Charlize Theron On Piers Morgan: Why I'll Never Marry

people.com:

Charlize Theron says long-term commitment, not marriage, is the priority for her in a relationship. And yet, seeing the importance the institution holds for others, the Oscar winner has come out as a forceful proponent of gay marriage.

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Comments

[Said One]

07:16 AM on 07/02/2011

I agree with her  on her marriage stance- but if people have multiple kids together then it makes sense to get married for the kids sake

[ArChiMi]

09:02 PM on 07/01/2011

You hear the George Cloony?

[mc53]

11:54 AM on 07/01/2011

Because you are smart madam! Marriage is a dead or dying institution. 50% of marriages fail, that's a heck of an institution you have there!

[frw55]

09:09 PM on 07/01/2011

If marriage is such a dying institution, why is it so important that gays be allowed to marry?

[Said One]

07:17 AM on 07/02/2011

So that divorce lawyers can make $$

[Said One]

07:18 AM on 07/02/2011

And most people who get married and esp those that have the kids and the wife/husband too early - end up regretting it

[Marturia]

10:23 AM on 07/01/2011

Her parents had a volatile relationship that ended badly. The reason she has for not getting married goes deeper than most people and she isn't like a lot of celebs who treat marriage as a fad. My best to her.

[Fritzwood]

10:19 AM on 07/01/2011

well....take that off the bucket list......

[RusStyles]

09:59 AM on 07/01/2011

This laissez-faire mindset regarding marriage is one of the reasons there's been a continuous breakdown in the family unit. There are more kids than ever eating unhealthy, suffering from ADD, having sex earlier, which leads to a wide array of other societal problems. Marriage or healthy functioning nuclear family is the glue that helps to maintain moral standards and healthy psychological development of our youth. This is not to suggest that unmarried people cannot be effective parents--obviously it's possible--it's just less likely.

Hopefully the pendulum will swing back...

[Ugonna]

10:14 AM on 07/01/2011

no, the breakdown in marriages caused the "laissez-faire" attitude. There's little reason for ppl like Charlize and myself to believe in marriage. If you want to get married, do so. There will ALWAYS be plenty of ppl who want to get married and have that "fairytale", so talk of a breakdown is nonsense.

[RusStyles]

11:12 AM on 07/01/2011

"Fairytale"? History and facts don't mesh with your opinion...

[angelv]

12:21 PM on 07/01/2011

No the bad fat kids are because of cell phones, Ipods and video games. Or bad parenting, or a combination.

[jesthefaxman]

09:24 AM on 07/01/2011

You're too rich to get married. Whoever you punt will treat you like an ATM

[sarac]

08:22 AM on 07/01/2011

I agree with her. If you want to get married, then by all means it should be okay for all people. If you don't want to me married, that's okay, too. I did not like being married, therefore, I'm single.

[jackdaniel58]

08:16 AM on 07/01/2011

It's all about her checkbook.

[WSAY]

09:14 AM on 07/01/2011

Keep telling yourself that.

[Nightangle]

07:56 AM on 07/01/2011

OF LOVE AND MARRIAGE

My four grannies/dads [ 2 in their 90's and 2 are 87 and 89 years old ] have been married over 60 years, and mom/dad for over 32 [ in their 50's ] without living together before the marriages. All dated for a while, and engaged for at least 1 year. But what is interesting, at least for me, is that my grandparents, as well as mom and dad married for love, without regards to financial issues, that is, rich or poor". They just married with many children, regardless.

Fast forward today, I would not marry without living together first and I would not marry ANYONE POORER THAN ME. My 5 brothers, 2 of which lived together with their wives for about 1 1/2 years before getting married, one is engaged for 6 months now, not living together and have a date set 1 year from now, the other 2 are still in college and who are busy dating.

Maybe it's a generational thing. Maybe that is why my grandparents are still so much alive and kicking. Maybe that is why mom and dad still so much madly in love, that sometimes, my brothers and I have to say "go get a room for pete sake. "

For sure, marriage institution is evolving. Marriage should not be a political issue, but a personal and social issue.

