New York Gay Marriage: First Gay Couples Marry At Midnight

CHRIS HAWLEY   07/24/11 11:39 PM ET   AP

NEW YORK — Hundreds of gay couples dressed in formal suits and striped trousers, gowns and T-shirts recited vows in emotion-choked voices and triumphantly hoisted their long-awaited marriage certificates on Sunday as New York became the sixth and largest state to recognize same-sex weddings.

Couples began saying "I do" at midnight from Niagara Falls to Long Island, though New York City became the sometimes raucous center of action by daybreak Sunday as couples waited on a sweltering day for the chance to exchange vows at the city clerk's office.

Thousands of protesters rallied in several cities around the state, a signal that the long fight for recognition may not be over just yet.

State Sen. Ruben Diaz, a minister who was the sole Democrat to vote against gay marriage when the Legislature approved it, told a crowd near the United Nations that he and other opponents would try to get Sunday's marriages annulled, saying judges broke the law by waiving the 24-hour waiting period without a good reason.

"We're going to show them next week that everything they did today was illegal," he said, speaking in Spanish. "Today we start the battle! Today we start the war!"

But a party atmosphere reigned in the lobby of the Manhattan clerk's office, with cheers and applause breaking out whenever a couple was handed their white-and-blue wedding certificate. Balloons floated overhead. One couple wore matching kilts; another wore sparkly crowns. Children scurried up and down the lobby; workers with bullhorns called out the numbers of each couple.

Poignant signs of pent-up emotion were common from couples who had in some cases waited for years to wed. Couples cried and voices quavered. Newlywed Douglas Robinson exclaimed, "You bet your life I do!" when asked if he would take Michael Elsasser as his spouse.

The first couple to marry in Manhattan were Phyllis Siegel, 77, and Connie Kopelov, 85, who have been together for 23 years. Kopelov arrived in a wheelchair and stood with the assistance of a walker. During the service, Siegel wrapped her hand in Kopelov's hand and they both grasped the walker.

Witnesses cheered and wiped away tears after the two women vowed to honor and cherish each other as spouses and then kissed.

"I am breathless. I almost couldn't breathe," Siegel said after the ceremony. "It's mind-boggling. The fact that it's happening to us – that we are finally legal and can do this like everyone else."

Outside afterward, Siegel raised her arms exultantly as Kopelov, in the wheelchair, held out a marriage certificate.

New York's adoption of legal same-sex marriage is viewed as a pivotal moment in the national gay rights movement and was expected to galvanize supporters and opponents alike. The state joined Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire and Vermont, along with Washington, D.C., when it voted last month to legalize gay marriage.

Protest rallies were carried out in Manhattan, Buffalo, Rochester and Albany on Sunday afternoon. Gay marriage opponents unhappy that Gov. Andrew Cuomo and lawmakers legalized same-sex marriage last month are calling for a statewide referendum on the issue.

Several hundred people crowded into the street across from Cuomo's Manhattan office to protest the new law. They waved signs saying "Excommunicate Cuomo" and chanted "Let the people vote!"

"I'm here for God's sake," said Steve Rosner, 65, of the Lower East Side. "To sanctify same-sex marriage is an abomination. It's beyond belief."

Hundreds more protested on the steps of Buffalo's City Hall and at the state Capitol in Albany. Outside the Capitol where a month before jubilant gay couples celebrated the watershed vote, about 400 people gathered in a park in a protest they said was political, but had a strong religious thread.

Tre' Staton, pastor at the Empire Christian Center in suburban Colonie and an organizer of the protest, said he lobbied lawmakers in the run-up to the New York Senate vote and was frustrated they passed a law he doesn't believe many people support, particularly in the black community.

"We're not against anybody, but we don't want this imposed on us," he said, stressing the National Organization for Marriage's theme for the rally. "We're looking for a referendum, an opportunity to have our fair say."

