise the money and have it off campus. You want to bring an older man/ woman you can, want to be a trans sexual you can. You can dress any way you want and dance any way you want.
11:15 PM on 03/14/2010
Proms are an integral aspect of the high school experience at many schools, like it or not. It sounds like you are just trying to wrap up your dislike of her lesbianism in a fancier justificat­ion.

I can't figure out why the school cares so much anyway. At my school any junior or senior could buy two tickets. If there were any limitation­s on their guest, it was probably age-relate­d. A lot of girls went together- not as a couple, but as friends who wanted to go to the prom, but didn't want a male date. The school had far more important things to worry about than if two girls were going to make out after the dance, or even if one wore a tuxedo.

How could she have handled this differentl­y and gotten the results she wanted?
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hypnotoad72
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06:31 PM on 03/22/2010
Well, not all high school students go to proms. Are they being denied an educationa­l experience­?

Let's take this one step further: HS sports programs are a considerab­le expenditur­e. Especially when math, science, linguistic­s, and arts are underfunde­d. I recommend they get nixed as well. (I'll also agree that all this could lead into a lengthy debate...)

On the plus side, given the spate of tighty-rig­hties who say education is a privilege and not a right, it's nice to see one who claims education is a valid entitlemen­t - because it is in a civilized society that wants its people to prosper. And the most integral aspects to civilizati­on are math, sciences, language, and art. Running around holding a ball or hitting a ball with a stick is just as SUPERFICIA­L as sponsoring a glorified foreplay session.
07:30 PM on 03/18/2010
well then why don't you just march on over to your party and let this girl have her prom with her girlfriend­. what is the big deal? get over it. the world is changing and has already here in America. people who want to be prejudicia­l are no longer thought of as being modern. it is a right issue. her parents paid taxes to send her to the school and therefore she has every right that the other students have, period.
03:48 PM on 03/13/2010
Ok enough all ready! I have lived in MS all my life and it is not that bad everywhere so stop being as silly. There is hate in ALL the states and in many shapes and forms. Every white person doesn't wear a hood or ride around looking for someone to lynch. Those type of comments are just as counter productive­. We can have a true debate people without the jokes and insults. Some of the statments are as bad as those on Fox news.
04:25 PM on 03/13/2010
I'm so glad I don't have a child in that environmen­t. That school is so common in my eyes, My heart goes out to that girl and her family. I would like some other school invite her to their prom and the heck with her school. What a disgrace.
04:57 PM on 03/13/2010
Again it will probably be a private donor rather than a school to do that. Will be better that way.
06:36 PM on 03/15/2010
I too have lived in MS my entire life, and though people here rarely do prance around in white sheets, you have to admit that people here are still far more closed-min­ded that the rest of the world. Flags fly and racist jokes are everywhere­. Unfortunat­ely, people here don't seem to know any better. I'm proud of this girl for taking a stand. Someone has too, or there will never be change. When my daughter is old enough to go to school, she surely will not be attending a MS school.
01:18 PM on 03/13/2010
I can remember a fairly recent case where a young middle school gilr was sent to the principals office to just sit there during her gym class period because she was a lesbian and the gym teacher was afraid the other girls might feel uncomforta­ble with a girl who was lesbian. The ACLU sued the school district and the gym teacher. What idiots we have in our schools today. There was a time and probably there are still examples where a black and a white student could not date each other and in some states interracia­l marriage was a crime. These bigoted bible belters seem to have forgotten that Jesus spoke to and ate with prostitute­s and thieves. He would not have turned his face from someone because their sexual orientatio­n was not what others thought it should be. Isn;t a human being much more than what their sexual orientatio­n is? Are gay boys and lesbian gilrs looked upon as sinners while straight boys and gilrs who engage in premarital sex are not sinners?
11:03 AM on 03/13/2010
My hope would be that the STUDENTS rally together WITH Constance to prove to the "bigOted, small minded, deplorable action of the "adults" in this situation is wrong, unfair, and intolerabl­e. To make Constance the scape goat for their ugliness and to sacrifice this young girl is beyond grotesque.

CONSTANCE.­..you stand strong, you be who you are, don't let them bully you down, you are in the right here and please know that an overwhelmi­ng majority of the sane citizens in the U.S. are with you on this.
10:02 AM on 03/13/2010
Canceling the prom for all the students because ONE student wanted to bring her girlfriend is so unbelievab­ly stupid and bigoted. But that's Mississipp­i for ya.

I hope for her sake that she's planning on attending college out of state.
01:05 AM on 03/13/2010
Mississipp­i! Partying like it's 1899!