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Joel Northup Refuses To Face Cassy Herkelman: Iowa Wrestler Won't Face Girl

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LUKE MEREDITH   02/17/11 07:59 PM ET   AP

DES MOINES, Iowa — After a standout season in which he went 35-4, Joel Northrup had every reason to dream of winning an Iowa wrestling championship this year, but he gave it all up before his first state tournament match Thursday.

Northrup, a home-schooled sophomore who competes for Linn-Mar High School, said his religious beliefs wouldn't allow him to wrestle Cassy Herkelman, a pony-tailed freshman from Cedar Falls who is one of the first two girls to qualify for the tournament in its 85-year history.

Northrup issued a statement through his school expressing his "tremendous" respect for what Herkelman and Ottumwa sophomore Megan Black achieved this season, but he said didn't feel he had a choice.

"Wrestling is a combat sport and it can get violent at times," Northrup said in a statement released by his high school. "As a matter of conscience and my faith I do not believe that it is appropriate for a boy to engage a girl in this manner. It is unfortunate that I have been placed in a situation not seen in most other high school sports in Iowa."

His father, Jamie Northrup, told The Associated Press later Thursday that his son struggled with the decision.

"He's poured his heart and soul into wrestling and into being the best in the state," Jamie Northrup said. "He's never won a state championship, so he's certainly looking forward to that day. So it's agonizing, from all the work and the effort and the hope.

"But it's easy in that, he, a long time ago, drew a line and said 'I don't believe it's right for a boy to wrestle a girl.'"

There were several thousand fans at Wells Fargo Arena on Thursday, but many were watching other matches when the referee raised Herkelman's hand to signal her win. There was a smattering of cheers and boos from the crowd before Herkelman was whisked into the bowels of the arena.

Northrup's decision to default put Herkelman in the quarterfinals in the 112-pound weight class, and it put her name in the record book as the first girl to win an Iowa state tournament match. But it deprived her of the chance to show the skills that earned her a 20-13 pre-tournament record.

Tournament organizers declined to make Herkelman available for questions. But her father, Bill Herkelman, told the AP via text message that he understands and respects Northrup's decision.

"It's nice to get the first win and have her be on the way to the medal round," Bill Herkelman wrote. "I sincerely respect the decision of the Northrup family especially since it was made on the biggest stage in wrestling. I have heard nothing but good things about the Northrup family and hope Joel does very well the remainder of the tourney."

Because he defaulted and didn't forfeit, Northrup was allowed to compete in the consolation rounds, and he won his first match later Thursday by major decision.

He was spared any chance of meeting up with Black – who also wrestles at 112 pounds and was 25-13 entering the tournament – when she was eliminated after being pinned in both of her matches.

Northrup and Herkelman would be matched up again if both were to make the finals in the consolation bracket. If that happens, Northrup would likely make the same decision, his father said.

Jamie Northrup is a minister in the Believers in Grace Fellowship, an independent Pentecostal church in Marion that believes young men and women shouldn't touch in a "familiar way," said Bill Randles, the church's pastor.

"We believe in the elevation and respect of woman and we don't think that wrestling a woman is the right thing to do. Body slamming and takedowns, that full contact sport is not how to do that."

Randles said Joel has been involved in wrestling for many years, and he and his family have discussed before the possibility of girls getting involved in the sport.

"It's totally his choice. He's a young man now and he's worked hard to get where he's gotten. It's up to him, and it was his conviction" not to wrestle Herkelman.

Black said Northrup refused to wrestle her three years ago, and that she respects him for adhering to his beliefs.

"If it's his religion and he's strong in his religion, then I just respect that," Black said. "Obviously, everyone can be pointing fingers at him. He, at least, is true to his beliefs and you have to respect that. It takes a lot for a 15- or 16-year-old boy to do."

Marth Stetzel, a mother from Perry who had two sons in the tournament, said she had no problem with Northrup's decision.

"We're really raising kids that are going to be bigger than wrestling, and if it's something that he believes strongly in – which is not necessarily what I would do – you've got to respect a kid like that," Stetzel said.

