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San Diego Pride: Troops To March As Identifiable Group In Gay Parade For First Time

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JULIE WATSON   07/15/11 03:04 PM ET   AP

SAN DIEGO — Sean Sala felt so elated when Congress approved repealing the military's ban on openly gay troops the 26-year-old sailor went on TV and revealed his sexual orientation publicly in what he calls his "Rosa Parks moment."

Now the former Navy operations specialist, who finished his service last month, is organizing what is believed to be the first military contingent of hundreds of active-duty troops and veterans to lead a gay pride parade. The group will march Saturday in San Diego's parade, the nation's fifth largest.

The national Servicemembers Legal Defense Network – representing gay and lesbian active-duty military personnel – said they told Sala they are warning members that it is still a risk to come out as long as "don't ask, don't tell" is on the books.

"We communicated to him that anyone who participates is assuming a certain level of risk," spokesman Zeke Stokes said. "We are looking forward to a time when LGBT service members can participate in these kinds of actions without any risk."

Sala said it's time for the gay and lesbian community to stop hiding in fear.

"This is not in any way a violation of military policy and it's time for the country to move on – plain and simple," he said.

Cpl. Jaime Rincon, 21, a Camp Pendleton Marine who plans to participate, said he is grateful Sala gave him the opportunity to march as a military member in a gay pride event.

"Finally someone is stepping up to the plate, someone has said: `We're done hiding. Let's do something about this. Let's show everybody we're proud of who we are and we're proud of our branches of service,'" he said.

The Pentagon has said the military will not discharge anyone under the policy, for now, to comply with a July 6 federal appeals court order telling the U.S. government to cease enforcing the 17-year ban. Marine Corps officials said service members who are not in uniform are within their rights to participate in a gay pride parade.

But Stokes said going public now could be used against military personnel later if the military starts enforcing the policy again. The Department of Justice has filed an emergency motion asking the court to reconsider its order, saying ending the ban now would pre-empt the "orderly process" for rolling back the 17-year-old policy as outlined in the law passed and signed by the president in December. Pentagon officials have said they expect the ban to be officially lifted soon.

Sala said the parade group will be made up of gay and heterosexual service members in a show of unity.

The troops and veterans will wear T-shirts showing their branch of service. They will walk with two horses – one draped in an American flag and the other with the rainbow-colored Pride flag – to honor service members and those who have died for equality, Sala said.

Some will accompany a half-ton military vehicle as audio equipment belts out "Taps" and military fight songs to the expected crowd of thousands. They also will hold a 30-foot American flag and a banner with the military crest on it.

Gay Pride marches nationwide have been focusing on the repeal of the military's ban but this will be the first with active-duty troops participating as an identifiable group, gay rights activists say.

Denver's PrideFest in June was themed "These Colors Don't Run" to honor gay and lesbian service members, and its grand marshal was the Servicemembers Legal Defense Network, which had a discharged military officer represent it. Some parades have featured floats covered with photos of fallen gay troops with their faces blacked out.

Sala said the group's presence will send a strong message that the nation is at the end of an era of discrimination.

"People (service members) are flying in from out of state to be in this because they believe `don't ask, don't tell' never should have been instituted," Sala said. "It's about humanity and coming to honor military troops regardless of their sexual orientation in a pride parade. It's finally able to happen."

Outing himself was a therapeutic and moving experience, a release of years of pent up feelings of anger and humiliation at having to hide a part of his identity, Sala said.

Sala said he spent six years feeling paranoid that any misstep would mean the end of his career.

He would skirt questions about his weekend plans. He remembers lying in his bunk on a Navy ship off the coast of Iran, feeling despair there was a law forcing him to keep his life secret. So in December when the Senate approved repealing that law, an empowered Sala agreed to an interview on CW6, a San Diego TV station.

The next day he felt the stares from his fellow sailors. He expected the worst from his captain, a conservative Christian, who called him into his office.

"He told me, `I don't care. I never cared. You're an excellent leader,'" Sala recalled. "It was very moving."

Sala was amazed at the sense of lightness that overtook him.

