Mississippi Prom Canceled After Lesbian Date Request

SHELIA BYRD | 03/10/10 08:41 PM | AP

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This 2009 photo released by Constance McMillen's family via The ACLU of Mississippi, taken in Fulton, Miss., shows Constance McMillen, 18, a student at the Itawamba County Agricultural High School. The American Civil Liberties Union had demanded she be allowed to bring her girlfriend, who is also a student at the school to the April 2, 2010, prom. The school board met, Wednesday, March 10, 2010, and issued a statement announcing it wouldn't host the prom at the Itawamba County Agricultural High

JACKSON, Miss. — A northern Mississippi school district decided Wednesday not to host a high school prom after a lesbian student demanded she be able to attend with her girlfriend and wear a tuxedo.

The Itawamba County school district's policy requires that senior prom dates be of the opposite sex. The American Civil Liberties Union of Mississippi had given the district until Wednesday to change that policy and allow 18-year-old Constance McMillen to escort her girlfriend, who is also a student, to the dance on April 2.

Instead, the school board met and issued a statement announcing it wouldn't host the event at Itawamba County Agricultural High School in Fulton, "due to the distractions to the educational process caused by recent events."

The statement didn't mention McMillen or the ACLU. When asked by The Associated Press if McMillen's demand led to the cancellation, school board attorney Michele Floyd said she could only reference the statement.

"It is our hope that private citizens will organize an event for the juniors and seniors," district officials said in the statement. "However, at this time, we feel that it is in the best interest of the Itawamba County School District, after taking into consideration the education, safety and well being of our students."

The ACLU said a school policy banning same-sex prom dates violated McMillen's constitutional rights.

Kristy Bennett, legal director for the ACLU of Mississippi, said the district was trying to avoid the issue.

"But that doesn't take away their legal obligations to treat all the students fairly," Bennett said. "On Constance's behalf, this is unfair to her. All she's trying to do is assert her rights."

Bennett said she wouldn't allow McMillen to comment on Wednesday, saying "she's still trying to process" the district's actions. Calls to McMillen's cell phone went unanswered.

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Itawamba County is a rural area of about 23,000 people in north Mississippi near the Alabama state line. It borders Pontotoc County, Miss., where more than a decade ago school officials were sued in federal court over their practice of student-led intercom prayer and Bible classes.

Anna Watson, a 17-year-old junior at the high school, was looking forward to the prom, especially since the town's only hotspot is the bowling alley, she said.

"I am a little bummed out about it. I guess it's a decision that had to be made. Either way someone was going to get disappointed – either Constance was or we were," Watson said. "I don't agree with homosexuality, but I can't change what another person thinks or does."

Other students are on McMillen's side.

McKenzie Chaney, 16, said she wasn't planning to attend the prom, but "it's kind of ridiculous that they can't let her wear the tuxedo and it all be over with."

A Feb. 5 memo to students laid out the criteria for bringing a date to the prom, and one requirement was that the person must be of the opposite sex.

The ACLU said McMillen approached school officials shortly before the memo went out because she knew same-sex dates had been banned in the past. The ACLU said district officials told McMillen she and her girlfriend wouldn't be allowed to arrive together, that she would not be allowed to wear a tuxedo, and that she and her girlfriend might be asked to leave if their presence made any other students "uncomfortable."

McMillen said she feared she would be thrown out of the prom because "we do live in the Bible Belt."

JACKSON, Miss. — A northern Mississippi school district decided Wednesday not to host a high school prom after a lesbian student demanded she be able to attend with her girlfriend and wear a tux...
JACKSON, Miss. — A northern Mississippi school district decided Wednesday not to host a high school prom after a lesbian student demanded she be able to attend with her girlfriend and wear a tux...
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SunTzuSon   12:58 PM on 4/05/2010
So thanks to one girls fetish, no one will be able to enjoy their prom
heathermichelle44   09:32 PM on 3/25/2010
sad sad sad.
that is a very hateful town, how homophobic of them to cancell the whole prom, no one but the ones who cancelled it should be blamed, poor girl just wanted to take her girlfriend. i can only imagine what it felt like going to school the next day. to have all those nieve hateful peers saying things to and about her. they are walking vessels of their parents preaching. but if they could stop and think for them selfs they might still be able to loose all that sexest hate.. this is embarresing that this happened in american. whats worse is its being voted on of course they should have rights to wed. blah this was depressing to read the mean comments of the people defiending that school.
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hypnotoad72   06:33 PM on 3/22/2010
Really. Would one same-gender couple have really been oh-so-harmful?

