Gay Couples Marry In New York (LIVE BLOG)

New York Gay Wedding

First Posted: 07/24/11 11:25 AM ET Updated: 09/23/11 06:12 AM ET

NEW YORK (AP) — Gay couples cheered by supporters have begun marrying in New York City on the first day same-sex weddings are legal in the Empire State.

New York City officials expect to host hundreds of same-sex weddings Sunday. Clerks in New York City and about a dozen other cities statewide are opening their doors Sunday to cater to same-sex couples.

In Manhattan, the first of about 100 couples waiting in line on a sweltering Sunday began exchanging vows in a city clerk's office. Judges waived a mandatory 24-hour waiting period that allowed couples to exchange vows moments after receiving their licenses.

A small number of same-sex couples got married at the stroke of midnight around the state.

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Wedding Reception at the NYC LGBT Center

A crowd of about 150 people gathered at the LGBT Center in Manhattan's West Village Sunday night to toast to newlywed gay couples -- and to the advocacy groups who helped earn them the right to marry.

The champagne was flowing in fluted glasses, flowers adorned the tables, and many in attendance wore blue sashes from the Empire State Pride Agenda that read "Just Married."

New York City Council Speaker Christine Quinn, speaking of same-sex marriage's opponents, said "they thought, I think because they talk about religion, that we lack faith."

But she warned those opponents that gay marriage "is the law of the land, and it is going to stay that way." Quinn thanked representatives from the groups that make up New Yorkers United For Marriage for "never losing faith."

State Senator Tom Duane, who sponsored the Marriage Equality Act, thanked all in attendance, and saluted the "biiiiiii-partisan" vote that made it a reality. His mention of Republican state senators who had supported the measure drew special applause.

-- Matt Sledge

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@ SeanEldridge : Great article about local families. "Children Open Up About Their Same-Sex Parents"-Peekskill-Cortlandt http://t.co/opwxsK4 @PeekskillPatch

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@ azipaybarah : The first #ssm @ Gracie Mansion & the first officiated by a #nyc mayor. @MikeBloomberg http://yfrog.com/kkfq1zej

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@mgsledge At LGBT Center marriage celebration. Sen Duane speaking

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@ Gothamist : Google Maps Joins In On Gay Marriage Celebration Today http://bit.ly/nOlwQs

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@ benpolitico : 484 same sex marriages in nyc today, per City Hall.

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@ mgsledge : Intro speaker reiterating that "this is not an anti-gay" rally, disassociating rally from Westboro group

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@msledge: a couple of Jewish guys hit the bestiality theme:

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For great photos from today's weddings at the Manhattan city clerk's office, go here. Below, Shane Hoffman and Michael Goddard get married this morning at the Manhattan city clerk's office.

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The lone Democrat who voted against the Marriage Equality Act in the New York state senate is also wearing a shirt with his own name written across the back.

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From Carroll-Gardens Patch: "Standing across the street from the Brooklyn Marriage Bureau at Borough Hall as several gay and lesbian couples emerged from their wedding ceremonies, the Kansas-based church was almost entirely ignored as they held up signs such as “God Hates Fags” to voice their disapproval."

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The National Organization for Marriage will protest outside Governor Cuomo's office at 3 p.m. A crowd has already begun to gather.

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@ thomaskaplan : Cuomo on #gaymarriage taking effect: "I don't think this is just about gay people…this is a statement that we should all feel good about."

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@ Rueby : In #nyc, orthodox #ssm protester chased down sidewalk by rollerskater in sequined bra, veil + angel wings. (via @MichaelPaulson @samdolnick)

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Michael Goddard didn't know he was going to get married -- not until just a couple days ago, when his partner, Shane Hoffman, informed him that they had won the city's marriage lottery.

As soon as the Marriage Equality Act passed in New York, their friend Cara Forney explained, "Shane started plotting." He entered the lottery on the sly. Friends and family from Maine to Arizona, some of them on fewer than 48 hours notice, sped to New York to witness the couple as they ushered in the historic day.

Hoffman's father, Harrison, came from Maine -- but he wasn't put off by the short notice in the least. Instead, the proud father, in a suit and pink tie, was beaming, along with his wife. Just a little while ago, he said, he had "never thought" about his son getting married. But "moments in history happen quickly," he said, and he was glad to be in New York for the occasion.

As the wedding party of about a dozen made their way into the chapel for a civil ceremony, they were met by Manhattan Supreme Court Justice Paul Wooten, who stood at the ready to waive the otherwise required 24-hour waiting period between a marriage license and a marriage. The room was plain but serene. Hoffman wore a jacket, and Goddard had on a dress shirt and navy slacks.