"It burns away at your soul...to just constantly feed people false pretenses just to protect yourself," he said.

After the initial shock, his fellow sailors congratulated him for his courage, Sala said.

"It created a tremendous amount of unity," he said.

He finished his service June 30 and plans to study politics.

Sala said he hopes the government will sanction a military presence in next year's pride event, just as the armed forces have done in Canada and Great Britain, where uniformed soldiers have marched down the streets of Toronto and London next to scantily clad men, drag queens and civil rights activists.

"We've gone from instituting pure discrimination to instituting equality, which is amazing," he said. "I'm wondering why repeal is taking so long. I say many of those who are still against this have never even put on a uniform."

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04:52 PM on 07/19/2011
The only thing I dislike about gay men is that the ones I know and have seen are fine and I have no chance. Other than that I have no problem with anyone's sexual preference. Stay strong 'cause only you can stand up for yourself.
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Ioan Lightoller
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01:22 AM on 07/17/2011
I don't know if anyone else knows about this. I found it just a few minutes ago on Yahoo! News:

http://news.yahoo.com/court-temporarily-reinstates-dont-ask-dont-tell-152249916.html
11:52 AM on 07/17/2011
The title of the article is actually wrong, DADT was still in effect but not certified up until the court made the decision to stop discharging soldiers. Then the DoJ challenged it, but the Ninth Circuit court told the DoJ that the military would have to stop discharging soldiers if they expected the decision to stand.
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Ioan Lightoller
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02:15 PM on 07/17/2011
Thak you for clearing that up.
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Atwill
Christian puppets scare me
06:32 PM on 07/17/2011
loan, yahoo is the most anti- gay place. have you ever read some of the comments on the boards there on a gay story? down right evil. They allow the sickest , most vile thumpers on this planet to post anything,
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Ioan Lightoller
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08:47 PM on 07/17/2011
I know. I've seen comments on gay threads over there. Disgusting people.
12:23 AM on 07/17/2011
"It burns away at your soul...to just constantly feed people false pretenses just to protect yourself," he said.

Sean Sala: I have tried to put that into words so many times. How you put it is perfect. That is exactly how I felt for 5 years of active duty. Thanks for speaking up and doing it so well!

THAT'S a Pride Parade I'm really sad I missed!
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joemondo
Smug.
09:05 PM on 07/16/2011
Most Jewish holidays come down to "They wanted us dead; we're alive. Let's eat!"

Pride comes down to "They want us invisible; we're not. Let's dance!"
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Ioan Lightoller
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09:31 PM on 07/16/2011
Pretty much.
12:24 AM on 07/17/2011
Joemondo: nailed it!
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blueeyedbull
A sense of humor is one of the most sexy qualities
08:38 PM on 07/16/2011
I should have known I would have to spell it out for all the _bible _thumpers. You don't understand the concept of taking the _Lords name in _vain. Like I said, you are using his name as a commodity and that commodity is your _hatred and _homophobia. Here is the challenges for you. Give me one _bible verse that says anything against _gays and your interpretation of that verse. Do you understand the correlation between The Ten Commandments and the _bible?

BTW, I was raised a _Catholic, but am non practicing.
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Bladesmith
Hammering out some red hot truth.
08:29 PM on 07/16/2011
I am a hetero veteran, and I would be proud to walk (Ok hobble, I'm disabled) beside these people.
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RBLRDR
Can I curse in this little box?
09:32 PM on 07/16/2011
Sir, I'd be honored to walk with you and lend you a shoulder if you needed one.
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TheSarge
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11:20 PM on 07/16/2011
Your comment is EXACTLY why I will always defend your rights, you earned my respect. All of you have! I got your back too!
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blueeyedbull
A sense of humor is one of the most sexy qualities
09:37 PM on 07/16/2011
Faved. Thank you for your service.
07:56 PM on 07/16/2011
I am white, straight and male. I am comfortable with all these things and don't feel it is necessary for me to go out and parade about any of them. If gays were trully comfortable about being gay why do they need to have a parade to let everyone else know they are comfortable with it?
The parade indicates to me they are not so proud of being gay, but assembling in large numbers make them feel better knowing there are so many others like them. Personally I could care less about someones personal orientation, but keep it in the bedroom because I don't care how pround of it you are, believe me you are not roll models.
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joemondo
Smug.
08:25 PM on 07/16/2011
What a sad misunderstanding.