Clerks in New York City and about a dozen other cities statewide opened their doors Sunday to cater to same-sex couples. In New York City and other locations, judges waived a mandatory 24-hour waiting period that allowed couples to exchange vows moments after receiving their licenses.

In Manhasset on Long Island, Dina Mazzaferro and Robin Leopold of Great Neck got married in the North Hempstead town clerk's office with their 8-year-old daughter, Sasha, and Robin's mother, Barbara, watching. The elder woman wiped away tears during the brief ceremony while Sasha mouthed some of the words along with her parents.

The couple has been together 15 years.

"We've been waiting for this day," Leopold, an attorney who works in the Queens district attorney's office, said after the service. "And now we're waiting for the day it becomes legal on a federal level. It's a wonderful thing that the town has been so embracing of this."

Across the state in Buffalo, the first in line were Daniel Rodgers, 54, and Scott Klaurens, 40, who were married in shorts, T-shirts and sneakers. They had gone expecting only to get a license and planned to wed Tuesday, but were told they could go ahead Sunday because of their marriage six years ago in Toronto.

"This is just a flower opening up for us and everyone else, a flower of equality," Rodgers said.

At Buffalo City Hall, City Clerk Gerald Chwalinski zipped a black robe over his shorts and golf shirt and spent three hours marrying couples in the ornate City Council chambers. His office issued 20 licenses and performed 8 ceremonies in the three hours it was open for the occasion Sunday.

In Syracuse, officials issued licenses to 25 same-sex couples and eight of them were granted waivers. Of the 15 same-sex couples granted licenses in Binghamton, one was from neighboring Pennsylvania and three were from New York City; five of those couples were getting married Sunday.

Initially, New York City officials had projected that about 2,500 couples might show up at the city clerk's offices hoping to get married on Sunday, but by the time a 48-hour lottery had drawn to a close on Thursday, 823 couples had signed up – 59 more than the city had planned to accommodate. The city said it would perform ceremonies for all of them.

At the end of the day Sunday, the mayor's office said 484 couples had gotten married at city offices while another 175 picked up their licenses in order to marry elsewhere. Most were from the city, but some came from as far as Hawaii and Alabama, officials said.

The festive atmosphere included couples who posed for pictures in front of a photo backdrop of City Hall and bought T-shirts saying "I got married in New York City" from the clerk's office gift shop. In Brooklyn, an elegant reception was held in Borough Hall with champagne and a lineup of cakes – one with a two-men cake topper, another with two women and a third with a heterosexual couple.

There were some glitches, though. In Brooklyn, Eufemio Torres and John Torres were told incorrectly by a city employee that they could not wed Sunday because Eufemio had only a Mexican passport.

"Our hearts sank. But I'm a fighter, and we were not going home," said John Torres, a legal secretary.

Soon after speaking with the Brooklyn borough president's chief of staff, the pair stood before a judge in the hall's elaborately wood-carved main chamber. Eufemio Torres cradled a bouquet of white lilies and orchids, and the men took their wedding vows.

At Manhattan's Gracie Mansion, Mayor Michael Bloomberg presided over the wedding of two high-level city officials. Department of Consumer Affairs Commissioner Jonathan Mintz and policy adviser John Feinblatt had been together for 14 years. They were joined by their daughters, ages six and eight, who wore white dresses and held bouquets.

"We're full of love the way other families are," Mintz said.

The day began with some couples exchanging vows right after midnight. In Niagara Falls, gay rights activists Kitty Lambert and Cheryle Rudd were legally married the very first moment they could be during a midnight ceremony.

With the rainbow-lit falls as a backdrop, Lambert, 54, and Rudd, 53, were among the first gay couples to tie the knot with the blessing of the state. Lambert and Rudd, who have 12 grandchildren between them, have been together for more than a decade and had long been fighting for the right to marry.

The couple, both from Buffalo, smiled broadly as they exchanged traditional marriage vows, promising to love and cherish each other in sickness and in health. A crowd of several hundred people cheered as they were pronounced married and shared their first kiss.