Wrestling is extremely popular in Iowa, and Black and Herkelman are the first girls to qualify for the state tournament since it was first sanctioned by the Iowa High School Athletic Association in 1926.

According to the National Federation of State High School Associations, more than 6,000 girls competed in wrestling in 2009-10 – compared with nearly 275,000 boys. Though most states require girls to wrestle boys, California, Hawaii, Texas, Washington and Tennessee sponsor girls-only high school wrestling tournaments.

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11:57 AM on 03/06/2011
At 17, there is no way that I could have grabbed a girl anywhere hard or felt strategic portions of her anatomy against strategic portions of my anatomy without getting aroused. At a wrestling match, I would have ended up embarrassed by the normal effects, but probably very popular with the female crowd and elected class president and valedictorian by the male crowd. I think that he let an opportunity slip by, win or lose. In any case, I admire the young man. Maybe he likes to choose his own women, rather than letting others make the choice for him. Or maybe she was ugly as sin. Males who criticize him do so either (1) because they haven’t the courage to ask a woman or (2) have probably never enjoyed the close contact with one, and have never experienced the normal rebellion of the flesh in such cases. To these males, wrestling a woman or a man makes no difference. Had I been this young man, I would have taken the opportunity to grab her and well, embarrassment or not. I assure you that she would have asked me for a rematch. Bank on it!
08:45 AM on 02/23/2011
Are they going to get into UFC fighting too? See Silva beat the s*t out of a girl? There are lines that shouldn't be crossed, just as respect for themselves: Women fighting on the front line, and competing sports with men. I've been there, I have played against women before. It is a disadvantage to us because everyone tells us to "go easy on them" It creates an unfair playing field. Everyone applauds her for lowering her femininity.... Iowa already has a female wrestling section. She should have competed there...oh wait..she lost there too.
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07:31 PM on 02/20/2011
Good for him. There are just some boundaries as a society we need to keep. My opposition is not religious based as his. There may not be equal competition in sports, however, there needs to be boundaries and a young man refusing to wrestle a young female is the correct decision.
07:06 PM on 02/20/2011
I have no problem with girls wrestling boys as long as all ot the other teams have only one team. No girls basketball team, no boys basketball team, just a baskrtball team. The same should apply to all sports.

If this is what we want, for girls to compete against boys, I say lets go for it.
10:16 AM on 02/22/2011
Title IX (or at least the interpretation and insuing lawsuits) require that young women are given the same opportunities as young men so there are men's and women's basketball, tennis, swinmming, soccer and so on offered. But if a young woman wants to play football or wrestle and the school doesn't offer a women's team then her only opportunity is to compete with and or against young men.
06:05 PM on 02/20/2011
Compared to other wrestlers, Cassy has advantages. She began wrestling at age 7. So that's 7 years of experience, and some boys have only 3-4. Among boys it's phenomenal to make it to the state tournament in Iowa (a top state in the sport) as a freshman. For a girl to do so proves that she is good. Wrestling isn't "combat." Refs stop and re-start a match when a possibly injurious stress develops. So, Cassy comes in with unusually well muscled arms, and in the 112 lb weight group, a skilled, fast girl is certainly competitive. Cassy pinned 9 opponents and outscored many others--at varsity boys level, not jv. Boys may have more back muscle, but Cassy is strong and a girl's wider hips allow for wider stance, sprawl and leverage in turning a boy onto his back to pin him. Girls' narrower shoulders and more limber torso allow for better access to some holds, i.e. better spread for what wrestlers call leg rides, and the ability to twist her torso across his back and grab that far arm for a "funk flip." More importantly, Cassy has three more years to go. She'll definitely place, and gain strength, too. It's her choice. Boy wrestlers tend to be friendly, given their proven ability to take on challenges, hence less risk of the boy wanting to fight outside of school, for insecure reasons. And that disposes them to accept Cassy as a proven wrestler of excellence.
02:04 PM on 02/20/2011
I know this topic is old, but let me ask "what's wrong with being afraid to lose to a girl?"

I've seen so many responses implying that he defaulted to spare him the humiliation of being beaten by a girl. None of these challenges to the boy's masculinity ever ask "why" he would be afraid to lose to a girl.

