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Kendra Wilkinson On 'Being Kendra,' Postpartum Depression And 'Dancing With The Stars'

First Posted: 09/20/2011 1:28 pm   Updated: 11/20/2011 5:12 am

We’ve watched Kendra Wilkinson go from Hugh Hefner’s girlfriend to Hank Baskett’s wife, and now she’s a mom to 21-month-old Hank Baskett Jr. It’s been a wild ride -- most of which has played out on E! reality shows “The Girls Next Door” and “Kendra.”

Now, the 26-year-old is spilling even more details of her personal life, including her struggles with postpartum depression and raising a child, in her second book, Being Kendra: Cribs, Cocktails and Getting My Sexy Back.

“In the first book [New York Times bestseller Sliding Into Home] I really had to dig deep, and relive my childhood and my teenage years. I really had to go back in time and go back to my drug years and how I got to the [Playboy] mansion,” Wilkinson told HuffPost Celebrity. “There are a lot of things that I wrote in Being Kendra that link back. After giving birth to my son, I had struggled with depression and there were a lot of the same feelings I had when I was a teenager.”

Wilkinson said her inexperience with infants probably contributed to her depression.

“I’d never taken care of a baby, I’d never even held a baby or changed a diaper until my son, baby Hank,” she said. “I never even knew one rule or one thing to do. I really went on instincts.”

Wilkinson hopes that the candid confessions in her book will help other young moms who are going through something similar.

“I think it’s important to talk about because nobody really talked about it -- I didn’t know I was going to get that depressed. I would always hear about postpartum but I never really believed it was true,” she said. “There were times I couldn’t handle what I was going through. I snapped a couple times, I screamed -- but I never put my baby in danger. Whenever he would take a nap, I would take it all out and cry.”

“You can’t really control what you feel inside after you have a baby,” she added.

Right now, Wilkinson and Baskett are having fun watching their little man grow up, and haven’t ruled out expanding their family in the future.

“Once we find out what’s happening with Hank and his career, we’ll definitely plan for baby number two,” she said. “We want to make sure we’re certain and we have a plan and we’re a little more set-up this time. Last time, we were bouncing all over the United States... and that wasn’t a good thing for anybody.”

Although it’s hard for this busy couple to find private time, Wilkinson opened up about how she and Baskett like to relax.

“We have our bed, we have our TV, and we have our massage table,” Wilkinson said. “Hank and I give each other massages almost every night. It’s really important to us.”

In Being Kendra, Wilkinson also writes about how she and Hank keep their romance alive.

"As parents, now we have to try to fit in sex whenever we can,” she writes. “In a nutshell, that's my new sex life as a mom … But I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world."

Between caring for baby Hank and promoting her new book, it’s hard to believe Wilkinson has much down time these days, but you better believe she’ll be tuning in to “Dancing With The Stars” this season. However, the Season 12 contestant only has her eyes on one contestant: Nancy Grace.

“I’ve been a huge fan of Nancy Grace forever. That’s all I do, is watch Nancy Grace," she said. "I just love what she does. She does so much for this world and I really want her to win."

Wilkinson also had some words of wisdom for this season’s contestants, including David Arquette, Kristin Cavallari and Chaz Bono.

“It’s hard work. Just stick it out and try to have much fun as you can with it,” she said. “You have to make it your experience. You can’t let the drama take over.”

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We’ve watched Kendra Wilkinson go from Hugh Hefner’s girlfriend to Hank Baskett’s wife, and now she’s a mom to 21-month-old Hank Baskett Jr. It’s been a wild ride -- most of which has played...
We’ve watched Kendra Wilkinson go from Hugh Hefner’s girlfriend to Hank Baskett’s wife, and now she’s a mom to 21-month-old Hank Baskett Jr. It’s been a wild ride -- most of which has played...
 
 
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05:03 PM on 09/25/2011
For the life of me, I do not know why this woman is famous. And who cares?
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stepper
Lord of the Realm
12:26 PM on 09/23/2011
My goodness, she had yet another surgery: Hand permanently affixed to hip.
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john blahuta
i believe it when i see it
03:19 AM on 09/21/2011
at least nancy grace has a girlfriend now...
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john blahuta
i believe it when i see it
03:12 AM on 09/21/2011
another 2 silicon valleys are fans of nancy grace. will wonders never stop?
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frenchchampagne
02:19 AM on 09/21/2011
I think Kendra is as real as LA traffic. She has absolutely NO FACADE! She speaks her mind and doesn't sugar coat anything to accommodate the expectations of lame-brained readers or critics who savagely tear her apart with painful words aimed at drawing blood. Her incredible strength and determination to transcend the negative comments of fools is impressive. I don't know what her education is but her "Tell it like it is" honesty is very refreshing. I've met lots of educated idiots, but I am far more impressed with people who strip away social pretense and bare their souls to help others. Fans who are experiencing the new challenges of motherhood and "Postpartum Depression" will appreciate Kendra's insight to the struggle of this very real and debilitating form of clinical depression which can affect women, and less frequently men, after childbirth. For those who are uninformed and ignorant about this condition, educate yourself with info on the Web regarding this hormonal nightmare which can occur after childbirth or as late as a year after childbirth. It can be a very severe problem. If men gave birth and had to deal with this horrible condition, they would be on birth control for their entire lives!
02:58 AM on 09/21/2011
frenchchampagne: while I have to agree with most of what you've written, I feel I have to point out that her lack of caring for a baby could have been easily rectified by purchasing a book or two about how to care for a new baby! There are tons of them in bookstores. I bet her Obsetrician could have recommended at least one.
Whenever I have seen her on TV, she plays to the camera, but maybe that's what she gets paid to do.....when she is photoed in public, she is very aware of where the camaeras are.. easily spotted by looking at her eyes - they are looking for cameras!
She is quite pretty, but I was raised on the following phrase: Pretty is as Pretty Does!
Very familiar with post-partum depression. Now that she is receiving help for her illness, maybe she can be more pretty from the inside!
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03:50 PM on 09/21/2011
FrenchChampagne, wow you said it just like it is. Just like Kendra would have! lol. I'm old enough to be Kendra's mother (at 47, I also have a 25yo stepson whom lives with us). I think Kendra is one of the most refreshingly honest, curious and politely blunt. lol. I guess that's a good way of saying Kendra pretty much says what is on her mind.