"There is no other institution as strong as the union which you will form here today," Wooten told them.

Hoffman, struggling through tears, thanked his about-to-be husband "for being my light, my love."

"You believe in me like nobody ever has," Goddard replied. "I will always be there for you."

Wooten told the two they were about to be married "in accordance with the laws of the state of New York," which elicited a few laughs, and then he made it official.

Hoffman and Goddard kissed. Their families, slightly bleary from their travels, cheered and wept.

-- Matt Sledge

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@ CarolynBMaloney : Congratulations to all the New Yorkers getting married today, and in the future! #marriageequality

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@ thomaskaplan : Still a line of more than a block outside the Manhattan clerk's office. http://twitpic.com/5v83gx

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Inside the City Clerk's office, things were a bit of a madhouse. Scores of couples and wedding party members dashed to and fro, taking pictures, laughing, and waiting for their numbers to be called. Flat-panel monitors flashed announcements -- "Now serving: C 705 at Counter 8" -- and volunteers, sounding a bit like carnival barkers, repeated the numbers.

The Manhattan Marriage Bureau, remodeled a couple years ago to great fanfare, looked sparkling. Families waiting their turns lounged on plush couches, chandeliers dangled, and city workers grinned.

One couple waiting to get married, Laura Moore and MaryAnn Bellomo, carried a sign saying they had been "illegally married" since May 16, 1998. Moore and Bellomo, who live in Washington Heights, have been in a relationship for 15 years.

"We had a big wedding without a license," Moore explained. Back then, neither of the women were sure they would ever be legally married in the state of New York. But they fought for that right anyway, marching in protests with the sign -- and they always held out hope.

"We saved the second half of our wedding album to fill with pictures some day," Moore said. "That day has come."

-- Matt Sledge

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@ ChrisCQuinn : Greg Levine and Shane Serkiz, first male couple to be married in Queens #LGBT #equality http://t.co/OSA1vG3

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Outside the Louis J. Lefkowitz State Office Building this morning, hundreds of couples were lined up, unbowed by the heat and generally beaming with happiness. They were joined by hordes of exuberant friends, family and well-wishers. Across Worth Street, a handful of members from Fred Phelps' Westboro Baptist Church were on hand to protest the event -- but between the cheerful crowds, smiling volunteers passing out sunflowers, and puppets from Avenue Q, their message was mostly ignored.

The line just to get into the building stretched around the block. Despite temperatures hovering near 90 degrees, many couples were dressed up in suits, dresses, or other elaborate wedding outfits. One such pair, Dave Lewis and Adam McKew, wore kilts to celebrate their Irish and Scottish heritage. They said they had been together for seven years -- to the day.

"I'm going to jump for joy," Lewis said. Moments before speaking with The Huffington Post, the couple had been congratulated by City Council Speaker Christine Quinn as she passed by. "She's a very special lady," Lewis said, referring to the role Quinn played in getting the Marriage Equality Act passed.

Further towards the entrance, Jeffrey Farber and Michael Roma were preparing to obtain their own marriage license inside the building. They said they had been together for 32 years. It was only three months ago, Farber noted, that they had begun considering marriage -- and then at first only so he would be able to use his partner's health insurance plan. But now they were looking forward to it, Roma said, because "it's nice to have the right" to marry.

Three decades into their relationship, the Chelsea couple had low-key plans for the rest of the day. Farber, an actor, was going to do some laundry. They said they would celebrate later, on Labor Day -- their "actual anniversary."

Mary Opler of Brooklyn was 15 or 20 demonstrators twirling rainbow-colored umbrellas who showed up to counter the five or so people from Westboro. Opler said she was there because Phelps' followers were "just so utterly nasty. I didn't want anybody's day to be ruined." She said she was the daughter of two gay fathers and she's a lesbian herself. Today, she added, "is about love and being a couple."

-- Matt Sledge

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A state Supreme Court judge waives the 24-hour waiting period so a couple can exchange vows immediately after receiving their marriage license.

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@ MichaelPaulson : The protest scene: “You’re going to the chapel where you’ll see your final do-oo-oo-oom.” - http://nyti.ms/pXcvbp

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@ CityHallNews : We run into Sen.Tom Duane, sweating, with his partner of 19 yrs at clerk's office. "between the schvitzing and the crying I'm all wet."

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@ mgsledge : First couple, Phyllis Siegel and Connie Kopelov, emerges from City Clerk's office http://t.co/H5gpIx9

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The New York Times profiles Michael Fury, 62, and Bobby Bienvenido, 65, who have been together 18 years. "By 9 a.m., wearing matching white polo shirts and slacks, they had become the first same-sex couple to wed at the Brooklyn Municipal Building."

