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Constance McMillen Prom Lawsuit Heard By Court: Lesbian Teen Wants School Dance For All

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SHELIA BYRD   03/22/10 05:36 PM ET   AP

ABERDEEN, Miss. — Mississippi officials who canceled a prom after a lesbian student asked to bring her girlfriend told a federal judge Monday that there were issues with the event even before that.

The American Civil Liberties Union is suing in U.S. District Court to force the Itawamba County school district to sponsor the prom and allow Constance McMillen to escort her girlfriend and wear a tuxedo.

Schools Superintendent Teresa McNeece and school board Chairman Eddie Hood testified that they had discussed not sponsoring the prom even before McMillen challenged a rule that prohibits same-sex dates. They said they had concerns about liability problems, including possible use of alcohol and drugs at a school-sponsored event.

But they also said they decided to call off the April 2 prom at Itawamba Agricultural High School because McMillen's challenge to the rules had caused disruptions.

"We were being hounded every day. Our students were being hounded," McNeece said. "We were having a tough time of any bell-to-bell instruction."

On cross-examination, school officials did not give specific examples of classroom disruptions.

McMillen first approached school officials about bringing her girlfriend in December, and again shortly before a Feb. 5 memo about prom rules was circulated to students. Same-sex prom dates had been banned in the past, but she had hoped school officials would grant her request.

She was told two girls could not attend the prom together and she would not be allowed to wear a tuxedo. The ACLU issued a letter earlier this month demanding that she be allowed to bring her girlfriend and wear what she wanted.

District officials responded by canceling the event, saying they felt it was the best decision "after taking into consideration the education, safety and well being of our students."

ACLU attorney Kristy Bennett said in court Monday that the district violated McMillen's First Amendment rights and that it was the decision to cancel the prom – not McMillen's request to bring her girlfriend – that caused the disruptions school officials described.

"Any disruption came after the actual cancellation of the prom," Bennett said.

In closing arguments, Bennett said the district "shouldn't be able to censor Ms. McMillen's speech simply by canceling the prom."

Ben Griffith, an attorney representing the school district, said holding or attending a prom is not a constitutional right.

District officials "took a step they considered to be necessary," he said.

McMillen testified the district's decision led to hostility toward her on campus. She said she left school early the day after the district's decision and didn't go at all the next day.

"There were so many dirty looks," McMillen said. "A lot of people didn't like me very much."

The 715-student high school is located in Fulton, a town of about 4,000 in rural north Mississippi. The entire county school district has 3,588 students.

Principal Trae Wiygul said he had been "bombarded" with e-mails, most from people criticizing the district's decision.

"I've been called every name known to man," Wiygul said. "I've been called a bigot and homophobic."

U.S. District Judge Glen H. Davidson, who is hearing the case, did not say when he would rule, but said he wants to do it quickly because "time is of the essence."

Parents are now organizing a prom. School officials said it is open to the public, but McMillen said she had not been told about it.

The ACLU and gay rights groups have raised private funds for a May 8 prom in Tupelo that's open to everyone but geared toward gay students. Bennett said planning for the "second-chance" prom was underway before McMillen's case began, but "the outpouring for Constance enables this to be a much bigger event."

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02:59 PM on 03/23/2010
First of all, I must congratulate ms. Mcmillen on making this story public for her story to be heard.
The Itawumba Agricultural High School Districts's actions have been deplorable. They cant possibly be tolerant.
12:29 PM on 03/23/2010
How does Constance McMillen know she is actually a lesbian? Has her father sought counseling for her to determine whether this may be SSA or GID? Why is her mother in hiding?

Chastity Bono came out as a lesbian when she was 18. However, in her late 30s, she realized that her issue was one of transgender, and she recently spoke on CNN's "Anderson 360" about how she had suffered for all of those years being a lesbian. That she wished she had then the counseling that she has now.
07:03 PM on 03/23/2010
There is a significant difference between lesbians and transgendered FTMs. Some transgendered people come to the understanding very early that they are transgendered, while others do not. Some of the understanding likely has to do with medical advancements and cultural awareness and societal acceptance. Sorry, but I don't see the relevance of the example. All lesbians are not FTMs in waiting.
12:46 PM on 03/24/2010
My concern is that this young woman has not received any counseling.

