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9/11 Bullying: Muslim Teens Push Back

Muslim Teen Bullying

First Posted: 09/ 8/2011 2:05 pm Updated: 11/ 7/2011 5:12 am

By Omar Sacirbey
Religion News Service

(RNS) At first, Sarah O'Neal thought the older boy's comment was directed at the towel she was carrying to water polo practice.

"What are you looking at towel-head?" he said.

And that's when it sunk in.

A freshman at Wilcox High School in Santa Clara, Calif., at the time, O'Neal, now 16, marched over and demanded the boy feel her Islamic headscarf. "Does that feel like a towel to you?" O'Neal snapped.

The boy never bothered her again.

Bullying is a nationwide problem, but many school officials and youth workers say it has become especially severe for Muslim students in the 10 years since the 9/11 terrorist attacks. As the new school year coincides with the 9/11 anniversary, some observers worry the problem could worsen.

According to a 2010 survey of Muslim youths aged 11 to 18 conducted by the Washington-based advocacy group Muslim Mothers Against Violence, all 57 respondents reported being called a name because of their faith, including 80 percent who said they had been called "terrorist."

While there are no firm statistics on how many or how often Muslim students are bullied, activists assert it is higher than other students because of post-9/11 Islamophobia. Responding to bullying can be especially complicated because of immigrant parents who may be intimidated by bureaucracies, or because adults charged with protecting students might be part of the problem.

As an eighth-grade student at Beckendorf Junior High School in Katy, Texas -- the same town where residents infamously held pig races to protest a proposed mosque in 2006 -- Abdul Hamed initially accepted a classmate's explanation that jibes like "terrorist" and "you're family blows things up," were just jokes.

But the teasing continued almost daily, and soon escalated into shoving.

Abdul alerted his teachers, who separated the boys in class, but the bullying would continue in the hallways. In early February 2009, on the school's track field, Abdul shoved back.

According to Abdul, the boy left but returned several minutes later and sucker punched him, knocking him out and breaking his jaw. That was how Abdul's Palestinian immigrant parents first learned about the bullying.

Abdul said school officials made the boy go to anger management counseling. "For what I went through, that punishment wasn't even close," said Abdul, whose jaw was wired shut and missed several weeks of school.

Abdul, now a 15-year-old sophomore at Seven Lakes High School where his attacker also goes, said he's moved on.

While ethnic, racial and religious bullying is not new, observers say Muslim American students face the added challenge of having to defend themselves against television images of American soldiers fighting terrorists in Muslim lands.

"Muslim kids are bullied for geopolitical reasons," said Pia Britto, a professor at the Child Study Center at Yale Medical School. "They're being bullied because this larger media portrays people of their religion in a negative way, and these young kids have to stand up against this portrayal, which is a different dimension of bullying."

Britto said kids use the "terrorist" slur "all the time," which can be harder to respond to than other taunts. "If you react you're
fulfilling the taunt," she said, "and if you don't react you get angry and resentful that your hands are tied."

Despite the increased attention on bullying since a spate of teen suicides highlighted the problem a year ago, news reports and academic studies document dozens of examples in which school officials have dismissed Muslim bullying complaints. In some instances, teachers themselves are the bullies.

Among other examples, a substitute teacher at a school in Hillsborough County, Fla., was disciplined in 2007 for harassing a
sixth-grader because his name was Islam. In 2006, a substitute teacher in Gaithersburg, Md., had to be escorted from a school after berating a group of students for speaking Arabic.

"A lot of times the teacher has the same viewpoints and takes the bully's side, and somehow views that the Muslim kid is responsible for violence that has been committed against the United States," said Maha ElGenaidi, executive director of the Islamic Networks Group in San Jose, Calif., which develops anti-bullying curriculum programs.

For her part, Sarah O'Neal said reporting the "towel-head" comment to school administrators probably wouldn't have done much good. After she started wearing the hijab in sixth grade, someone spray-painted "Sarah O'Neal is a terrorist" inside a school bathroom. She told the assistant principal, who later also met with Sarah's mother, but the school never documented or investigated the incident. Sarah said she still doesn't know who did it.

Muslim youth workers say many parents don't know their children are being harassed. Groups that try to combat stereotypes or misconceptions about Muslims in school say they also have to teach Muslim kids how to respond.

"A lot of it is self-esteem," said ElGenaidi. "If they're not confident of what they're about or what they're parents are about, it's
very difficult for them to defend against the difficult questions that they get asked."

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10:43 AM on 09/14/2011
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RockyMissouri
'You must be carefully taught to hate'...
01:25 PM on 09/12/2011
It is the DUTY of a teacher AT THE FIRST SIGN OF BULLYING, TO NIP IT IN THE BUD...period! By going unchallenged and unchecked, these little things become MONSTROUS, and potentially, worse for all of us..
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LMPE
I connect the most dissimilar things
08:42 PM on 09/11/2011
According to all the bigots out there, anyone who isn't a white, heterosexual Christian deserves to get bullied.
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Brittany Lock
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11:56 PM on 09/11/2011
And white, heterosexual Christians claim they're the ones being oppressed and discriminated against.
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RockyMissouri
'You must be carefully taught to hate'...
01:31 PM on 09/12/2011
The Christians can't be discriminated against....it is THEY who do the majority of the discriminating...claiming superiority to all...and such.. Ask any fundamentalist Christian...
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Zacky Ahmed
Astro-physics, Science, Politics
04:34 PM on 09/11/2011
I remember after 9/11, I was 10 years old by the way.
There was some form of bullying, however I dont believe that i received a lot of hate
probably because i was biracial, and didnt look arabic, i felt sorry though
for those who got bullied after 9/11 and no doubt it still goes on till this day,
I hope they remain strong and push back, thats how you confront a bully.
it all stems from ignorance.