[JenniferWest]

11:03 AM on 07/01/2011

Everyone is different on this issue. Statistically living together does not lead to a more lasting marriage-or less likely to divorce. If you make no commitment to get engaged first, and do marry, divorce rates go up, for these couples. I know my H wanted me to move in with him. But for me it was a non starter. I had lived with someone for years and experienced a bad break up. And I was not about to give up my independence and home to go play house with some guy who might change his mind, then what? But I was ready and wanted to get married. Fast forward a couple months and a Romantic NYC weekend proposal! It like a better fit for me. As far as money goes, It's an important issue. The #1 reason couples fight. Children, sex, and money-The big issues you should iron out before you get married or live together.

[Nightangle]

10:52 PM on 07/01/2011

F & F, regardless of differing view of the President.

I don't quite follow your premise: if living together does not lead to a more lasting marriage, then why would they LESS likely to divorce ? Shouldn't they MORE likely to divorce ?

I've never tried it, but for me, living together per se is a committment, intrinsically, in and of itself. It's a very serious consideration. You just do not move in at the snap of a finger. There may not be total responsibility, neverthelmoveess, there are obligations, semblance of loyalty, and dedications involved.

I do not believe in any prolonged living together, either. 2 years at most. There must be complete understanding, that each would be honest and open if one decides to end the arrangement. I would not consider the matter lightly.

It would be such a challenge to give up my independence. I have a career, a house, my own mortgage, and most important, 'am used to making decisions, making my budget, spending my own money and I come and go as I please.

'just turned 29. Life is too short, no one should be bound to a relationship that does not work.

Clean break and even at that, rather than going thru divorce.

[T-Faz]

06:36 AM on 07/01/2011

She is Lesbians.

[Naveed Ahmed]

07:41 AM on 07/01/2011

how do you know this that she is Lesbians......

The World Current Affairs

[Nightangle]

07:58 AM on 07/01/2011

Lesbians ?

[Howard53545]

05:31 AM on 07/01/2011

Good, then I still have a chance to hit it without getting shot by jealous hubby.

[Marturia]

10:17 AM on 07/01/2011

Of course you do, Howard. Keep that dream alive!

[grungegirl991]

02:41 AM on 07/01/2011

Wasn't Married to her Ex-boyfriend

[MarieNat]

02:41 AM on 07/01/2011

Didn't her mother shoot her abusive father to death in self-defense? I think that might turn someone off the idea of marriage - seeing an unhealthy one that ended in violence.

[Nightangle]

08:00 AM on 07/01/2011

Wow, I didn't know that !

[grungegirl991]

02:41 AM on 07/01/2011

I say B.S--If you're interested in a committed relationship-then you should get married...I don't see what is so different about the logistics--you're committed, you may have kids, you live together--i.e your married--so make it official + get married.....

-The people that keep saying "marriage is a failed institution"--on-going love + commitment is the aspect of marriage--it's the people within the institution that fail it...not the institution itself--Anybody that "doesn't want to get married" I think have some-kind of huge commitment problem--or just don't think it will ever happen--example: Rachel Weiz--she was married to her boyfriend/fiance for a while + they had a son...and they did the whole "we're just going to be engaged and never get married"--well now she is married to 007...obviously she was that in-love to want to get married + maybe not enough to her ex--so I say B.S

[Ugonna]

09:55 AM on 07/01/2011

I disagree. There is a huge diff between the two, and you contradict yourself anyway. If they're the same, then why is marriage necessary then? In my mind, marriage changes the dynamic. In the back of ppl's minds, things should be "better now" that you're married, and you kind of expect a fairytale, even if you try not to. Mistakes or bad habits of the other are SUCH a bigger deal to you, because he's your "husband". You tolerate less, and start thinking of divorce or needing counselling because of problems you see as insurmountable. When you're just together, you don't put too much pressure on yourself and the other person about "why it isn't working", and are more likely to push through and stay together. Those who stay married got passed all that, but I do believe they had to get through that mindset themselves.

[TaurusRose]

02:13 PM on 07/01/2011

Actually I did not really want to get married. My husband really did. I knew we would be together for a really long time, and he wanted it enough that I decided to please him b/c
nothing would change our long term commitment. Very soon after our wedding,
things shifted and I realized that the act of marriage really gave our relationship more
dimension and more emotional benefits than I could have imagined.
Christmas Eve is our 35th anniversary. Really! lol