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Recent Graduates Not Only Move Back Home, But Stay There


First Posted: 04/22/2011 6:27 pm Updated: 06/22/2011 5:12 am

NEW YORK -- Ashley Moore never planned on moving back in with her parents.

Nearly a year after graduating from college, Moore, 22, also never expected to still be waking up in her old twin bed every morning.

“It’s been difficult because not only was I on my own, I was really far away,” explains Moore, a St. Louis, Mo., native who graduated from Pace University in New York City. At one point, she spent an entire year away. “What I miss most is my freedom and having my own space.”

We spoke yesterday via Skype. You can see Moore describe what it’s been like to move back home:


Like many 20-somethings, Moore is experiencing what it’s like to not only move back home, but stay there.

Despite a recent report released by the National Association of Colleges and Employers, which predicts that 2011 graduates may enter into an improved job market, many remain skeptical.

Andrew Sum, an economist at Northeastern University, concedes that while “it’s better to be plus than minus, we’ve still got a really long way to go until we restore things back to the way they used to be.”

Sum calls it the war against the young. Specifically, he's seen a record number of college graduates forced to move home.

Using data from the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics, Sum reports that 12.8 million young people under the age of 30 are either unemployed, working part-time or working at a job that doesn’t require a college degree.

Such jobs can make it difficult for young people to establish a steady stream of income -- to get the money required to not only move out of their parents' house, but stay out.

Further, Sum finds that young adults without a college degree have been pushed out of the labor market entirely and are finding work at a lower rate than anytime since the end of World War II.

“The kids not working today will have a difficult time working tomorrow,” concludes Sum. “The evidence is overwhelming.”

Since moving back home last June, Moore has been unsuccessful in securing a full-time job. She works part-time as a teaching assistant at a nearby pre-school. Her mother is an in vitro technician; her father owns a small carpentry business.

For others forced into a similar situation, Moore stresses that communication is key to making the living arrangement work as best it can.

“Your parents might regress and start treating you like you’re back in high school because, well, you’re back in their house.” Moore also advises to save, not spend. “Just because you’re not paying rent, doesn’t mean it’s a good time to go shopping.”

The financial burden of going to college has always been her own. Moore is carrying $45,000 in undergraduate student loans and another $5,000 of debt split between two credit cards. Each month, she puts $250 of her part-time paycheck toward paying each of them down.

As an undergraduate, Moore majored in political science and minored in communications. She plans to attend law school and someday run for political office. In the meantime, she is keen on first getting her own apartment.

Recently, Moore set a new deadline for herself: Come August, her goal is to finally be out from under her parents’ roof.

“I know they love me, but it’s time for me to go,” says Moore, who despite all of the challenges associated with moving back home has appreciated the extra time it's given her to be with her family. “I just hope that I can.”

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josh2082
Reason above all else
11:45 AM on 05/24/2011
I don't think it's true for every college student living at home, and it's problem symptomatic of the fact that parents of 20somethings have been trained to foster creativity and choice for their children BUT.....

I've noticed that across the HuffPo's many stories on 20somethings moving back home the majority of the parents both work at skilled jobs (in vitro technician, carpenter, health insurance, etc.) that don't ask for liberal arts degrees but specific skill sets. It makes one wonder what the long-term effects the liberal arts programs burgeoning across the country will have on the workforce.

It's great to know Hobbes, Jefferson, Charlemagne and Churchhill but how does that translate into skills employers want?
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PunisherWarJournal
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05:07 AM on 05/10/2011
Quite common in Europe, too. What's cooler than shacking up with a hot German, and waking up to her mother serving breakfast in bed?