Give me strength. As with all couples, some won't like others. This time there's one added facet.

Granted, these glorified and hyped foreplay events are as superficial and extraneous as sports, but they seem to do more for schools than the useless stuff thanks to continually worsening scores on language, math, and science, but whatever...
AboutMe123   06:20 PM on 3/22/2010
Umm..I think all of you need to look at this. I was in utter disbelief. Someone please explain to me

"The Itawamba County School District does not discriminate on the basis of race, color, religion,
national origin, sex, age or disability in the provision of educational programs and services
or employment opportunities and benefits."


I am so serious. Here is the proof:
http://www.itawambacountyschools.com/non-discrimination.htm
AboutMe123   06:24 PM on 3/22/2010
Oh wait, it does not mention sexual orientation. Never mind
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SteveS   02:37 PM on 3/22/2010
There should be a follow up article letting people know that the parents have organized a private prom at a local furniture store and not invited the teen.

Talk about a hostile, evil place.
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ErinTrouble Mandeson   11:25 AM on 3/18/2010
gay people are still second-class citizens in most of America and it's time it's stopped! People are people and who we have sex with is no one's business, period!
johncopeland   07:04 PM on 3/18/2010
nicely said. i agree. the kids in mississippi would be acceptable to change if they were allowed.
pwnfactory2   07:54 AM on 3/18/2010
"In the name of the greatest people that have ever trod this earth, I draw the line in the dust and toss the gauntlet before the feet of tyranny, and I say segregation now, segregation tomorrow, segregation forever." - G Wallace
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LIBERTARIANS SHOULD RULE   09:23 AM on 3/15/2010
I am okay with gay people hooking up.....But Dammit, I draw the line at polygamists, people into animals. I mean where is the decency?
johncopeland   07:05 PM on 3/18/2010
well "thank you!" --- i think.
dreamlnd56   03:35 PM on 3/14/2010
At the root of this problem is "ONE" simple fact. In the school charter it states,"Must be accompanied by the opposite sex". This student knew this and this is nothing more than grandstanding. Also, it seems that anyone that does not agree with so called "GAY RIGHTS" is demonized. That is not tolerance either. Some in this nation will "NEVER" accept homosexuality as a norm. That does not make them ignorant or evil. Truth be known, 80% of the planet "STILL" and probably forever does not recognize it either. Different cultures with different values. By attacking these communities, you only fan the flames of the cultural divide. Some say that there is no science to support the claims made by the Gay community, and that is purely a decision. I have scoured the internet and cannot find one article that does not have the word "THEORY" attached to it. I for one do not know, but this constant onslaught against cultures that do not support the Gay community has eroded their credentials. As I said, some will "NEVER" accept it. We must respect their philosophy also and not fly off of the handle and begin name calling and insulting their statehood.
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Leighton Brady   12:27 PM on 3/15/2010
I'm wondering if you'll explain the use of your quotations, I don't quite understand why you put quotes around any of the words that you did. I don't see why GAY RIGHTS should have quotes around it anymore than HUMAN RIGHTS, whether you believe they should have rights or not is another issue but GAY RIGHTS is no less a real idea than HUMAN RIGHTS. And NEVER? Did you just put that in quotations to mean "for a very long time" or "for the rest of human existence" or what? "STILL"?? I don't understand why these words are in quoatations. In any event, I suspect you threw out that all you could find was the word "THEORY," in a subtle attempt to call into question the validity of homosexuality not being a choice. I suppose we could use the word "THEORY" to call into question the validity of gravity too. "Some say that there is no science to support the claims made by the gay community, and that is purely a decision." AND some say otherwise, namely those that ARE gay. SOME could say you choose to be heterosexual, would I or someone else be the best judge of that or would you? You're fundemental logic behind what you're saying could be extended to nearly anything, a society could decide arbitrarily decide to limit the rights of any group and you'd have to claim we have to respect their "philosophy"-using your logic.
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Leighton Brady   12:27 PM on 3/15/2010
When this country becomes minority majority and we decide that white males should no longer be allowed to get married or adopt then we shouldn't be "demonized" for it and everyone, including white males, should avoid a constant onslaught and respect that "philosophy."
johncopeland   07:22 PM on 3/18/2010
I, as a white male, must totally agree with your thought process. the cafeteria christian logic brainwashed into the mind at an early age with fear of death and everlasting fire can take a toll. jesus camp exists in mississippi. this indelible torture of the brain is hard to overcome if at all once it has taken hold. is this the future of a beast that claims to have been created by a god of everlasting intelligence beyond human conception having created earth and all of it's inhabitants. And yet, this god set the humans to fight amongst themselves everlasting as a sacrifice to him. What is the logic in that?
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mindnumbed   07:17 PM on 3/24/2010
How silly.
what if wo friends of the same sex (male or female) wanted to go to the prom? Maybe, just maybe these two straight folks didn't want to deal with the hassle of finding a date. According to the schools rules, that wouldn't be allowed.