"What an incredible night this was," said Lambert, who wore an electric blue satin gown with a sequined train for the ceremony and carried a bouquet of blue hydrangeas. "Everything was absolutely perfect."

In Albany, Mayor Jerry Jennings performed marriages at 12:01 a.m. Sunday in the Common Council's chambers.

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Contributing to this report were Associated Press writers Frank Eltman in Manhasset, Carolyn Thompson in Buffalo and Verena Dobnik and Samantha Gross in New York City.

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Pax333
12:24 AM on 07/27/2011
I wish each and every newlywed all the happiness and joy the world has to offer. It's long past time and though I don't know a single one of you I couldn't be happier if you were a family member or a dear friend. Oh, dear, never wept at a wedding before.
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mercury613
In the blue TV screen light
04:03 PM on 07/26/2011
""We're not against anybody, but we don't want this imposed on us," he said"

The State of New York is forcing him to marry a man?
11:44 AM on 07/26/2011
Please you gay people go anywhere in the world for your honeymoon but please stay away from Jamaica, gay people are not welcome there may god bless u people
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ChaCubed
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12:56 PM on 07/26/2011
Yes, we all know how much some Jamaicans hate homosexuals. Terrible.

I doubt that you have to worry about too many homosexuals spending their millions in tourist dollars there.
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Dancenownzen
12:30 AM on 07/26/2011
BIBLE BIBLE BIBLE - we are NOT talking about the Bible we are talking about United Statesd LAW
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Shawn1978
type Conspiracy behind the subject for the truth
06:52 PM on 07/25/2011
It a wounder how you can come in here and point out certain dangers in dadt and all of a sudden everyone is a military professional lmao ,dont get me wrong i hape dadt works , but after it was presented there are going to be problems
08:47 AM on 07/26/2011
Wrong thread. This is about same-sex marriage in NY. The DADT thread is two doors down on the left.
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Shawn1978
type Conspiracy behind the subject for the truth
06:48 PM on 07/26/2011
rolling my eyes
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r henry
I live between concrete walls
04:00 PM on 07/25/2011
"We're not against anybody, but we don't want this imposed on us," he said, stressing the National Organization for Marriage's theme for the rally. "We're looking for a referendum, an opportunity to have our fair say."

I'm glad I'm not the kind of person who sees other people living their lives and somehow has to make it about myself. I read this comment and I see, "we don't want them doing things we don't like so we want to impose our beliefs onto them", which is the opposite of what he thinks he's saying.

No one is forcing anyone into a gay marriage.
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StevenWells
Objects in the avatar are larger than they appear
04:19 PM on 07/25/2011
Rule #1 in the Politics Of Victimization: accuse the opposition of the very things you're doing.

In fact, this works in any number of political scenarios. Which, of course, is why the savvy observer should always examine those making a charge, at least as closely as those against whom it is made.
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r henry
I live between concrete walls
05:05 PM on 07/25/2011
Very good points.
05:09 PM on 07/25/2011
Not that anyone cares what I think, but all of you out there do what you think you want to do and I(woman) will stay married to my(man) and be thankful I did not have to go through what all of you and I think just about everyone on here commenting had to go through. Good luck. Hope it all turns out the way all of you want it to.
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StevenWells
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05:42 PM on 07/25/2011
Well, I'm glad to hear it, am glad you said it, and will fan and fave you for having done so (and for your good wishes).

My best to you and your man.
IWantTofu
Evolution. Now a political position.
12:09 PM on 07/25/2011
We now have 6 states that allow gay marriage. Rather than talking about theoreticals, the people against gay marriage can now bring up heterosecual marriages that were hurt by gay marriages, and how they were hurt. Or can they?
12:15 AM on 07/26/2011
Connecticut has had same sex marriage since 2008. It has yet to be struck down by God's wrath. Unless you count the continual infliction of Joe Lieberman on the national polity a sign of God's wrath, that is. I think I turn into a pillar of salt on the inside whenever I have to look at his droopy mug on TV.
01:55 AM on 07/29/2011
I was at the rally in Albany as a counter protestor. We asked one of the people on NOM's side how gay marriage affected her. She specifically said it doesn't. And sorry, but if that's the pastor I think it is, there's no way he's not a closeted gay. ONE of them was, for sure. Got mighty ticked off when I brought up Loving v. VA and the 14th Amendment.

