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Pet Or Partner? Poll Shows Many Pick Animal Over Spouse

Pet Partner Poll

LEANNE ITALIE   01/25/11 06:20 PM ET   AP

NEW YORK — Your sweetheart or your pet. Which would you dump if one had to go?

Most current pet owners said they would hold on to their spouse or significant other (84 percent), but a sizable 14 percent picked their pet, according to an AP-Petside.com poll.

Put Sally Roland, 53, of Omaha, Neb., down in the dog-first column. "I'm divorced, so that might explain it," she joked.

The unmarried, like Roland, are more apt to choose their pet over their mate – 25 percent among unmarried pet owners versus 8 percent among the married.

Count Fidel Martinez, 30, of Akron, Ohio, as forever loyal to Killer. That's his mix-breed, 100-pound rescue dog.

"I would absolutely give up my girlfriend for him," Martinez said. "I know it sounds insane but I've had numerous relationships with women. My dog has never let me down."

For the record: Martinez and Killer have been together for seven years. Martinez and his girlfriend have been together for four. The two-legged pair have no immediate plans to cohabitate, he said, but she does like the dog a lot.

Women are far more likely than men to say the human-pet choice would be a tough one (40 percent among women compared with 26 percent among men). Both genders were equally likely to go with their spouse or significant other, according to the poll conducted by GfK Roper Public Affairs and Corporate Communications.

There was also no difference between dog and cat owners: 35 percent of each said the choice would be a hard one and more than eight in 10 would choose their spouse.

Urban dwellers (47 percent) are more likely to say they'd have a difficult time choosing than did suburbanites (35 percent) or rural residents (25 percent).

Giving up a pet for any reason can be really tough – unless you are the owners of Princess the canine escape artist.

David Rosenthal and his family in Missouri City, Texas, were ready with what they considered an ideal fenced backyard when they welcomed the 2-year-old American Eskimo from a shelter. Then things went from pretty good to not at all.

"She kept getting away," he said. "She'd dig underneath the fence, sneak out through every little crack. It would usually take about an hour or so to corral her."

Even worse, the 49-year-old Rosenthal discovered the hard way that the bushy sago palm plants in the backyard were poisonous to dogs (and humans, too). Princess sampled them and nearly died. Treatment cost about $2,000.

"Plus she was nipping at kids," said Rosenthal, who has three. "We were told it was friendly to kids." So off Princess went, back to the shelter after a year. "It was sad but we knew there was already somebody there to adopt her."

The family now has two other rescue dogs.

About six in 10 adults (57 percent) have had to give up a pet at some point in their lives, with current pet owners (64 percent) a bit more likely to have done so.

The most common reasons had to do with the pet's health: 69 percent said their pet was too sick to live on, 52 percent too sick to be cared for at home. But there are other reasons as well, including about one in 10 (9 percent) who, like Rosenthal, said their animal was too dangerous to keep.

One-third (34 percent) of current pet owners said it would be "extremely" or "very" difficult if they were forced to choose between a pet and a family member who became allergic. Another 20 percent would find the choice somewhat difficult and 46 percent said it would be "not too difficult" or "not difficult at all."

Christopher J. Hampton, 67, in Bellingham, Wash., has loved Pembroke Welsh corgis since he was a kid. He had a 5-year-old he had raised from a pup when he and his wife realized 40 years ago that their year-old son's asthma was dangerously exacerbated by their pet.

"I couldn't give up my son, so that was it," Hampton said.

The AP-Petside.com Poll was conducted October 13 to 20, 2010 by GfK Roper Public Affairs and Corporate Communications. It involved landline and cell phone interviews with 1,501 adults nationwide including 1,000 pet owners. Results among all adults have a margin of sampling error of plus or minus 3.3 percentage points; for results among pet owners it is 4.0 percentage points.

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Deputy Director of Polling Jennifer Agiesta contributed to this report.

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Online:

Poll questions and results: om. http://www.ap-gfkpoll.c

Petside: http://www.petside.com/giving-up-a-pet

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02:27 PM on 02/13/2011
I might add to my first comment that fortunately, my husband loves the cats also, more than me if the truth be told so I don't have to choose
02:24 PM on 02/13/2011
Hmmmm, my husband or my cats? Let me think, my cats are affectionate and loving companions and my husband, an unloving control freak. I'd choose my cats.
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05:07 PM on 01/28/2011
I would never pick one over the other. Pets and husband are family for life.
01:40 PM on 01/28/2011
I wouldn't trust someone who would give up a dependent they adopted as soon as the next thing came along. It shows they have no loyalty or compassion. And they're not going to be that good to you either, when the next thing strikes them.

There are exceptions to where it might be unavoidable to rehome a pet - but the stories I hear rarely qualify. And dumping at a shelter is even less acceptable. You have no idea where they're going to end up.
01:22 PM on 01/28/2011
I need both....I need animals in my life and humans. They are like apples and oranges. If I have just one, I'd feel like I'd be missing something. Having said that if I absolutely positively HAD to choose, I hate to say it, but I'd probably choose my dogs. Not because I don't love the bf...I do but he is grumpy a lot, sometimes critical and, sorry to say, I just get more joy from my dogs because of personality issues with the bf. Now, not to say I don't get joy from the boyfriend or all kinds of wonderful and needed things (support, companionship, etc) but if I had to choose, I'd choose the animals. But I don't want to choose! It's kind of a false choice really.

