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Single Moms May Face Health Problems, Study Says

First Posted: 06/03/11 07:28 PM ET Updated: 08/03/11 06:12 AM ET

Single Mom Health

The first year of being a single mom was tough on Alaina Sheer's health.

The marketing professional turned author and blogger said the pressures of raising her newborn son, combined with her crippling divorce debt and the feeling that she'd been cast out of her social network, took their toll.

"Can you imagine the stress that came with that?" Sheer asked. "That first year, I lost like 80 pounds. The stress just took hold of my body." At the time, Sheer was just 28 years old.

But a new study in the American Sociological Review tracking the health status of single moms at age 40 suggests that the negative health consequences of single motherhood might be even more long-lasting.

Focusing on the self-reported answers from moms who were unmarried at the time that they had their first child, researchers combed through data from the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth, which included some 13,000 participants who were interviewed at regular intervals for more than 30 years.

They found that white and black women who were unmarried when they had their first child reported that they were in worse health than their married counterparts. Hispanic women did not report the same negative health consequences -- a fact researches speculate could be tied to strong family networks and the prevalence of long-term, cohabitating relationships within that group.

The researchers admit that determining the exact reason why women who have their first child outside of marriage have negative health consequences was beyond the scope of their study. However, they offered several possible explanations.

"The stress associated with non marital childbearing, as well as the economic disadvantages that can come with it can put real strains on people's health," said Kristi Williams, a professor of sociology at Ohio State University and the study's lead author. "The question of which are the most important stressors still needs to be answered, but you have to keep in mind that this is on top of the day-to-day strains of simply caring for a child."

The study further considered the question of whether or not women who had their first child outside of marriage enjoyed better health if they later lived with or married someone.

While white and hispanic women who subsequently married their child's biological father did report improved health, the researchers found that generally, subsequent relationships don't make a difference, health-wise. Williams said the general stress of cohabitating could be one possible explanation. She added that women who remarry often choose spouses who have their own children, and blending families can be stressful.

For her part, Sheer -- who has since entered into a relationship -- agreed.

"I'm glad they pointed that out," she said. "When you're a single mom, you can start to think that the answer to everything is a man, and you're waiting to be rescued by a prince. But the fact is, when you bring someone new in, suddenly you're worried about both of them."

Overall, Williams said that the health implications of single motherhood have only just begun to be explored. But given a 2007 estimate cited in the study, which found that nearly 40 percent of all births in the U.S. were to unmarried women, she said the potential public health implications were enormous.

"We are soon going to have a large population of single mothers who are entering midlife, when many health problems just begin to emerge," she said in a statement. "This is a looming public health crisis that has been pretty much ignored by the public and policymakers."

The study, she hopes, will give rise to more research. For example, she thinks it sheds doubt on the idea that by promoting marriage among single, low-income mothers, the government could also help improve their health.

Leah Klungness, PhD, co-founder of the website Singlemommyhood put it a different way.

"Nothing inherent to single parenting [puts] an individual at greater risk for stress related health concerns post 40," she said in an e-mail. "My personal experience? Health and overall well-being [are] greatly improved after leaving a stressful and unhappy marriage."

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11:56 PM on 06/06/2011
Lisa Klungness, PHD, wrote "My personal experience? Health and overall well-being [are] greatly improved after leaving a stressful and unhappy marriage."

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She has to remember that most women do not have the financial where with all to be mothers on their own like she. This kind of attitude for society and all mothers, especially on the poorer side can be devasting to them and their children.

It's fine for upper class women who can make it on their own but toxic to those who have difficulty. I am saying this as a single women...we need to value marriage more and make it the ideal for child bearing/raising.
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KJLSanDiego
12:11 PM on 06/06/2011
Anyone dealing with that much stress sees it affect their immune system and physical wellness.
11:25 AM on 06/06/2011
"For example, she thinks it sheds doubt on the idea that by promoting marriage among single, low-income mothers, the government could also help improve their health."