And there's no bloody way there were 400 people there. Counting our side (only about a dozen, but boy were we heard), there were 250, MAYBE 300.
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tjconkster
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11:56 AM on 07/25/2011
These are the same people who would throw their beloved Jesus under the bus....yes Jesus, the man who said "love your brother as you love yourself"...he advocated for the gays, the prostitutes, the down and out..he preached that we should be our brother's keeper and that we should take care of the least amongst us...yeah..the Tea-vangelicals would crucify him all over again...
01:33 PM on 07/25/2011
Also, Tjconkster, doesn't it also say we are created in Gods image?????????
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tjconkster
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02:13 PM on 07/25/2011
So true...and that's one teaching in the Bible that they choose to cherry pick out....
11:48 AM on 07/25/2011
all i can say is read CORINTHIANS 6:9
12:12 PM on 07/25/2011
and if that's all you can say, you've already lost.
Instead of books of fairytales, how about people read the Constitution?
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TXanimal
Somewhere between Occam's Razor & Murphy's Law
02:11 PM on 07/25/2011
Which Constitutional amendment requires me to be a Christian?
07:49 PM on 07/25/2011
What Constitutional amendment requires anyone to be gay or accept homosexuality?
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Your BELIEFS do not trump my RIGHTS...
11:14 AM on 07/25/2011
MEMO TO THE HATERS: It has now been over 24 hours since the first Gay marriages took place in New York. The state has not spontaniously combusted into a fireball inferno, I haven't seen any plauges of locusts on my lawn, The earth seems to still be on the same axis is was prior to those "I do's" so pretty much those loving couples exchanging vows have had zero effect on anyone but each other..........................

Why in God's name (can you belive it I said "God"??) can't you mind you own freaking business? On a matter that matters absolutley nothing to you??????
01:12 PM on 07/25/2011
awesome.....Amen
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01:36 PM on 07/25/2011
tyvm!
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tjconkster
Occupy the Voting Booth 2012!
02:16 PM on 07/25/2011
No..but I'm sure that Pat Robertson and the Tea-vangelicals will link our economic woes to the sins of Gov't...you know providing the same rights to members of the LGBT community...we're all going to perish in the lake of fire.....

Tea-vangelicals...only like those parts of the U.S. Constitution that fit their world view...
09:38 AM on 07/25/2011
To all of the gays/lesbians who were in a hetero marriage in the past, I have an honest question. Why did you choose to enter into a hetero marriage and involve another innocent person if you were born gay? Did you not consider the consequences of hurting the other person? Why not just stay single if you weren't ready to let others know?
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TXanimal
Somewhere between Occam's Razor & Murphy's Law
10:37 AM on 07/25/2011
Family & social pressure played a big part in that. Especially to those in more conservative areas where it was unacceptable to be gay. Many were convinced that they were just "confused" and could "turn straight" if they got involved in an opposite-sex marriage. Also, in an attempt to "try" to be straight, many people ended up with children, and married for that reason. In many cases, it seemed better to lie than risk alienation from family, community and friends.
07:28 PM on 07/25/2011
Doesn't answer the question.

Why did you marry a member of the OS, knowing that you were gay?
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StevenWells
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10:57 AM on 07/25/2011
I hope you won't mind a reply from someone who isn't in that category, but knows of many who are.

The primary reasons can largely come under the heading of "denial." Most of us, aware at some level from a young age of the feelings we have, hear from society that we've chosen them, can change them, that once we've discovered the rewards of heterosexual activity we can turn away from them, and so forth, and many, desperate to fit into what society considers "the norm," believe it. Some simply refuse to acknowledge these feelings and try to ignore them, and make what they're told is "a normal life."