Of course, we all know he would be ridiculed by his peers, both male and female. We wouldn't tolerate such ridicule directed at a girl who suffered a humiliating experience, yet we fall back on telling the boy to "take it like a man." It's sad we seek to root out insensitivity wherever we find it (except when directed at a man/boy). The argument that "guys can take it" is a comforting fallacy; since stoicism is ingrained into boys; to say they can take it ignores emotional effects of "taking it."

The problem isn't that the girls want to wrestle
The problem isn't the fragile male ego
The problem is that in blindly giving girls every opportunity to compete with boys, we neglected to address the social stigma boys have to deal with, often with lasting emotional effects.

When you explain it away as "fragile male ego" and go no further, perhaps it makes some of you feel better, but to go no further is being dishonest to yourselves.

You want boys and girls to compete? Fine. Get rid of the ridicule first.
08:49 AM on 02/23/2011
It's not about being afraid of losing to a girl. Its about respecting her as a women. Which Joel did. The fragile male ego came about because of fathers not adequately showing their sons how to be real men. Chivalry is one of the features. Joel followed his fathers, and Father's footsteps. Screw your civility, men need to grow a pair and do the right things. This being it.
12:24 PM on 02/20/2011
I was a high school and college wrestler for 5 years in the 60's, and I can recall only one body slam during those years. The offender was immediately disqualified for the rest of the season. Has this fake professional move reared it's ugly head again, as suggested by Pastor Bill Randles in the article above? I doubt it, but it sure does conjure up a disturbing image, which was the point.
As for the boy/girl touchy-feely thing, good luck, young man, when you start dating. BTW, when you are on the mat, you are too busy trying to not get your butt kicked, to be worrying about whether your opponent is a boy or girl. The young lady qualified for the tournament and that should have been respected on face value alone. I don't think you are a coward, but I do think you are misguided.
01:37 PM on 02/20/2011
Can I ask for your opinion?

If you were to go to Youtube and search "girl wrestles boy," you'lll get to watch a handful of boy/girl matches. If you have a few minutes, watch some and let us know if you see the boys avoiding contact with certain parts of his female opponents body, and if the boy was leaving an unusual amount of air space between himself and his opponent when the ref restarts the match with one opponent on all fours (after rolling out of bounds, for example).

I seems that the boys in these videos are a little bit hands off (in a way that seems to indicate their discomfort with being too close to a girl). but that's just my observation.

If you have a couple minutes... If not, I understand.
05:58 PM on 02/21/2011
OK, I watched about a dozen of these boy/girl videos, and what I saw was a bunch of girls who used better form, better balance and, quite frankly, better skills than their opponents.
As for the reluctance to touch "certain parts of his female opponents body", what I saw was boys who were not on the same level as their opponents. There are a lot of wrestlers (like me in my first couple of years) who have not acquired that level of skill, to carry them to the upper level of excellence. Wrestling was my favorite sport in school, and I salute anyone who achieves that level of excellence, be they boy or girl. I hope that clarified my comments.
Peace, love and harmony.
06:06 PM on 02/21/2011
Let me also add that the sexist titles of some of these videos made me a little sad. Isn't it better to celebrate these wins by young ladies, than to fan the flames of sexism. Have we learned anything since I graduated high school in 1966? BTW, that was a rhetorical question.
demsrsilly
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08:53 AM on 02/20/2011
I applaud this person for sticking by his convictions.

I would hesitate to do this as well, just one wrestling hold in the wrong location on a female wrestler could bring sexual assault charges.
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10:24 PM on 02/19/2011
We have to make choices, he choose and did it in a manner that was civil, and respected by the girl and her family. I see no reason for condemnation for the young man on his decision or his actions. She handled it well also. This is an example of whenever possible be at peace with one another. . . we should perhaps keep that in mind.
Dayne
People are people
08:29 PM on 02/19/2011
Having played many different sports at different levels I've always been of the belief that an athlete is an athlete. She's participating in a historically male sport and qualified for the tournament, good for her and I thought the way she handled it was very proper. I believe the boy handled himself very well also. I would be surprised if the "I don't want to wrestle a girl", is anything new to the coach or his teammates. He made a rational choice based upon his religion, I can respect that. As to the media hubbub, let the kids be kids, they don't have an agenda, they are just student athletes whose paths happened to cross in a way that became national news, leave it alone.