The only reason for the rule is to discriminate.

Sad.
simplulo   08:32 PM on 4/09/2010
At the root of this problem is *ONE* simple fact: the school is government-owned and operated. If the school were private, they could do whatever they want. There could be two schools, or more, each with its own policies. In a government school, every decision becomes politicized, and every rule a Constitutional issue. Decentralize, privatize, and depoliticize!
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Shimra Jaime Fine   08:22 PM on 4/14/2010
Well I do respect that people have different views. I am okay with people not agreeing with homosexuality. However I am not okay with those people not allowing others to have the same basic rights just because they disagree. This girl is not grandstanding, she is just saying she wants to be able to go with her girlfriend. Yes it is clearly stated that same sex prom dates were against school policy, but that does not mean that this policy is okay. It is not. It is an outdated rule. There are many laws that were trampling on peoples rights in the past, and people stood up to them. Were they grandstanding? No. They were just trying to stand up for what they believe in. I know that if I went to prom and wanted to go with someone in particular I would be absolutely furious if school policy dictated it was not allowed. And the school has no right to tell her she cannot wear a tuxedo either. It is overly exposing her in an inappropriate way and it is not vile, or offensive, so what is the problem? Girls where pants to school and no one cares, so why can't she wear a tuxedo to an event she is PAYING to attend.
creole girl   04:51 PM on 3/13/2010
A child is entilted to an education not a prom. You don't like how they do things have your own party off campus, damn. We got real problems with the actual education system itself in this state. She could have handled this differently and got the results she wanted. Just not feeling sorry for her. Social issue not rights issue. If she were being denied an education, or being bullied and/or abused(which does go on too much) I would feel differently. I remember having more fun at the after parties anyway No parents!!!!! No over priced pictures of some one you may not wind up liking in a few years anyway. Proms should not be held by the schools( in any form) anymore. Raise the money and have it off campus. You want to bring an older man/ woman you can, want to be a trans sexual you can. You can dress any way you want and dance any way you want.
whateverlolawants   11:15 PM on 3/14/2010
Proms are an integral aspect of the high school experience at many schools, like it or not. It sounds like you are just trying to wrap up your dislike of her lesbianism in a fancier justification.

I can't figure out why the school cares so much anyway. At my school any junior or senior could buy two tickets. If there were any limitations on their guest, it was probably age-related. A lot of girls went together- not as a couple, but as friends who wanted to go to the prom, but didn't want a male date. The school had far more important things to worry about than if two girls were going to make out after the dance, or even if one wore a tuxedo.

