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Rene Almeling's 'Sex Cells' Explores Marketing Of Reproductive Donation

Sex Cells The Medical Market For Eggs And Sperm

First Posted: 09/20/11 02:58 PM ET Updated: 11/20/11 05:12 AM ET

What really goes on behind the closed doors of sperm banks and other institutions that broker the exchange of reproductive materials for money?

That's a difficult question to answer. A few weeks ago The New York Times reported that a single sperm donor was responsible for 150 children. How did that happen? What regulations, if any, exist for what has become a $3 billion industry?

To find out more about this industry and how it affects the lives of those who donate, Yale sociology professor Rene Almeling spent four years interviewing staff members at egg agencies and sperm banks in different parts of the country and talking with donors about their experiences. The result is new book called Sex Cells: The Medical Market for Eggs and Sperm.

Almeling learned that when it comes to donating genetic material, men and women are groomed very differently, and the way the process is marketed impacts everything from how individuals talk about their donation to their perceived relationship to the resulting offspring.

One of the biggest takeaways from your research was that sperm banks and egg agencies present sex cell donation to potential donors in very different ways. What was so different?

Both sperm banks and egg agencies call this a donation, even though the women are being paid and the men are being paid. The difference is that the egg agencies are framing the egg as a gift from one woman to another, and so they look for altruistic women who want to help infertile couple have families. They frame sperm donation as an easy job for men. There are a lot of jokes and cartoon drawings of sperm in advertisements that say "make some cash," but they're not talking about recipients; they're not talking about families.

Did you discover a difference in how men and women feel about donating after they’ve done it? If so, how does the marketing play into that?

One big thing is that the egg agencies encourage recipients to send thank you notes and thank you gifts to the donors. And the result of that is women talk with a lot of pride about being egg donors, and having given this gift. They feel good about their donations and about the creation of a family. That was true of women who were older and younger, women who had kids and didn’t have kids.

With the men, no one is sending their sperm donor thank you notes or giving them gifts. The men used sort of alienated or objectified language. They described themselves as being resources and assets for the sperm bank. In that sense, sperm banks don’t spend a lot of time with donors talking about recipients or thanking them for what they're doing.

How does the language around donation effect the ways that men and women talk about the financial aspect?

Women are being paid an average of $5,000. They would talk about that as "a gift" for the gift that they had given. Men would call the money they were paid "wages" or "income" or "paychecks."

That's interesting because the vast majority of donors were interested in being donors so that they could make money. They were in it to make money, they made the money, and yet the women had this script that they could draw on of helping other women and giving the gift of life.

You also found that sperm donors think of themselves as fathers but egg donors don't think of themselves as mothers. Why is that?

Because there is so much emphasis on the recipients in egg donation, egg donors don’t think of themselves as mothers. They give this egg in the hopes of giving another woman the experience of motherhood, so they point to the recipients as the real mother.

Sperm donors -- because there's not a lot of talk about recipients -- have it in their minds that they are fathers to all these children that are out there. Men and women are each providing half the genetic material for an embryo, but they think of their relationship to the offspring in very different ways.

This really [reflects] that for women, maternity can be broken out into different pieces now because of technology. One woman can provide the egg, another can provide the pregnancy and a third woman can raise the child. Paternity is not so easily broken apart.

Egg donor after egg donor, in different parts of the country, used this phrase: "Just an egg." They'd say, "What I'm giving is just an egg." They're distancing themselves from the label of mother, because otherwise they would be the worst kind of mothers -- they would be the kind of mother who sold their child for $5,000. They have a pretty vested interest in saying, "I'm not a mother. I'm not a mother. I'm not a mother."

Many of us have read egg donation advertisements targeting college women who are presumably looking to pay off debt. How do the agencies go from stressing the compensation of donating an egg to emphasizing that the egg is a gift?

The ads are really interesting because they will highlight the fact that there is compensation. But at the larger agencies, they get hundreds of applicants a month: anyone who was blunt about wanting money wouldn't make it through the first stages of their screening process. It's certainly the case that egg donors in general want to make money, but if they are blunt about that, they're violating this idea of egg donation as a gift from one woman to another.