Most marry convinced they can make it work, and that "other feelings" can be suppressed or, perhaps, "outgrown." Some remain in them their entire lives, with varying degrees of success, although I'd guess most who do don't find a level of fulfillment many would call satisfactory. Some, like my partner's father, found the strain too great and the alternative of coming out unthinkable, and end their lives. Hopefully, that doesn't happen as much now as it did in that instance (back in the mid-60's).

It often takes many years to accept that some feelings are unchangeable and undeniable, by which time, unintentional, but hurtful, mistakes have been made. The point is, most don't enter into a heterosexual marriage fully cognizant and accepting of their nature and with disregard of others, as your questions suggest.
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kingjohn1956
08:02 AM on 07/25/2011
America land of the free,home of the brave,Equal rights for everyone.There are great problems in this country that need to be addressed.Keeping two people who love each other from getting married is not one of those problems.CONGRAULATIONS TO ALL WHO HAVE TAKEN AN WILL TAKE THE PLUNGE.
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Bunmi Zalob
06:16 AM on 07/25/2011
Thanks!
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ChaCubed
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01:35 AM on 07/25/2011
PLEASE HP techs, please restore the previous system of clicking on a comment and being brought TO THE THE COMMENT, not to the page the comment is on. I spend hours .. hours, literally, ... trying to return to a post of mine to edit, or to a response to one of my comments to which I want to respond, ESPECIALLY when the comment is hidden in a "click her to view more comments" section. It's exhausting; and there are many comments to which I wanted to respond which I don't because I just give up out of frustration.

Anyone who is experiencing the same difficulties: please favorite this and/or add your voice. Thanks.
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StevenWells
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01:09 PM on 07/25/2011
Faved, fanned, seconded, affirmed, agreed, encouraged and whatever other operative terms one can think of.
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ChaCubed
Republicans: the Antichrist
01:48 PM on 07/25/2011
:-))

This morning, as has happened in other threads, the link from the "comments activity" doesn't work, it says "loading" but it never finishes. To respond to comments, I either have to find them in the thread, as I did with yours, or I have to go to the "social page" of the poster, and find the comment in their comment sectionto respond from it.

Also, HP REALLY should have a thread for comments and questions. I stick mine into threads, hoping someone will see them, but the alternative of sending a private message and hoping for a response hasn't been satisfying, AND the idea that all of us have to e-mail the same messages is ridiculous.

AND, while I'm at it, the FAQ's section is THE least helpful FAQ section I've ever seen!!!

Hey, HP-AOL, if you want to hire someone to moderate the questions and complaints thread; get the answers and post them; and then incorporate the questions and answers into the FAQ section, e-mail me. ;-)
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Cory111
Life is good...
06:09 PM on 07/25/2011
Hola once again. I've had the same problem the past few days. I hit send and it just sits there grinding away.

My thing is the Ad that pops up unsolicited. It sits there downloading and I’ve given my mouse a hernia hitting the “X” and I must completely leave the page to get rid of it…

But considering the price I pay to have some fun out here it’s OK.

Adios,

Cory
12:54 AM on 07/25/2011
Y'know I think that if God did exist and he's merciful like the people who believe say he is then I think he would be more displeased with the people who spread hate and harm other people in his name than two people of the same sex being in love and commiting to each other, raising a loving family and living a happy life. Just a thought......
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11:16 AM on 07/25/2011
I always envision hatefilled venom like Ruben Diaz approaching St. Peter at the pearly gates and being hit with the question "why would God want such a horrible, hatefilled being like you in heaven"?
02:00 AM on 07/29/2011
And would be unable to comprehend any answer as the man is incomprehensible when he speaks.
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Cory111
Life is good...
06:11 PM on 07/25/2011
Please you Bible thumpers, I'm joking!!!

My take is if there is a God and he looked down on his "Earth Project" today we might hear, "I need a better set of plans."