Dayne
08:01 AM on 02/19/2011
What a man this kid is going to be when he grows up. It is so refreshing to hear of a young person with morals, integrity, values and a belief in something so strong that he is not willing to sacrifice his beliefs for a material thing. He stuck to his guns and I, for one, am extremely proud of him. WHAT A KID!! I just wish it was possible for his parents to re-raise some of these young varmints of today who have no conscience, no morals, no integrity whatsoever. What a world this would be if that were possible.

But it is also my belief that Joel dodged a bullet and others better take a page from his book. Just as sure as I am writing this, withing the next year or two, I can see a sexual assault lawsuit in the future when one of the boys grabs a girl's upper thigh or inadvertently touches her breasts as he tosses her to the mat. MARK MY WORDS ON THIS ONE;I CAN SEE IT COMING.!!! All of you knocking Joel's decision will have to apologize for not respecting his decision. Wow, what a man this boy is going to be. I hope when he grows up and marries, the woman he chooses will deserve him. His friends must be honored to be called his friend. WOW, WHAT A KID.
02:01 AM on 02/20/2011
He was put in an awkward situation. If he won, he only beat a girl. If he loses he was beat by a girl. There is no way he can really win. She did not handle well. She should have agreed to a draw. She couldn't care less about putting him in this position.
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01:24 PM on 02/20/2011
I respect his position, and I respect hers as well. She's faced any number of boys who had no compunctions about wrestling a girl -- and beaten them. Both she and her family respected his position and handled it well. Why should she agree to a draw? She's a competitor, and her competition chose not to enter the ring for the match. I suspect he would have beaten her had they wrestled, given his record vs. hers, but he was the one who chose to forfeit -- not her. She is entitled to her victory.
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kapalabhati
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02:09 PM on 02/20/2011
MARK MY WORDS ON THIS ONE;I CAN SEE IT COMING.!!!

Seems you and demsrsilly are cut from the same misguided cloth.
05:39 AM on 02/19/2011
I just watched a handful of "girl beats boy" videos on YouTube. In almost every case, the crowd either went wild when the girl won, or the comments made below the video mocked the boy and called him "wuss", etc.

The problem isn't that weight-matched boys and girls are wrestling, and the problem isn't the "fragile" male ego.

The problem is the stigma that we love to place on boys when they lose to girls. But, for some reason, we don't really give a crap about boys, now do we?
01:55 AM on 02/20/2011
I agree. This girl put him in an awkward situation. It's not fair to him.
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06:03 PM on 02/21/2011
Yes, girls should definitely stick to helping their moms in the kitchen to void making boys uncomfortable! NOT!!!!
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05:38 AM on 02/19/2011
It was the boy's own decision. He gave up his shot at a state championship. Strong morals
for such a young man. It was his call.
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01:05 AM on 02/19/2011
Good call by the kid. It would have been extremely awkward for him to have wrestled her. There are reasons why boys and girls sports are separate.
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01:40 AM on 02/19/2011
Yet, wrestling in Iowa is co-ed.

Lots of other boys wrestled her without a problem. Many got beat.
12:19 PM on 02/19/2011
Iowa has made a couple of gender based blunder decisions recently.

The good news is that the PEOPLE have the power, ultimately.

Go, Josh.
12:07 AM on 02/19/2011
For all those commenters who think think it's somehow "inappropriate" for boys and girls to wrestle together, do you think the same about male cheerleaders? Male cheerleaders touch the female cheerleaders all over, lift them in the air, look up their skirts, etc. And contrary to popular belief they are not all gay by any means.
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12:25 AM on 02/19/2011
Are you the same Eva Braun that was on HP a while back?

My mom always gave great advice-most of which I ignored, at my own expense.

She encouraged me to be a male cheerleader-she said that a straight male cheerleader would do well in the girl-meeting department.

What a fool I was not to take her advice....

I fanned ya, just to break the ice!
04:41 PM on 02/20/2011
They do touch them... in a far less aggressive manner.