If I were part of the exceedingly dominant culture that celebrated me all the time, I might not understand that others have a different experience.

But nah, I wouldn't be that dumb.
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DTOM1776
Veritas Liberabit Vos
09:23 PM on 07/16/2011
Greetings joemondo

It is the exceedingly dominant culture because it is the natural order of how human beings operate sexually. And it is not "celebrated." It is justifiably recognized as the norm.
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blueeyedbull
A sense of humor is one of the most sexy qualities
08:26 PM on 07/16/2011
You like most people don't understand when, how and why gay pride parades started. Maybe if you did you wouldn't post something so _ignorant.
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Skhylow
07:33 PM on 07/16/2011
Kuddos to Salas for standing up for his rights
07:29 PM on 07/16/2011
If openly gay men can bunk with straight men and other openly gay men in the military, and same for gay women and straight women...what is the difference between that and a man and woman bunking together? I'm not trying to be offensive I'm just wondering. Just think it could make things a little uncomfortable.
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Klytemnestra
07:51 PM on 07/16/2011
If a straight soldier gets hurt in battle, do you think he would feel uncomfortable if a gay man carried him to safety in his arms?
08:08 PM on 07/16/2011
Not at all. I have nothing against gay men and women being in the military. I think every American who wants to fight to protect our country has the right to do so. But, that really didn't answer my question.
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Ioan Lightoller
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07:54 PM on 07/16/2011
No one was uncomfortable when they didn't know. The only thing that will have changed is that the bigots have to admit that we exist within the military. GLBT troops will continue to be the professionals that they were when people didn't know who was gay and who wasn't.
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Ioan Lightoller
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07:23 PM on 07/16/2011
For all the bigots on here, I have an entirely new policy. It's called DLDL. Don't Like? Don't Look. Now isn't that nice and simple?
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Atwill
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08:36 PM on 07/16/2011
no load. it is DLGO. dont like? Get out.
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Ioan Lightoller
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09:06 PM on 07/16/2011
True you do have a point.
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DTOM1776
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08:38 PM on 07/16/2011
Greetings loan Lightoller

Objections to open homosexual BEHAVIOR in the military is not a preference argument. It is not "I don't like homosexuals." Nor is it bigoted. Unless of course you wish to rewrite the definition to include anyone that says anything negative about any aspect of homosexuality.

It is a justifiable predictive effect based claim. A reasonable claim that takes seriously the actual purpose of our military. The purpose of our military is to defend this country. Period. Not some attempt to force societal acceptance of a small minority's preferred sexual practices or lifestyle.
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joemondo
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09:46 PM on 07/16/2011
There's no homosexual or heterosexual behavior in the military. That's what happens on personal time.
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dgaisior08
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10:08 PM on 07/16/2011
If the purpose of the military is to defend this country, then why is the country denying others from serving just because of who they sleep with when they get home? Yes DADT allowed LGBT folk to serve, but do you know how hard it is to not mention your significant other or plans for when you get back while everyone else is ragging on about who all is waiting for them back home? And when they get home, all those greetings and kisses by their significant others that LGBT folk cannot participate in until they are at home because they can't let it slip that they aren't heterosexual to the wrong people.