A high percentage of adolescents with SSA had symptoms of Gender Identity Disorder which were not properly addressed. High school students who self-identify as GLB are at a disproportionate risk for a variety of health and behavioral problems, and initiate risky behaviors at an earlier age than their peers. The SSA may be a temporary condition, immaturity, or simple confusion about sexuality that if not acted on would resolve itself in time.

Without proper counseling by a professional, Ms. McMillen and her family may be putting her at risk.
04:37 AM on 03/30/2010
How do other students know they are actually heterosexual?
10:40 AM on 03/30/2010
Since approx. 98% of the U.S. population is heterosexual, the students probably reasonably assume that they are heterosexual. However, if they have any questions about heterosexuality or homosexuality/bisexuality, I hope they find the counseling and guidance they need, especially from their parents.
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08:01 AM on 03/23/2010
Just came from another blog where there is a story equal to this in importance.

A public school refused to allow students to perform an instrumental piece ( Ave Maria) because it may offend other students, the case ended up in courts and the supreme court refused to hear the case.

Posters are arguing that because it is a public school, the school has the right to ban anything that can offend others.

Why would this case be different?

I am not interested to discuss homosexuality here, I just wanted to know the difference in the thinking and the judgment of the same posters.
03:09 PM on 04/07/2010
Good point, David. They also ban kids from mentioning Jesus, which is the reason for Christmas, so that the non-Christians aren't "offended." Some schools ban the wearing of cross necklaces, lest they "offend" Muslims or atheists. They send kids home if their hair styles aren't on an approved list, saying that the kid could cause "disruption" in the class room. Which kid do you think would be labeled "offensive" first . . . the one wearing a shirt with a passage from the Bible which says homosexual sex is wrong or the one wearing a shirt saying, "Gay and Proud of It."

If you agree with any of the above actions, then why is it any different to ban a girl from wearing men's clothes to a prom. Kids make out at proms, and seeing girls making out with their tongues down each other's throats is a hell of a lot more offensive to a lot of people than a kid wearing a cross necklace in school or mentioning Jesus at Christmas time.

"Offensive" is in the eyes of the beholder.

And, BTW, can someone please tell me why you use homophobic to describe those people who think homosexual sex is perverted? "Phobic" implies a "fear" of. I have never met a person yet who was "afraid" of homosexuals.
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04:59 AM on 03/23/2010
this is the nonsense the courts are wasting their time (and our money) on

please, let the schools decide for themselves

if the want to allow drunk 30 hookers or not

if the want to allow girls taking girls, guys taking guys, or not

its their school

please, stop making everything a federal case
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Joeyj1220
05:35 AM on 03/23/2010
would you feel the same way if an all-white school board decided to not allow blacks to the prom?
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paisleyface
if we're not gonna have sex, get off my back
06:29 AM on 03/23/2010
It's not their school, not even temporarily. It's the school the students attend and it's the school where the teachers and admins work. It is not their school any more than the company you work for is your company.
12:31 PM on 03/23/2010
Trying telling that to the unions!
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04:56 AM on 03/23/2010
I Went to a small private High School in Denver. A kid showed up with a 30 year old drunk hooker. No one batted an eye lash.

Congrats on being the first school to fail to provide a Sr dance.
04:14 AM on 03/23/2010
Concerns about alchohol use at Prom? Really? When weren't there drunk kids at Prom? Legally though I don't think the girl has much of a case unless the school district has a specific policy against discriminating against gays; there are no legal civil rights protections for gays.
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03:16 AM on 03/23/2010
"We were being hounded every day"

Try being an LGBT teen.
02:56 AM on 03/23/2010
One gay high school student disclosed to me that on average he hears more than twenty homophobic remarks a day. Furthermore, these attacks sometimes become physical for the gay (“gay” here refers to both male and female homosexuals) student who is out or the student who is perceived to be gay. Despite the obvious attack on gay students, very little protection exists for them. School teachers and counselors in many cases ignore the violence against gay kids. When a gay child is mistreated every school day for being gay and has no one to protect or teach him coping skills that child can develop self hatred. Even worse, this unchecked oppression can lead the gay victim to commit suicide. Hence, the seed of internalized homophobia is planted from early age. The way a gay child gets treated for being gay will influence the way he is going to treat himself unless he works on changing it.
Protect gay kids in school.
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02:27 AM on 03/23/2010
"I've been called a bigot and homophobic."