How could she have handled this differently and gotten the results she wanted?
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hypnotoad72   06:31 PM on 3/22/2010
Well, not all high school students go to proms. Are they being denied an educational experience?

Let's take this one step further: HS sports programs are a considerable expenditure. Especially when math, science, linguistics, and arts are underfunded. I recommend they get nixed as well. (I'll also agree that all this could lead into a lengthy debate...)

On the plus side, given the spate of tighty-righties who say education is a privilege and not a right, it's nice to see one who claims education is a valid entitlement - because it is in a civilized society that wants its people to prosper. And the most integral aspects to civilization are math, sciences, language, and art. Running around holding a ball or hitting a ball with a stick is just as SUPERFICIAL as sponsoring a glorified foreplay session.
johncopeland   07:30 PM on 3/18/2010
well then why don't you just march on over to your party and let this girl have her prom with her girlfriend. what is the big deal? get over it. the world is changing and has already here in America. people who want to be prejudicial are no longer thought of as being modern. it is a right issue. her parents paid taxes to send her to the school and therefore she has every right that the other students have, period.
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Shimra Jaime Fine   08:26 PM on 4/14/2010
Haha I like your idea better, but I still feel bad for her because she is being discriminated against, and that never feels good.
creole girl   03:48 PM on 3/13/2010
Ok enough all ready! I have lived in MS all my life and it is not that bad everywhere so stop being as silly. There is hate in ALL the states and in many shapes and forms. Every white person doesn't wear a hood or ride around looking for someone to lynch. Those type of comments are just as counter productive. We can have a true debate people without the jokes and insults. Some of the statments are as bad as those on Fox news.
bbclary   04:25 PM on 3/13/2010
I'm so glad I don't have a child in that environment. That school is so common in my eyes, My heart goes out to that girl and her family. I would like some other school invite her to their prom and the heck with her school. What a disgrace.
creole girl   04:57 PM on 3/13/2010
Again it will probably be a private donor rather than a school to do that. Will be better that way.
kladne3   06:36 PM on 3/15/2010
I too have lived in MS my entire life, and though people here rarely do prance around in white sheets, you have to admit that people here are still far more closed-minded that the rest of the world. Flags fly and racist jokes are everywhere. Unfortunately, people here don't seem to know any better. I'm proud of this girl for taking a stand. Someone has too, or there will never be change. When my daughter is old enough to go to school, she surely will not be attending a MS school.
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Brandon Middler   01:18 PM on 3/13/2010
I can remember a fairly recent case where a young middle school gilr was sent to the principals office to just sit there during her gym class period because she was a lesbian and the gym teacher was afraid the other girls might feel uncomfortable with a girl who was lesbian. The ACLU sued the school district and the gym teacher. What idiots we have in our schools today. There was a time and probably there are still examples where a black and a white student could not date each other and in some states interracial marriage was a crime. These bigoted bible belters seem to have forgotten that Jesus spoke to and ate with prostitutes and thieves. He would not have turned his face from someone because their sexual orientation was not what others thought it should be. Isn;t a human being much more than what their sexual orientation is? Are gay boys and lesbian gilrs looked upon as sinners while straight boys and gilrs who engage in premarital sex are not sinners?
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jamw   11:03 AM on 3/13/2010
My hope would be that the STUDENTS rally together WITH Constance to prove to the "bigOted, small minded, deplorable action of the "adults" in this situation is wrong, unfair, and intolerable. To make Constance the scape goat for their ugliness and to sacrifice this young girl is beyond grotesque.

CONSTANCE...you stand strong, you be who you are, don't let them bully you down, you are in the right here and please know that an overwhelming majority of the sane citizens in the U.S. are with you on this.
DiscoChicken   10:02 AM on 3/13/2010
Canceling the prom for all the students because ONE student wanted to bring her girlfriend is so unbelievably stupid and bigoted. But that's Mississippi for ya.

I hope for her sake that she's planning on attending college out of state.
RegularEinstein   01:05 AM on 3/13/2010
Mississippi! Partying like it's 1899!

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