Sounds like she began the study with the opinion that single mothers would have better health, subsequently found that the opposite was true, and now still refuses to change her mind.
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BAZINGA!!!
09:22 PM on 06/05/2011
Yes, being a single parent, mother or father, is stressful. Being a parent with a spouse is stressful. Life is stressful. This study took a handful of women and compared them to a handful of other women, there are way way way too many diverse factors to say that simply being a single parent is more unhealthy than otherwise. This study sounds like junk science to me.
06:56 AM on 06/06/2011
I'm not sure how you got to 13000 participants being a handful.
11:27 AM on 06/06/2011
"there are way way way too many diverse factors to say that simply being a single parent is more unhealthy than otherwise"

This is how studies are done. How is it junk science? 13000 is a huge sample size.
09:16 PM on 06/05/2011
There are clearly many layers to this issue--in the case of domestic violence, there is no question that it is better for mother
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tomteboda
09:16 AM on 06/08/2011
I don't think anyone with a rational mind would suggest it is better to be abused and married than a single parent. However, I think we're starting to understand that society has promoted marriage for eons not just out of a desire to control women but because solid family structures are, on average, beneficial for most people's wellbeing.
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Nerdiac
02:46 PM on 06/05/2011
"For example, she thinks it sheds doubt on the idea that by promoting marriage among single, low-income mothers, the government could also help improve their health."

HAHA, she thinks the government cares about poor people. How cute! And anyway, they didn't need to do any expensive, long drawn out studies to prove this. I could've just handed them my single mother's last checkup results.
11:29 AM on 06/06/2011
Why should the government bail out people who screw up the lives of their children? If anything government should focus its assistance efforts on two parent households where the parents are out of work, or single parents whose spouse has died. These people did things the right way and have fallen into trouble.

Single motherhood in the US represents an epidemic of selfishness and carelessness.
12:31 PM on 06/06/2011
"Single motherhood in the US represents an epidemic of selfishnes­s and carelessne­ss."

I don't think it's quite so pat. Women have children for many reasons and under varying circumstances.
03:47 PM on 06/06/2011
The question is, what do we do to help the children? Do we make the children suffer due to bad parental choices? I don't think it's necessarily MARRIAGE that makes a difference, it's the relationship. In many countries in northern Europe, marriage is an afterthought. But the cohabiting relationships are strong.

Children of single mothers often go on to be single parents. How do we stop that?
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bleubunny
Technically, we were beyond survival.
06:17 PM on 06/04/2011
Having a child is hard on your body. It takes about 2 years to fully recover. Add to that taking care of a child alone, no backup and then no money. Yeah no wonder their health suffers.

I think the child also suffers because one person cannot do the same job of two. The more adults you have helping raise a child the better it will be for all involved.

If other people in the community helped spend some time with growing children I think it would help them as well. It keeps you young being around kids.
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tomteboda
09:19 AM on 06/08/2011
I think we definitely suffer as a society from the loss of strong family networks, not just immediate but extended.
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02:25 PM on 06/04/2011
The elements involved are simple:

Money, money, money

If a single mother has money, she will probably have health care for herself and the child.

If a single mother has money, she might not have to work and cope with the child at the same time.

If a single mother works and has money, she can afford to hire a full or part-time nanny.

If a single mother has money, she probably has none of the related stress of no money, no health care, no help, while trying to balance all of the above with the needs of an infant.
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04:00 PM on 06/05/2011
Not so. It takes more than one person to raise a child. I divorced when my daughter was 18 mos. I moved out of state because her dad was totally not interested in parenting. I never felt "money" stress. I did feel the stress of being the only adult to raise my child since both my parents died shortly after my divorce.
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pennywhite
10:50 AM on 06/06/2011
You were EXTREMELY fortunate not to experience "money" stress. Trust me: adding the terror of homelessness to the stress of child-rearing increases one's health risks.
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09:37 AM on 06/04/2011
Being a mom harms one's health, period.
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Nerdiac
02:47 PM on 06/05/2011
Harms your furniture, electronics, and wallet too.
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BankOfHell
I know little of women. But I've heard dread tales
09:26 AM on 06/04/2011
Single moms will always be with us--until they stop thinking of worthless men as 'hot'.
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02:48 PM on 06/05/2011
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04:02 PM on 06/05/2011
And stop thinking that only a child will love them enough to give them a sense of self-worth.
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09:17 AM on 06/04/2011
The stress on my mother after my dad died? Unbelievable.And it has not changed, not one bit. Without access to a man's income or a second income? No matter how much you earn it is never enough.