I'd say that about describes him.
02:02 AM on 03/23/2010
A far-ranging study of homosexual men published in 1978 revealed that 75 percent of self-identified, white, gay men admitted to having sex with more than 100 different males in their lifetime: 15 percent claimed 100-249 sex partners; 17 percent claimed 250- 499; 15 percent claimed 500-999; and 28 percent claimed more than 1,000 lifetime male sex partners. By 1984, after the AIDS epidemic had taken hold, homosexual men were reportedly curtailing promiscuity, but not by much. Instead of more than 6 partners per month in 1982, the average non-monogamous respondent in San Francisco reported having about 4 partners per month in 1984.

In more recent years, the U.S. Centers for Disease Control has reported an upswing in promiscuity, at least among young homosexual men in San Francisco. From 1994 to 1997, the percentage of homosexual men reporting multiple partners and unprotected anal sex rose from 23.6 percent to 33.3 percent, with the largest increase among men under 25.7 Despite its continuing incurability, AIDS no longer seems to deter individuals from engaging in promiscuous gay sex.
02:13 AM on 03/23/2010
And what does sexual promiscuity and your allegations of health misconduct has exactly to do with peoples rights??
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02:30 AM on 03/23/2010
I'm not quite sure what all that has to do with a couple of girls dancing together at a high school prom.
01:57 AM on 03/23/2010
I think that prom is going to be back on the calender, PDQ. This is nothing but two-bit intimidation for sexual preference reasons, and the school board is not nearly smart enough to cover that up.
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01:33 AM on 03/23/2010
I would charge the school officials with perjury in regards to unsubstantiated testimony of classroom disruptions.
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01:49 AM on 03/23/2010
"On cross-examination, school officials did not give specific examples of classroom disruptions."

I agree.
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12:54 AM on 03/23/2010
Every high school prom should have some Gay kids in attendance to add some style and flair to what must be a very cookie cutter, mediocre affair. The Lesbians would probably be the hottest girls there and the Gay boys would certainly be the best dancers and flawlessly dressed.
12:55 AM on 03/23/2010
I'm glad you do not harbor any stereotypic notions.
02:09 AM on 03/23/2010
Bud, you have no sense of humor.
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12:13 AM on 03/23/2010
I am an old guy.
I graduated HS in '72.
Back then no one went to the prom except Julie Nixon.
It was single nerd-yist thing you could do.
We all thought it was dead and buried.
Oh well.
12:41 AM on 03/24/2010
i graduated in 71, same here, went out after the prom, but not TO the prom..

we were too revolutionary for that...
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11:35 PM on 03/22/2010
Interesting case. My bet is the district court rules the girl gets to wear her tux and take her girlfriend. If the district hosts the prom. But the court will also rule the district does not have to host the prom. Also, I'd bet a week's wages the to-do over this was from parents, not so much the students. Students tend to have a somewhat laissez-faire attitude about such things.
11:53 PM on 03/22/2010
Good observations! Some of us believe that local communities should not have to be ruled by metric-system morality that tries to impose lock-step relativism of anything-goes mentality.

I support civil rights of homosexuals, but this is a behavioral issue that must accept cultural diversity in how people deal with it. The issue is behavior here.
12:37 AM on 03/23/2010
heh, the law books are filled with laws that protect the minority from the tyranny of the backwards mass, and so is the constitution.

And for "metric-system morality" you need to look no further than christianity.
12:41 AM on 03/23/2010
"lock-step relativism?"

How is that accomplished, exactly?

Your point is completely unclear. I've never known a school prom to be "anything goes" but to have the school itself take the position that "almost anyONE can go, but not you. Or you. Because you're different." is crazy in the world we live in. Sounds like you really do have a thing against "those" types of people, and would like to hide it in some strange "we, the hets, are really the victim here" rhetoric.

Try harder.

This really is about cultural diversity, and not behaviors.
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12:03 PM on 03/24/2010
The article did not mention the parents. It mentioned the school district. However, it is the students, not the parents, who call each other derogatory names, give threatening or disgusting looks and shove in the hallways. Moreover, the principal says he has been "bombarded" with calls and emails criticizing his decision. Many parents regard prom as a right of passage and want their child to attend.
02:57 PM on 03/25/2010
It is the parents, students, school district. It is the community. Parents raise students. Students dictate the tone and atmosphere of the school. Parents vote and serve on school boards etc. McMillens has made it clear that she is trying to address the lacking tolerance. She has been very successful in getting attention. And hopefully she will introduce her classmates and community to new ideas. \

http://bit.ly/c9VJAZ provides some more insights to the case.