I started watching "The Girl's Next Door" from season 1, up until season 5 where they all went their separate ways and Kendra soon started her self-proclaimed and named reality show with her then bf then fiance and eventually Hank Baskett became Kendra's husband and father of their beautiful child!

So I've seen this immature 20yo bleached blonde and very athletic chick, blossom into a beautiful and giving woman, who at 25, knows where she came from, but will always aspire to keep building a future with her little family. It's unfortunate that Kendra had to withstand post partum depression. However, she got through it, and you can tell.. She's talking, acting and looking better! Good for her, for coming so far!! Boo to anyone who wants to hate on her....
02:14 AM on 09/21/2011
sport guys always destroy good looking people maybe she should have not wed one
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riverdaughte3
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02:08 AM on 09/21/2011
This woman is over exposed in the celebrity news media. It is getting old and the reaction is becoming "who cares".
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pattyrenee
01:52 AM on 09/21/2011
Kendra just needs to age some and she'll be OK.
01:22 AM on 09/21/2011
I Like Kendra !! She might be Crazy ( in a fun Way) .. But I think she is pretty down to earth and at least she admits her faults and her mistakes she made when she was younger. Also I love the fact that she is a good mom and she admits she learned by instinct. NOBODY is a perfect parent. Just because she got her big break because of Hef and playboy doesn't make her bad.. This girl makes me Laugh and she has a real cute baby and her husband seems to geniune as well... She was also pretty good on Dancing with the stars, She made me laugh, they showed when she was practicing she farted and she waved her but laughed at went on. LOL
01:46 AM on 09/21/2011
you have a great outlook, Terri. Everybody has their faults---hers just happen to be out there for us to see, so it invites criticism for all kinds of people with all kinds of reasons. A woman who can fart and laugh about it, is---welll-a okay in my estimation. I have accidentally let one go in public, and have been quite mortified: eyes cast down, somber look---the whole bit.
04:56 PM on 09/21/2011
Hi Ian Thank you !!! You are Cool !! I admit it I have done it alot of times . and I am a woman LOL and what can you do Laugh even though you a mortified... Its not like no 1 else doesn't fart in the world.. My dog a jack-russel girl Oh my she needs doggie gas-X . sometimes. She always does by me when i am sitting on couch with her.. LOL Oh believe me I rather have at least 3 people near me if I toot. so I can blame them lol but if there is only me and someonelse Well I guess I will have to admit and say excuse me, Laugh and go on with my day. Have a Nice Day Ian
12:07 AM on 09/21/2011
I don't know which one of them will earn a college degree or an Oscar next year, she or Snookie?
mamahappy
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12:07 AM on 09/21/2011
Postpartum Depression is a serious matter. I had it with 2 of my 3 babies. I'm glad I never have to go through that again. It's nice that she's willing to publicly acknowledge that her life was not 100% perfect. She's human like the rest (most) of us.
12:05 AM on 09/21/2011
I just watched her show........................now I'm depressed.
10:59 PM on 09/20/2011
What a world, Kim Kardashian became famous for a "leaked" sex tape and this girl, because she was a girlfriend of Hugh Hefner.
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10:51 PM on 09/20/2011
She is totally crazy...Even her black husband claims she is a little weird.. She should have never left Hef !!!
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sparkygirl91
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10:58 PM on 09/20/2011
Just wondering what the color of her husband's skin has to do with anything?
11:59 PM on 09/20/2011
I was wondering the same thing.
01:25 AM on 09/21/2011
It has to do with the length of his....
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meanlady21
12:51 AM on 09/21/2011
what does her husband ethnicity have to do with all the tea in china? And Hef is an old old old man. What was she suppose to have kids by this old goat?
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Steve Sedlis
That's some bad hat, Harry!
01:12 AM on 09/21/2011
Like many others before and since, she used her Playboy experience as a springboard into a TV career. Unfortunately, the E! Network allows such drivel on the airwaves. Something to consider when their license renewal hearing comes up in the future.
01:12 AM on 09/21/2011
LOL Lady you told them You made me laugh!!!!
10:46 PM on 09/20/2011
There sure are a lot of haters on here! Why so many mean comments? And ppl are calling her dumb? I want to be as dumb as her then, shes got $ in the bank!
11:14 PM on 09/20/2011
Well you would have to be both HOT and dumb. Not saying she's hot anymore. Used to be though.
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Steve Sedlis
That's some bad hat, Harry!
01:13 AM on 09/21/2011
Money does not make you smart, or an expert, or an authority, or even admirable. Unless you worship monetary wealth.
01:19 AM on 09/21/2011
But it does make you rich. You can have all the other things. I'll take rich over them any day!