And back when my Mom was single, I remember all the married ones calling her up and telling her I had no right to go to college, I should be sent to a boarding school so she could go find a husband ... you name it.
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08:52 AM on 06/04/2011
I would think that living in a stressed out relationship would be worse...
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Res ipsa loquitur
09:40 AM on 06/04/2011
People rarely think of things like that.
10:08 AM on 06/05/2011
I cannot agree with that, being a single mother and have being in a failed relationship are totally different stresses. Dealing with another adult human being is less stressfull because they have the means and the mind to take care of them selves and if they make your life a living hell you can dismiss that out of your life. A child comes from you, that is your flesh, so you cant just say im tired of taking care of you get out. I love my kids before any man on earth. At least the stress of a child seems to have more reason, and the love is unconditional.
06:56 AM on 06/06/2011
I think that was the point of comparing them to married women.....at least in theory, some of those married women were in a stressed out relationship.
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08:11 AM on 06/04/2011
Is being a single mom bad for your health? Even when a mom has enough money to care for herself and the child, if the child is not self-motivated, struggles in school, has mental health issues, or a physical disability, parenting alone without the daily presence of a "functional" husband, significant other or even your own mom life is much more stressful and that much extra stress = less than good health...been there, done that.
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carlamariee
Mama told me there'd be days like this
10:54 AM on 06/05/2011
Unless your husband is one that is more demanding and creates more stress than any of the kids. Been THERE, done THAT.
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European1919
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05:33 AM on 06/04/2011
Being a single mother certainly ruins your sex life. Men instinctively feel that either there is something wrong with you or that you're just looking for someone to put food on the table and pay for the upbringing and education of some other bloke's brat.
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Nopinky
05:07 PM on 06/04/2011
or that all of that means you'll be willing to put up with all the cr*p that other women won't, so they can treat you like you should be grateful they're around.
12:24 AM on 06/06/2011
You're so right. We're definitely better off avoiding single mothers as partners.
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01:16 AM on 06/04/2011
I worked with single women who were separated from their boyfriend / husband / partner due to domestic violence. One of the things I found is that women who moved closer to family had the support to raise their children alone and not return to the abuser. The same would go with the women in recovery I worked with. Many were single parents. Those that chose to go at it alone would relapse vs. those that went to live with family. You need that extended family to help raise a child. If you don't have the family then you need to connect to other women or families that will help. You can make some amazing bonds and create your own family.
10:23 AM on 06/05/2011
Now this I totally agree with you 100%. I am currently one of the women that you speak of. I am also currently residing in Colorado. I had my son in November via C-section, therefore it took a major toll on my body because I ended up hemoraging and almost died. I let the father of my child move back in ( relapsed ) and that was a major No No. He did not help me at all I was up cooking and cleaning and taking care of a newborn a week after my surgery. He was plotting on how he can get me to let him use my son on his taxes, my supidity at the time allow such. He sparked a fight the night he was ready to leave and punched me in my lip. We then fought. I was only at the time 3 months post op. He then called saying he prepared a bedroom for my son without me knowing of his where abouts, then had the nerve to ask me what gives me more rights over my son them he? I also found out that he may be a petophile. I have made contact with my family and informed them of my situation and will be moving back home to better my safety and to maintain a healthy living with raising my children. Sorry such a long read. Have a Blessed day.
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03:40 PM on 06/07/2011
I sure hope he doesn't give you and problems with custody issues. You may want to talk to someone in the know about this. Good luck and be well.
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carlamariee
Mama told me there'd be days like this
10:56 AM on 06/05/2011
Great comment! Fanned for it!