True story, so I'm told by my soldier buddy, who I live vicariously through.
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Onlygodknowswhy
and you are not god
11:13 PM on 05/09/2011
Just goes to show.you that yje republicans need to get crackin on all those jobs.
Mister boehner where is the jobs.
10:58 AM on 04/26/2011
Here's another news flash for grads. You have no future either. Your country has been financially raped and plundered to complete the transfer of wealth to the financial elite oligarchs. Defeat by design. Now, guess what bubble is next?. Yep, student loans are approaching 1 trillion.
11:17 PM on 04/25/2011
Anyone that would ring up $45,000 in debt for an undergrad political science degree is going to have trouble finding a job...because they are an idiot!
11:00 AM on 04/26/2011
Unless they get a job in DC. LOL
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jetle25
05:42 PM on 04/25/2011
What scares me about the future of college in this country and world is that only the rich and entitled will be able to get advanced education and skills. As lucky as I am to have parents that helped out and some loans under my name. I can't imagine paying for my childrens college tuition in future. That is if I have them. Its a crazy sh*t load of money. I mean for crying out loud. It just seems outrageous the amount of money it costs to send a kid to a college these days. Prices of state is going up and quality of overall education is going down. Its going to be a huge problem for the USA when proper and affordable education is becoming more and more scarce.
09:27 AM on 04/25/2011
No problems with a kid moving back home for just a bit, especially in a crowded job market, but 50,000 in debt is just irresponsible. I also have a political science degree, but I sure didn't need to move to New York City to get it from a mediocre private school.I'm not saying that you have to be a fully grown up person by her age, but the immaturity and lack of touch with reality that kid had is saddening.
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10:09 AM on 04/25/2011
I earned my undergraduate (history/geography) and a graduate (elementary education) degrees without loans. I worked part-time and eventually full-time while attending school. I didn't live on campus, but in a small second floor apartment. It took me a long time, but it something I have pride. However, this was back in the 1980's & 1990's and never really used those degrees for a job, but I don't regret earning them. At 50, I am a stay-at-home parent (kindergarten, 4th, 5th, 6th graders) and will admit to nervousness about funding their college. I think it's important for parents to sit down with their children, WAY BEFORE their junior year and discuss the real options they have. I will definitely encourage two years of community college for basic studies. Fortunately, we live near many wonderful schools: Eastern Michigan, University of Michigan, Wayne State and Michigan State. Out of state shouldn't even be on the radar, unless a miracle occurs and they get a full scholarship. I think some parents are uncomfortable telling their children some colleges are just out of reach.
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frank day
Obama cares about all of U.S.
10:31 AM on 04/25/2011
We've told our sons;
* community college for general ed.
* state college for bachelor's
* grad school at a prestigious school( if required)

However, I would point out that school is MUCH more expensive than it was in the late 80s.

Tuition at our State University is approaching $15,000 per year plus another $1500 for books.

Add the cost of even very modest accomodations and modest meals and you can see that this is out of reach for students w/o financial assistance.
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frank day
Obama cares about all of U.S.
10:33 AM on 04/25/2011
Kids can't win with you people.

If they take a low wage job and need public assistance they're slackers.

If they try to get education and a good paying job they are immature and lack touch with reality.

You must be very old.
02:08 PM on 04/25/2011
Don't worry about it - when Generation Geezer stops getting its social security checks and Medicare, we can mock them for being financially irresponsible, just like they're doing to the younger generation now. What goes around...
09:16 AM on 04/25/2011
I often wonder about roommates. When I was 22, it was a goal to live alone, but I needed roommates if I was going to move out of my parent's home. I would also drive a very old car, eat 'no-frils" hot dogs (shudder) did not have cable, never shopped, and walked to work to save money. It was tough, but worth it. I wanted more than anything to be a self-supporting adult. I don't know if 22 year olds have that same drive and are willing to do without. They may, I just don't know for sure.
02:11 PM on 04/25/2011
They do, but it's not possible today with lower wages and a higher cost of living. You're right, people today do need to cut out the shopping and consumerism, but the problems go a lot deeper than Johnny paying for a monthly cable package or Susie buying a new pair of shoes. When your salary is X and the cost of living is 2X and your student loans are 2X, there's only so much you can cut.
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Jesse Wright
02:47 PM on 04/25/2011
Why does everyone blame the 22 year olds?? I mean, obviously some of the blame should be put on them because they're the ones not moving out but there's obviously something ingrained in their heads that makes them think that it's okay for them to not move out. Parents need to step up and make plans with their kids on how to move out...set dates, help them save money, teach them how to budget, you can't just kick a bird out of the nest and expect it to fly!!
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Bruisersmom
06:15 PM on 04/25/2011
Very true. I would add that I have students who are special education and with their learning disabilities they need to stay in school longer in order to finish their education, but they are stuck on this idea that they have to graduate at eighteen like their non-learning disabled or more lightly learning-disabled peers.

It's incredible the things that people have stuck in their heads like I have to graduate from college, I have to be married before I'm thirty, I have to get married and have kids or I'm selfish, etc. It's an endless barrage of messages and unfortunately, for many people, they don't learn to screen out them until their a lot older, and they've already made many mistakes in life.
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LolaGetz
If you obey all the rules, you'll miss all the fun
06:31 AM on 04/25/2011
My son will graduate from a top-tier UK university next year with a degree in music. It's almost a foregone conclusion at this point that he will boomerang back home for a while while he looks for one of the very scarce jobs in the music industry. He's matured tremendously over the last couple of years and I know he's not relishing the prospect of moving back to the small English town where he grew up while his heart is set on living in London or the States (he's a dual British-American national so moving to the US isn't a problem from an immigration standpoint).

Articles like this make us both uneasy, but sadly it's the way it is for a lot of kids nowadays. Maybe the boredom of being back under the parental roof will spur my boy on. I don't mind him coming back home at all, but it does seem to make a mockery of the concept of moving out and going off to university. Moving back into one's old bedroom seems like a step backwards, instead of heading forwards into adult life.
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frank day
Obama cares about all of U.S.
10:35 AM on 04/25/2011
Sad to hear it isn't just a problem in the United States.

