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Tyler Clementi's Suicide Sparks Outrage At Rutgers (VIDEO)

First Posted: 09/30/10 11:48 AM ET Updated: 05/25/11 06:55 PM ET

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PISCATAWAY, N.J. (AP)-- The death of a Rutgers University freshman stirred outrage and remorse on campus from classmates who wished they could have stopped the teen from jumping off a bridge last week after a recording of him having a sexual encounter with a man was broadcast online.

"Had he been in bed with a woman, this would not have happened," said Lauren Felton, 21, of Warren. "He wouldn't have been outed via an online broadcast and his privacy would have been respected and he might still have his life."

Gay rights groups say Tyler Clementi's suicide makes him a national example of a problem they are increasingly working to combat: young people who kill themselves after being tormented over their sexuality.

A lawyer for Clementi's family confirmed Wednesday that he had jumped off the George Washington Bridge last week. Police recovered a man's body Wednesday afternoon in the Hudson River just north of the bridge, and authorities were trying to determine if it was Clementi's.

The lawyer has not responded to requests for comment on whether Clementi was open about his sexual orientation.

Clementi's roommate, Dharun Ravi, and fellow Rutgers freshman Molly Wei, both 18, have been charged with invading Clementi's privacy. Middlesex County prosecutors say the pair used a webcam to surreptitiously transmit a live image of Clementi having sex on Sept. 19 and that Ravi tried to webcast a second encounter on Sept. 21, the day before Clementi's suicide.

A lawyer for Ravi, of Plainsboro, did not immediately return a message seeking comment. It was unclear whether Wei, of Princeton, had retained a lawyer.

Collecting or viewing sexual images without consent is a fourth-degree crime. Transmitting them is a third-degree crime with a maximum prison term of five years.

ABC News and The Star-Ledger of Newark reported that Clementi left on his Facebook page on Sept. 22 a note that read: "Jumping off the gw bridge sorry." On Wednesday, his Facebook page was accessible only to friends.

Even if the young violinist from Ridgewood was not well known at his new school, his death stirred outrage.

"The notion that video of Tyler doing what he was doing can be considered a spectacle is just heinous," said Jordan Gochman, 19, of Jackson, who didn't know Clementi. "It's intolerant, it's upsetting, it makes it seem that being gay is something that is wrong and can be considered laughable."

Other students who did know Clementi were upset that they didn't do more to help him. "I wish I could have been more of an ally," said Georges Richa, a freshman from New Brunswick.

About 100 people gathered Wednesday night for a vigil on campus. They lay on the ground and chanted slogans like, "We're here, we're queer, we're not going home."

Several gay rights groups linked Clementi's death to the troubling phenomenon of young people committing suicide after being harassed over their sexuality.

On Tuesday, a 13-year-old California boy died nine days after classmates found him hanging from a tree. Authorities say other teens had taunted the boy, Seth Walsh of Tehachapi, for being gay.

Steven Goldstein, chairman of Garden State Equality, said in a statement that his group considers Clementi's death a hate crime.

"We are heartbroken over the tragic loss of a young man who, by all accounts, was brilliant, talented and kind," Goldstein said. "And we are sickened that anyone in our society, such as the students allegedly responsible for making the surreptitious video, might consider destroying others' lives as a sport."

Last week, Dan Savage, a columnist at the Seattle weekly newspaper The Stranger, launched the latest of several efforts to try to stem the problem: the It Gets Better Project, a YouTube channel where gay, lesbian and bisexual adults share the turmoil they experienced when they were younger - and that their lives are better now.

In response to Clementi's death and other incidents, the group Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians and Gays said it would issue a "call to action" on the subject on Thursday.

Rutgers University President Richard McCormick wrote in a letter to the campus, "If the charges are true, these actions gravely violate the university's standards of decency and humanity." Coincidentally, the university on Wednesday was launching a new two-year Project Civility, designed to get students thinking about how they treat others.

Meanwhile, for some of Clementi's new classmates, the first time they learned much about him was when they got word of his death.

"I guess the only person I haven't talked to is Tyler 'cause he's like really quiet and shy," said Justin Lee, a freshman from Princeton who lives on Clementi's hall.

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DeFalco reported from Ridgewood. Associated Press writers Geoff Mulvihill in Haddonfield, Colleen Long in New York and David Porter in Newark contributed to this report.