As for the family in the article giving up their dog...I wonder if they walked their dog. If you don't walk your dogs and get them out they will act out. IT's so unfair to blame the dog when it is the owner's fault for not providing what the dogs need. My dogs are calm, never leave home because they get enough time out...they don't need it. See? I wish people who don't walk their dogs get a clue...it is really kind of cruel to not walk your dogs. They NEED it. They NEED to go out just like YOU do. They get bored and frustrated. Walk your dogs and see the behavioral problems go away!
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Candi Cj Dubord Jensen
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10:35 AM on 01/28/2011
My loyal, unconditionally loving dog was here first..and he will still be here if I decide the aggravating boyfriend has got to go. My dog never criticizes, he's not judgmental, and he doesn't act like he's better than you. He doesn't try to change who you are, he just loves. Once a couple of years ago my boyfriend made a comment about giving him a new home..I went off the wall. This dog has saved my life and raised my daughter with me and been her companion and guardian...I told him he ever makes a suggestion like that again and he'll be the one walking out the door...What really made me mad..my dog is also my service dog, he was suggesting I give away my service dog....I have learned over the years that my boyfriend is not the animal lover he claimed to be..not a lot of things he claimed...but, that's ok...he gives out grief..we give it back tenfold. :D
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10:28 PM on 01/28/2011
Sounds like you need a new boyfriend~
10:10 PM on 01/27/2011
Well this is a no brainer , Significant others who want you to choose between them or your pets are no longer of any significance . Significant others are like buses , another one comes by every five minutes.
02:25 PM on 02/13/2011
Absolutely right on!
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hellaci0us
Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character
12:04 PM on 01/27/2011
when i got divorced 9 yrs ago.. i had never lived alone as an adult ... i was an emotionally wrecked as a result of my marriage and scared of just about everything... i can say with every ounce of conviction that i would not have made it without the companionship of my dog Alex ... he was 135 lbs of rottie luv ... he made me feel safe and listened to all my thoughts and fears... he let me cry on him and helped me mow (sorta)... basically .. he let me lean on him while i learned who i really was and always made me feel loved... which was something i needed desperately... i am now a strong willed, opinionated, mostly confident woman now and i have to give credit to alex for helping me find my way...

when i find a man that accepts me and loves me just the way i am... like alex did.. i will marry him in a heart beat.. did i mention i have been single for 9 years now ??? LOL
08:31 AM on 01/27/2011
mercifully this is a decision I'll never have to make. My partner feels as strongly about animal welfare as I do and recognizes the Dog and cat we share as voting members of our family.
07:29 AM on 01/27/2011
Pet Or Significant Other?

If you even have to think about that one, you need therapy.
10:50 AM on 01/27/2011
No kidding.
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Candi Cj Dubord Jensen
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10:42 AM on 01/28/2011
Seriously! ANYONE who is going to try to manipulate or control what you do should be let go. Who needs that, some people think they have a right to run their SOs life simply because they are a part of it..no thank you!!! Not how it works..Just because your in a relationship with someone doesn't give you a right to assume authority over them....

It SHOULD be a no brainer..If someone is trying to *make* you do something- tell them to take a hike..in this case the the option SO or the pet...That is why I always say pet. What kind of control issues or whatever does someone have to try and make their partner give up a beloved pet if they want to stay together..screw that!!! I VOTE NO to emotional blackmail!!
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hwjone
02:38 AM on 01/27/2011
I once had a dog, named Lady, about 13 years old and a brand new girlfriend. The dog was pretty much worthless (all he did was eat, sleep, shead, and take doggy breaks outside (he was good about this)). She was always complaining about him and constantly nagging me to take him to the pound to be euthanized. Of course, my response was to put her off. Then one day, she suggested that to spare my feelings, she would take Lady to the pound to be put down. I told her no, that I would take Lady to the pound to br put down; but she would have to to drivre. So I loaded Lady into the car, with her favorite toys and blanket, and I sat in the back seat petting and scrathing Lady's head and neck. We pulled out of the driveway and headed to the pound, my girlfriend put on some happy music and was bebopping to the beat. To make a long story short, we got to the pound I took Lady back to the area where they put down animals, told the tech I was leaving the bitch there and he could put down if he wanted to, paid he fee, walked out the door with Lady, and left my ex-girlfriend setting there,
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02:52 AM on 01/27/2011
By the time my ex-girlfriend got back to my apartment, I had her stuff packed into her car. As she was getting out of the cab, I told her to get the he** out of my life and that I never wanted to see her again Lady lived fr a couiple more years and she passed, sleeping in her own bed. Would I do it again, No. The ex-girlfriend would be gone after she brought the matter up a second tine.
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12:01 AM on 01/27/2011
Never trust a man who doesn't love animals.
01:01 AM on 01/27/2011
Never trust a man who doesn't drink.
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Turtlenewz
03:52 AM on 01/27/2011
or a woman
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11:33 AM on 01/27/2011
Got me! Agreed!
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10:33 PM on 01/26/2011
Alyhough i hate to say it, my pet and girlfriend would probably vote for me to go.
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babyjesussaysso
On the internets nobody knows you're a dog.
06:36 PM on 01/26/2011
I have ended a relationship when presented with the your dog or me choice.
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alguien
07:46 PM on 01/26/2011
ultimatums are pretty good reasons to end relationships. if an ultimatum such as that is issued early on, just think how it would be further into the relationship.

it's not just "the dog or me," it's a red flag for a lot of unreasonable demands down the road.
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On the internets nobody knows you're a dog.
08:46 PM on 01/27/2011
Just what I was thinking when I had that conversation.
01:25 PM on 01/28/2011
Anyone who would force you to give up a major source of joy for them, is controlling and not right for you!

It's not that one is more important than the other...it's are they going to accept and love animal and accept the joy you get from it? Can they be kind? That is the issue.
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seajewel
03:15 PM on 01/26/2011
Maybe this will explain why I would choose my pet. This is very beautifully written.

http://jimwillis0.tripod.com/tiergarten/id21.html