Looking back now 21 years old atheist, science grad. the bullying I got only showed me
how ugly ignorance looks, the same with 9/11. so as i remain an open minded skeptic
I hope that we all can stay open minded and not prejudge it goes both way oh
and Knowledge is power.
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cyanmanta
Thinking outside the box is for smart people...
02:54 PM on 09/10/2011
Once again, one group of Americans claiming they have the monopoly (or lion's share) on suffering is trying to get special attention and special consideration in the public arena. And you know it's not motivated by ordinary citizens, but by special interests. Seriously, when will self-respecting American Muslims stop letting these self-important lobbying groups like CAIR speak for them and act against their interests as citizens? EVERYONE gets bullied in school, and it's just as morally unacceptable when the victim is singled out for being short or fat or gay or handicapped, as it is when they are singled out for their religion or race. The only long-term solution to the "bullying epidemic" is to quit letting these bureaucratic hucksters be your surrogate voice and stand up for yourself as an individual.
05:15 AM on 09/11/2011
I disagree with your assessment to a degree. Bullying against Muslims extends beyond elementary schools. Grassroots organizations, such as CAIR, give a voice to the voiceless. The difference between being fat, gay and Muslim is that Muslims are not accepted by the majority of society. There is no sense of compassion for when Muslims get denied jobs, loans or entrance to colleges and universities. There is a double standard in the U.S. When was the last time a gay person was kicked off of an airplane? If a gay person was kicked off of a plane for being gay, it would be all over the news. However, when a Muslim is kicked off of a plane, everyone immediately believes the person was up to no good or that the airlines was justified in removing them from the airplane.
05:19 PM on 09/11/2011
But you see, Muslims don't get kicked off of planes. And CAIR is a Saudi funded Hamas supporting organization. "Grass roots" my foot.

You really need to come up w/a factual example if you want to appear credible.
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see-ellen2001
11:22 PM on 09/11/2011
Very true. And when the teacher joins in, becomes hard for a kid to voice their concern.
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RockyMissouri
'You must be carefully taught to hate'...
01:34 PM on 09/12/2011
Shame on you! CAIR helps people and communities..
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MarcEdward
likes all cats more than most people
09:14 PM on 09/09/2011
If the school system wants to they can take care of bullying. Our school system is very much on top of it. The suicides of bullied gay kids (and the threat of lawsuits for doing nothing) probably prompted the attention. It's up to parents to have a trusting relationship with their kids, so their children can feel comfortable reporting being bullied. They feel ashamed, it's hard for them to open up about it. Once they know, they can contact teachers/principals and bring the hammer down.
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Whistlejackett
Hey stop doing that
07:04 PM on 09/09/2011
Most Americans are going to have to re-educate themselves, in that the internet will make their false assumptions to be viewed by many nations and their peoples. Any failure to acquire a renewed sense of "other" will leave them exposed to a constant negative response from many cultures and a sense of being "Blogged" to death. The retraining of America is imperative for many reasons.
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UnicornsOccur
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04:18 PM on 09/09/2011
Individuals should be judged on their actions and ideology. Being bullied as a child has negative consequences that can stay with the victim for the rest of their lives. There just isn't any morally justifiable argument for bullying of any sort.
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07:14 PM on 09/08/2011
All this talk about Muslims being bullied, what about Muslims who DO the bullying? Bullying women into wearing a hijab, chodor, or burka? Bullying Americans into searches at airports, customs booths, and synagogues? Bullying all the families of the 9/11 victims? Bullying the world with rediculous oil prices? Bullying their own people with sharia law and inner strife between Shiites, Kurds, and Sunis? If one wants to be accepted, one also has to accept.
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Mr Anonymous
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11:21 PM on 09/08/2011
So then muslim women should be bullied by everyone then?
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UnicornsOccur
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03:01 PM on 09/09/2011
neither should happen
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The Knocker
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01:27 AM on 09/09/2011
You are a prime example why our public school needs improvement.
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ChiBloger
And the truth shall set us ALL free
03:19 PM on 09/08/2011
There is some teasing or bullying that unfortunately is just a right of passage. But most of the stuff in this article is a huge problem when adults and administrators do not get involved and set expectations. In these cases, the failure of these people to get evolved only exacerbates the problem.
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season555
Allaah knows best
03:09 PM on 09/08/2011
I would say to these kids, American Muslims are better educated, and earn more money than their non-Muslim fellow citizens.

There is greater chance most of these bullies will be high school drop outs or pig farmers or will be parking your cars in 15 to 20 years.

SO STAY IN SCHOOL.
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02:00 PM on 09/08/2011
Islam was made up from fragments of jewish and christian doctrine by Muhammad in a time of need for the Arab people. It succeeded to a dramatic extent in improving the life of Arabs. It was so successful that it went viral. A viral islam is self replicating. The artificial intelligence folks can take lessons from islam.
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Yasser Yousufi
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06:35 AM on 09/09/2011
Whatever stories you concoct, Islam IS the newest and fastest growing religion on the planet. Prophet Muhammad is from the bloodline of Prophet Abraham. All these prophets from Noah, Enoch to Abraham, Josepr, Lut, Elijah, Moses, Dawid, Soloman, Aaron etc their message was the same. No need to be surprised if Prophet Muhammad brought the same message to the misguided people that God had sent through his forefathers.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prophets_of_Islam
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Zacky Ahmed
Astro-physics, Science, Politics
04:48 PM on 09/11/2011
What scientific study have shown that it is the fastest growing religion ?.
and if it is the fastest growing religion, then that would be scary
nothing as toxic as religion combined with ignorance.
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alkh3myst
Of course you can pay me in gum!
08:34 AM on 09/28/2011
Who are you to say Divine revelation didn't come to ANYBODY? You speak for God?