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06:50 PM on 10/03/2010
I'm not a liberal. I'm not a conservative, I'm a bit of each. I'm as soft hearted as anybody, I can cry my heart out listening to a sad song but you have to be tough in this world to survive. The message here is not to stop bullying--you never will--the message is to toughen up, get strong, and survive. Survivors survive. I'm heterosexual but am not particularly aggressive towards gays, I have gay friends that I care about and being openly gay in this world is a tough thing to do. You will face some real adversity. I'm not talking about how things should be, I'm talking about surviving in the world you were born into and to do that you have be strong and fight back, fight back to win, then and only then will a bully--they're all cowards--leave you alone.
12:03 AM on 10/04/2010
Fighting back doesn't work for everybody. I know people who were bullied and fought back and they got suspended and/or expelled from school. Or they fought back and lost. It just doesn't work so some people.
10:03 PM on 10/02/2010
Very saddened by the number of young gay's driven to suicide the past few weeks. Thought maybe people were getting over this sort of prejudice.

A little spooked, though, about what looks to be a trend of using social networks on the Internet as a place to post suicide notes. This young man from Rutgers, and just a few weeks ago, Emily Staupe, a good ice skating buddy of mine who worked at Northeastern University, both posted their final goodbyes on Facebook. Perhaps, to someone feeling enough grief and pain to want to end their own life, this may seem a means of amplifying their cry of pain....
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Sean Johnson
Making neo-cons mad daily
07:36 PM on 10/02/2010
Rutgers could have a civil law suit on their hands and the two students who set this whole thing in motion deserve whatever punishment they get for violating Clementi's privacy. I'm sure there are going to be laws enacted, if there aren't any already, for violating someone's privacy using Twitter or Facebook or Skype.
07:37 PM on 10/06/2010
Yeah, they may get a 'light' criminal charge, but they can sure as heck be brought in a civil lawsuit.
12:54 AM on 10/02/2010
Trying to turn this into a hate crime is a terrible idea. Laws were broken here that carry stiff penalties. Maybe 5 years in prison isn't enough but it will seem like 100 years to Ravi and Wei. To pursue this as a hate crime you have to prove Tyler was gay and that just doesn't seem right.
02:53 PM on 10/04/2010
hate crimes are based on the perception the victim is gay, or ethnic, or whatever, whether or not they actually are. It depends on the perceptions and intentions of the accused, not the victim
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KellyRyan
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06:10 PM on 10/01/2010
"Dude was making out with a guy." ... Specific comment to gender, which may qualify for more charges than the original two felony counts.

If the two arrested and released found they committed no wrong, why have they disappeared behind an attorney.

They know, and we know ....
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Sean Johnson
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07:38 PM on 10/02/2010
They lawyered up because they know they violated that man's privacy and drove him to commit suicide because of it. They wouldn't like it if something they didn't want to get out was broadcast over the Internet for the world to see.
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05:10 PM on 10/01/2010
American Pie anybody? How many found a similar scene in that movie funny and now can't understand how these young people do the same? We reap what we sow. Deny all you want but society is influenced by these things.
I feel sorry for this young man and happened to be crossing the GWB a few minutes after he jumped. May his family find peace. Sad sad day.
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05:09 PM on 10/01/2010
The media is way too fixated on the "gay" aspect of this story. No one can assume that the two students who exposed Tyler online were homophobic. They could have just been shocked by what they saw (I think I would be too and I'm definitely not homophobic) and ultimately made a dumb decision to make something public that shouldn't have been made public.
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lisalulu
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08:13 PM on 10/01/2010
Please do not minimize the fact that the actual harm of this "dumb decision" was targeted at a young gay person. Period.

The fact that it was targeted at a gay person is enough for me to FIXATE on it.

Blink: at the blink of an eye - dumb decisions change lives forever. Stop the Hate Now.
02:36 PM on 10/02/2010
What the two jerks did was extremely harmful, regardless of whether Clementi was gay or not, and they should be punished severely for that. The fact that Clementi was a gay who had not come out yet merely adds an extra level of gravity to the act.