Good luck to your son.
02:15 PM on 04/25/2011
You're a good parent. You've actually bothered to look at this problem from your son's point of view, which is unique for a Generation Jones member. Most of the parents I know have no sympathy for their kids' situation, and fail to recognize how tough the economy is for young people.
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LolaGetz
If you obey all the rules, you'll miss all the fun
03:44 PM on 04/25/2011
Thank you; what a nice thing to say. Maybe the reason I have so much empathy for my kids is that I had parents who only ever saw things from their own perspective and desires, rather than what I wanted or how I was affected by anything. I have a lot of faith in my son. He's got a tough road ahead, like many others his age, but he's ambitious and willing to work hard. I can't object to throwing him a temporary lifeline while he gets started in his career, whatever that ends up being and wherever it takes him in the end.
01:36 AM on 04/25/2011
The American Dream.
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Bruisersmom
06:19 PM on 04/25/2011
Is broken and laying on the floor in a million pieces.
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bessielil
trying to organize hummingbirds
10:02 PM on 04/24/2011
Maybe it's Robert Frost's fault. He said, In Death of the Hired Man:
“Home is the place where, when you have to go there,
They have to take you in.”

I feel badly for the parents who have done their best to send the kids off prepared only to find them at the doorway expecting to get their old room, free food, and being put back on the family cell phone plan , this time without rules, questions, curfews.

This poem by Marilyn Taylor sums up the bewildered folks saying to each other, "Now what?" http://www.poetryfoundation.org/poem/241372
02:17 PM on 04/25/2011
Maybe the parents should have elected more responsible public representatives, who wouldn't have allowed the economy to crumble, thus leading to this little problem.

But I guess it's always easier to blame the victim...
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Lorili Lee
02:40 PM on 04/25/2011
And it's always easy to blame your parents for your own shortcomings.
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MsIrisMG
Why not me?
08:10 PM on 04/24/2011
Kids today feel they are entitled to the lifestyle they grew up in. Being lower middle class or even poor is inconceivable. I'm reminded of Cliff Huxtable's response on the Cosby Show when his daughter asked, "Aren't we rich?" and he responded, "Your mother and I are rich. You have nothing." Some of these kids are lucky to have a home to go back to when things are tough. Try being 50 years old and unemployed, and they'll really understand then what it's like to want your mama.
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mad as heck
Just say No to lobbyists
10:23 PM on 04/24/2011
There's truth in what you say, but I don't know how any kid can make it with rents the way they are. I know kids who graduated from college and had to take part time retail jobs for a year or more, kids who work two jobs, take public transportation, share a place, and still struggle to make it. A lot of careers today seem to require a master's degree, which means more school and more loans. I feel sorry for kids today.
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hg wells
08:49 AM on 04/25/2011
50 years old, unemployed, and the GOP wants to eliminate your medicare.
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Lorili Lee
02:23 PM on 04/25/2011
Who gets medicare at age 50? Try 50 years old, unemployed and no health insurance. You cut your finger and you get a bill for $3500 from your friendly local ER for 5 stitches.
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Bruisersmom
06:20 PM on 04/25/2011
And your guaranteed pension should you be lucky enough to work in law enforcement or education.
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SilentSolidarity
So what do you need? Besides a miracle.
05:13 PM on 04/24/2011
In wealthy families, the offspring will usually stay at home until 25 and guess what, they have a perfect start into adult life.

In poor families, the offspring leaves at 16-18. Those people struggle for the first years living on several part-time jobs.

It's funny how some people argue that young folks staying longer at home is some sign of failure. This shows how out of touch some people are, still living in their 1950s mindset where people got married at 16 and had to provide food for their children at 18. Times have changed.

Staying longer at home to get a better start will benefit everyone: The state doesn't have to provide aid, the parents don't have to worry and get some of their bills paid by a helping hand, and the student has more time to study and less debt.
12:48 AM on 04/25/2011
I agree. What's better than living with people who love you and have your best interests at heart?
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Lorili Lee
02:26 PM on 04/25/2011
Not all families are so lovey dovey.
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epiphany24
03:29 AM on 04/25/2011
So true.
I lived in Asia for 4 years where it is commonplace for a young person to live with their parents until marriage...which can be way into their 30s. Although they have careers, they choose to stay at home. It's not seen as a failure.
The culture is different here though, more individualistic.
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Ladywolf55
Independent Secular Progressive
09:07 AM on 04/25/2011
I wouldn't call it "more individualistic". I'd say our culture is waaaay less caring for our children than other cultures. More self-centered and "What's in it for me?" That's the real USA.
03:02 PM on 04/24/2011
I found a very relevant and helpful book last year called "Under One Roof Again: All Grown Up and (Re)learning to Live Together Happily" by Susan Newman who is right on top of this difficulty many are facing. The author knows her stuff and offers a good foundation to guide grown children, parents and grandparents manage the awkwardness of all living together out of necessity. This book is the only support I found that worked.
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