DADT denies intelligent, patriotic people from serving and defending this country.
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blueeyedbull
A sense of humor is one of the most sexy qualities
05:51 PM on 07/16/2011
I just reread the ten commandments. Not one of them mentions gays. What I did find interesting, you _bible thumpers will like this, is the third commandment. You people that are using religion and _God to justify your _homophobia are in _violation of the third commandment. Believe it or not, you are taking the _Lords name in vain. Now go home and think about that. I will give you a hint, you are treating him like a commodity.
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autumn5656k
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07:14 PM on 07/16/2011
You're entitled to your opinion ... as misguided as it is.
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blueeyedbull
A sense of humor is one of the most sexy qualities
07:38 PM on 07/16/2011
Not misguided all. Apparently you don't understand The Ten Commandments.
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Ioan Lightoller
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07:55 PM on 07/16/2011
The only thing misguided is your bigotry.
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Hiddenfangs
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07:37 PM on 07/16/2011
They don't actually READ that book, blueeyedbull. They listen for quotes and then parrot the speaker because having to actually read means a lot of words and stuff.
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politicky
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05:32 PM on 07/16/2011
Born and raised in SD and worked on a mil base many many years ago. Didn't think I'd ever see this.

(happy tears)
05:13 PM on 07/16/2011
The issue is equal rights, not the gays' sexual orientation. When other groups of Americans wanted equal rights, they participated in marches--not much different than the gay pride parade. The black community drew attention to their cause and marched for racial equality, not for their blackness. Women marched and drew attention to their right to vote, not their female gender. Why do some see this situation any differently than those mentioned, whether you agree with/condone their lifestyle or not?

Our Ameican values allow for all to have the same opportunities. Some people are still racially prejudiced, but wouldn't necessarily talk disrespectfully about the people who marched in support of civil rights. Instead, we have holidays recognizing important black leaders. I support/am proud of all efforts to extend equal rights to the LGBT community, including openly serving in the military. Perhaps our nation is seeing the LGBT community as people just like everyone else who have similarities with and differences from others.

I'm 50 and remember fondly the stories my deceased parents born in 1919 and 1922 told me about the gay couple who attended their Presbyterian church and the serman the minister and personal friend of theirs gave one Sunday about accepting our differences and loving people for who they are. They also marched in support of civil rights. I feel blessed to have been raised by parents who were so wise to teach their children in word and by example that discrimination is wrong.
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blueeyedbull
A sense of humor is one of the most sexy qualities
05:29 PM on 07/16/2011
Hi Mel. :) Fanned and faved.
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WheelsOnFire
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05:33 PM on 07/16/2011
Brilliantly said!

Enthusiastically fanned and faved.
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Dean77
"There's only one God, mam."
05:05 PM on 07/16/2011
Fortunately, for the military, this was a toned-down version. No make-up, feathers, g-strings or black leather chaps.
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IdeatoEmpire
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05:26 PM on 07/16/2011
Sorry you couldn't make it. Maybe next year.
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RBLRDR
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05:31 PM on 07/16/2011
Mardi Gras woman ....

http://tinyurl.com/6b8yxec
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Klytemnestra
06:48 PM on 07/16/2011
That's so creepy...
07:24 PM on 07/16/2011
Hurry! Must protect children. Now. :p
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Michele Kobus
05:02 PM on 07/16/2011
“Michele Kobus you just HAD to bring the 'C' word into the fray didn't you now? That is usually the loser's retreat of last resort. No? NO MORE SUSHI FOR YOU MICHELE! You are a naughty little rug raider! You are a bad girl, Michele, a BAD, BAD GIRL!”

More christian love notes from dora the bora. Notice how she feigins outrage at being called a name, and then lets loose with more vile, sexually charged inuendo. For tjhe record, dora, your tirade does not shock me anymore. You can't call me by one slur I have not heard a hundred times. I;ve been hearing it from people like you all my life and I am old. And you are not clever enough to come up with any thing new/ YOU ARE TEDIOUS.

(Is it just me, or does anyone else think dora wants to "dicipline" me?) Sorry dora. Not my thing and you are not my type.
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05:36 PM on 07/16/2011
Michele dear, calm down.

Have some chamomile tea. No one understands you right now. What are you talking about, dear?
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Michele Kobus
06:16 PM on 07/16/2011
Let me catch you up. This dora chick has been hounding me all day here. She made some very vulgar remarks, called me several insulting names for a Lesbian and then she called me immoral.
I would hope you would understand how it feels to be called names, insulted, demeaned and dehumanized.
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Michele Kobus
06:19 PM on 07/16/2011
Sorry if I made no sense. I'm a little tired.
Tea sounds good