I can easily imagine the same happening to a young woman being taped having heterosexual sex with a guy. Having the recording broadcast for all her community to see could just easily push someone like her into suicide.
08:13 PM on 10/01/2010
There is a simple solution to that sort of shock: Switch off the spy camera.
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JerseyHooligan
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04:15 PM on 10/01/2010
They knew he was gay, they wanted to make fun of him, hurt him. They were at fault for his death. plain and simple.
04:04 AM on 10/04/2010
I dunno. I think if my roommate was banging someone in our shared personal space, it would be enough for me to say something to other people about it. If it was a common enough occurrence that they had the foresight to know he would be banging someone within that window of time, it probably happened a lot. Not that the roommates decision was fair or legal, it certainly seems to fit immature behavior by a teenage kid in college, who is subjected to his gay roommate using their space for his sexcapades. While this could have been a catalyst, I doubt it was the only contribution to this tragic suicide and to nail the roommate to the wall on an assumed intention of hate for a group, is a little overzealous.
03:04 PM on 10/01/2010
What consenting adults do in their bedroom should be no ones business. RIP Tyler.
02:58 PM on 10/01/2010
I cannot understand how posters can say these two perpetrators should do community service, or be liable in a civil lawsuit, were just pranksters, etc.

Sad that Tyler Clementi was targeted this way, and that he saw no other way but to take his life.
01:46 PM on 10/01/2010
I can't help buy think that Ravi & Wei have had thoughts of suicide in the aftermath of this tragedy. To think your entire life has been ruined because of a senselss, stupid act you perpetrated must be horrifying indeed. Talk about a lesson in empathy.

This tragedy will follow them for the rest of their lives; any job application, admission to another college, loan, etc may be affected by their acts.

This was NOT a childish prank. There continues to be many, many adults who engage in similar behavior. ADULTS.

While I completely respect the Clementi's desire for privacy during the most devastating time of their lives I believe these two, with their respective families, should watch a livestream of the funeral and read every post of condolence on Legacy.com.,etc.

They have undoubtedly self-suspended/self-expulled themselves from Rutgers before the official expulsion. And this will happen after due process. I CAN'T believe they would continue to go to class in this aftermath.

When the time comes for them to clean out their dorm rooms and officially leave the campus everyone who is able, including the media, should form a human corridor from the dorm door to their cars that they must walk.

Humiliating? Yep. Legal? Yep. Hateful? Yep.

A hate crime? Nope.
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01:28 PM on 10/01/2010
A word for the survivors. For every Tyler Clementi how many more simply die inside to some degree, these are the survivors. They may have the strength or good fortune to live their nature in a full life but not all. There are those who try to live a 'normal' life denying their nature and suffering for it. Some just give up and never know love. That is a fate no one deserves.
As the song says " The greatest thing you can ever learn is to love and be loved in return."
There is no excuse for denying that to anyone, not religion, not conditioning, not an uncomfortable feeling.
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01:27 PM on 10/01/2010
Gay and Lesbian National Hotline - GLBT National Help Center:

Toll-free 1-888-THE-GLNH (1-888-843-4564)

http://www.glnh.org/
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lisalulu
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03:41 PM on 10/01/2010
Thanks for the post. I will copy and paste too!
04:11 PM on 10/01/2010
Thanks. I went to the site and put in my zip code and clicked Legal and 30 miles distance. What came back was one Lawyer in New Jersey-30 miles away, in another State. It keeps proving my point. I live in a region termed the Lehigh Valley with a population of 600,000 and I haven't found a listing for a Gay friendly Lawyer. Where are they hiding?
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11:10 AM on 10/01/2010
Disgusting pure and simple.
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lisalulu
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11:03 AM on 10/01/2010
TO: Young People

FR: Gay Rights Advocate

In a blink of a second, your actions may forever change your life. It is very sad that the three young men who recently committed suicide did not reach out to others, to groups that offer shelt from the bigotry.

Remember: There are may of us out there, straight, gay and everything in btween, that love you unconditionally and got your back. PFLAG, ACLU - many other groups - are here for you - reach out and we will come to you.

TO: Ignorant, Stupid, Bigots; Opposers of Gay Rights and Marriage

I hope you change your belief system: you are not harmed by gay people, gay marriage, equal rights: These suicides are examples of Actual Harm caused by homophobia. Shame on you and your narrow view of Love.

Stop the madness: Shout out loud for gay rights, love, marriage. Don't blink!
01:39 PM on 10/01/2010
Thanks for being an advocate. I wish there was a way to get in touch with you. I would like your opinion on something. Your advocacy is a shinning star-thanks