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Phyllis Siegel, 76, arms raised, and Connie Kopelov, 84, in wheelchair, both of New York, celebrate after becoming the first same-sex couple to get married at the Manhattan city clerk's office, Sunday, July 24, 2011, in New York. (AP Photo/Jason DeCrow)

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StevenKeirstead
Photographer and Biologist who happens to be gay.
10:45 PM on 07/25/2011
One of my high school classmates married his husband in NYC yesterday. They had to wait in the heat in a long line at the Office of the City Clerk. As each couple left the crowd outside cheered. Congratulations David and Jim!
06:09 PM on 07/25/2011
Looking at the stats another way, of the 450,000 people who've died of AIDS in this country, 350,000 of them have been gay males. When presented with these stunning numbers gay activists reply, "Yeah, but 100 million heterosexuals in Africa have died of AIDS" as if this somehow how reduces the morbidity of male-to-male sex in the USA.

It doesn't.
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Angel1999
Microbiologist & Historian
08:10 PM on 07/25/2011
And you keep posting these statistics as if they're relevant. Diseases don't come or go based on who can or can't get married. These statistics will be the same whether gays are allowed to marry or not. How many times do you need to be told that this is totally irrelevant to the issue of marriage?
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valkygrrl
Hail Eris
09:01 PM on 07/25/2011
His statistics are made up, he basically gets his jollies sitting here and posting lies
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joemondo
Smug.
08:19 PM on 07/25/2011
What does that have to do with marriage?
NYC619
Tri-corn hats cannot fit block heads
05:37 PM on 07/25/2011
That first pic-an inter-racial lesbian couple? Right on.

Thats gonna really irritate the haters.
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IdeatoEmpire
Always provocative, never conventional
05:15 PM on 07/25/2011
Happy newlyweds; sad and angry protestors. Doesn't that about say it all?
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Intelligenti Pauca
Be Seeing You
04:24 PM on 07/25/2011
There seem to be some people still clinging to the notion that homosexuality is somehow wrong & abnormal. Where exactly are you getting this information from?

I'll tell you what. I'll provide a list of organizations that consider homosexuality to be normal, and you can post a list of organizations that consider homosexuality to be abnormal & we'll compare.

Here's my list of organizations that DO consider homosexuality to be normal:

American Psychiatri­c Associatio­n
American Psychologi­cal Associatio­n
American Counseling Associatio­n
National Associatio­n of Social Workers
American Academy of Pediatrics
American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry
Child Welfare League of America
American Associatio­n of School Administra­tors
American Federation of Teachers
National Associatio­n of School Psychologi­sts
American Academy of Physician Assistants
National Education Associatio­n
Royal College of Physicians
Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS)
American Associatio­n of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT)

Now, you go ahead & post your list of organizations that DON'T think homosexuality is normal.

I'll wait........
NYC619
Tri-corn hats cannot fit block heads
05:38 PM on 07/25/2011
What's sad and pathetic is the haters are gonna tell you all those organizations are either "imaginary" or "left-leaning" or both.
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Intelligenti Pauca
Be Seeing You
05:46 PM on 07/25/2011
Delusional people will always find ways to perpetuate their delusions.
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TheSarge
Firearms Inst Environmental Activist
03:55 PM on 07/25/2011
I cant even imagine the moral carnage those two little old ladies will bring to the world. I am already terrified, all sarcasm aside...congrats and long life ladies!
03:41 PM on 07/25/2011
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Diggs is a member of the National Advisory Council for the Family Research Council and has an MD in Psychology­. And his work has been repeatedly discredite­d.”
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Actually, Dr. John Diggs is an internist who's treated gay men for over 30 years. Moreover, there are no such things as "MD in psychology."

You fellows wanted to know why I call male-to-male sex morbidly unhealthy, now you know.
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TVs Scotty J
04:05 PM on 07/25/2011
I'm pretty sure psychologists can be classified as doctors...
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Intelligenti Pauca
Be Seeing You
04:15 PM on 07/25/2011
YOU may call it "morbidly unhealthy". But I have yet to see a link to a CDC page that claims, as you say, that male-on-male sex is "morbidly unhealthy".

The fact is, I searched the CDC site for the term "morbidly unhealthy", and what do you know? Absolutely ZERO.

Now, you can keep on posting your opinion if you want. But stop pretending like you have anything to substantiate your absurd claims except some catholic education website.

So. Either post a link to the CDC page, or give it a rest already.
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shepherdguy
06:12 PM on 07/25/2011
Black Avenger, you try to make it sound as though this doctor's practice has primarily been with gay men, and that is a total falsehood that you are promoting in order to make it seem as though he has some credibility. In fact, his "study" has been widely discredited, and is largely based on a book published in 1979. Where is the CDC info you're claiming?
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shepherdguy
06:14 PM on 07/25/2011
I do find on the CDC site, however, a fascinating article about how prejudice and discrimination against gay men affects their wellbeing...so in effect, the CDC says that guys like YOU, Black Avenger, are the biggest threat to gay men's health... http://www.cdc.gov/msmhealth/stigma-and-discrimination.htm
Oneandoneandone
Professional Spitfire
02:19 PM on 07/25/2011
:-)
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RBLRDR
Can I curse in this little box?
02:00 PM on 07/25/2011
Here's a CNN link to the actual exchange of vows between Phyllis Siegel, 76 and Connie Kopelov, 84. Anyone who objects to or fears same sex marriage should give this 4 minute video a look.

http://tinyurl.com/3q3tst3
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Chester Erickson
(R) moderate
02:17 PM on 07/25/2011
Awww, that was so sweet.

And people really believe that those two little old ladies are going to be the downfall of America?
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RBLRDR
Can I curse in this little box?
01:41 PM on 07/25/2011
Pics of Niagara Falls lit up in rainbow colors, this is just beautiful ....

http://tinyurl.com/44c5gb5

http://tinyurl.com/3t9u765
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cinemaven
Mom, wife, social & political activist, writer...
01:16 PM on 07/25/2011
76 & 84 years old

I totally teared up at the photo. How wonderful that these two women can proclaim their love like this. I hope they have many years together.
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Angel1999
Microbiologist & Historian
11:55 AM on 07/25/2011
From the J Abnorm Psychol. 1996 Aug;105(3):440-5.

Title: Is homophobia associated with homosexual arousal?

The authors investigated the role of homosexual arousal in exclusively heterosexual men who admitted negative affect toward homosexual individuals. Participants consisted of a group of homophobic men (n = 35) and a group of nonhomophobic men (n = 29); they were assigned to groups on the basis of their scores on the Index of Homophobia (W. W. Hudson & W. A. Ricketts, 1980). The men were exposed to sexually explicit erotic stimuli consisting of heterosexual, male homosexual, and lesbian videotapes, and changes in penile circumference were monitored. They also completed an Aggression Questionnaire (A. H. Buss & M. Perry, 1992). Both groups exhibited increases in penile circumference to the heterosexual and female homosexual videos. Only the homophobic men showed an increase in penile erection to male homosexual stimuli. The groups did not differ in aggression. Homophobia is apparently associated with homosexual arousal that the homophobic individual is either unaware of or denies.
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bmc0718
12:05 PM on 07/25/2011
Our society has taught homophobia for generations, and thus, caused homosexuals (particularly men) to be full of self hatred and loathing. Bashing other gays is one way to prove to yourself and others that you are not gay (even though you really are), and the inner conflict must be terrible.

Marriage equality in NY = one step further towards a society that is filled with tolerance, not people who find themselves full of hate and confusion.
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Chester Erickson
(R) moderate
12:16 PM on 07/25/2011
Thank you for sharing that.

You do realize that I'm never going to be able to look at a homophobe without giggling a bit (hopefully inside my head) from this point forward?
11:21 AM on 07/25/2011
Some of us are old enough to remember the euphoria surrounding the legalization of gay baths a while back.

It too was thought of as a dawning of a new age of tolerance and progressive thinking.

Then the bottom fell out.
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Angel1999
Microbiologist & Historian
11:23 AM on 07/25/2011
You're talking about two different things. The conversation is not about promiscuous sexual activity. The conversation is about monogamous relationships.
11:31 AM on 07/25/2011
The conversation is about legalizing a behavior the CDC calls "morbidly unhealthy."

Male-to-male sex is morbidly unhealthy -- with or without condoms. Nothing else explains why 10% of the population (gay males) make up 50% of current HIV/AIDS cases.

New York State legislators and Gov. Cuomo either ignored this or were blissfully unaware of it. Either way, male-to-male sex remains morbidly unhealthy -- far more so than sibling or cousin-marrying which are illegal in New York.
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bmc0718
12:03 PM on 07/25/2011
Exactly. And that some people try to make it about anything other than that is pretty telling...
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Chester Erickson
(R) moderate
11:23 AM on 07/25/2011
Why all the hate? New York said they disagree with you, and it's a done deal.
11:33 AM on 07/25/2011
It's a morbidly unhealthy deal.

It promotes the notion that male-to-male sex is safe when nothing can be further from the truth.

Children should not be taught male-to-male sex is safe when it's most emphatically not save.