Even if they're not actually there for altruistic reasons, they have to voice altruistic reasons. It [speaks] to our deep societal discomfort with a market for body parts: people are not comfortable with people selling body parts. There's a euphemistic language of donation that’s all over this market.

The funny thing is that sperm banks expect men to be motivated by the money. Men are supposed to be making money. We are more comfortable with men in the marketplace. Women are considered closer to children and closer to motherhood, so their earning money for their eggs is more uncomfortable than men earning money for their sperm.

Why do the sperm banks and egg agencies frame things so differently?

I think the answer can be found in our gendered cultural stereotypes of women as nurturing caregivers and men as productive breadwinners. There is a sort of 1950s-era gender stereotyping that plays out in the brave new world of assisted reproduction on a daily basis.

A lot of people will look at this market and say, "There are biological sex differences between men and women. Women have to take shots and undergo surgery." They’ll think the differences in the market are due to biology, but biology doesn't explain all the differences we see, and in fact, these cultural stereotypes of women and men are part of the explanation.

What were the biggest concerns your research prompted about the reproductive donation industry?

I think the major concern that comes out of my research -- and other people's -- is a concern about the physical risks of egg donation. We know that for the short-term risks, around one or two percent of women will have serious complications. But there are still no good studies of the long-term side effects. To truly provide women with informed consent, those are studies that need to be done.

[Also], the vast majority of egg donors have to undergo psychological screening. They have to consider how they're going to react to this [in consultation] with a mental health professional. That same psychological screening is not required of men. It's doing sperm donors a disservice to emphasize the short-term financial gain rather than the long-term implications of donating genetic material.

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08:21 PM on 09/22/2011
I have a son who was born from a donated embryo eight years ago. My husband and I were infertile and had gone through many rounds of IVF without success. I was given basic information about my son's genetic donors - both the egg and the sperm came from donors. Anyway - he is the light of our lives and we couldn't imagine not having him. My son already existed as an embryo and we had nothing to do with that; We also went through several weeks of adoption seminars and thought long and hard about adoption - but the fertility doctor called out of the blue after our last failed treatment and offered us a donated embryo and of course we were thrilled. My son has a beautiful life full of love and friendship and we have been fortunate enough to provide him with a lot of wonderful experiences and advantages. He is kind, respectful and popular. I have absolutely no regrets and only wish we had more information to give him about his genetic background. For us gamate donation has been an amazingly positive experience.
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MissTake1989
Equal means equal, hypocrites.
06:43 AM on 09/22/2011
So, what you are saying is that when you call something a different name that allows women to feel better about it, they are more likely to do it?

The same holds true for most women when you call "going over to a guy's apt. to have sex with him" a "date".
06:11 AM on 09/22/2011
IT REALLY IS INTERESTING TO SEE HOW MUCH MONEY CAN BE MADE BY FEEDING
PEOPLES EGOS. ALL KINDS OF REASONS ARE GIVEN FOR DOING THE THINGS THAT THEY DO, BUT THEY NEVER FACE THE REALITY OF WHY THEY WANT TO DO IT. THEIR
WHOLE LIFE BECOMES ONE BIG ILLUSION. ESCAPING FROM ONE WANT TO ANOTHER.MAYBE THIS IS THE REAL ESSENCE OF ANY ECONOMY.
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Terence Manuel
Confine yourself to the present.
07:56 AM on 09/23/2011
So true! We're Prozac Nation. Never deal with our real issue and be honest about things.
03:45 AM on 09/22/2011
What I find interesting is what is left out. I did try to donate eggs once, because I know people who desperately want to get pregnant but cant. I was not able to, because the agency required my husbands permission >.> He said no, obviously...it was the stupidest thing I have ever heard of. I am my own person and should be allowed to make my OWN decisions as to what I do with my body...and I am betting that men do not need their wives permission to go to sperm banks.
12:17 AM on 09/23/2011
Do you think a sperm bank would have asked for your permission if your husband had wanted to become a sperm donor?
Rubberfish
Who needs a stinkin' micro-bio
03:28 AM on 09/22/2011
Having read about egg donation I wondered if I would ever do that and came to the conclusion that I never would. Those egg cells are all my egg cells, and any children resulting from them *my* children, no matter who gave birth to them or raised them. Could I be 100% that the people who received my egg cells didn't abuse those children? No. Could I be 100% sure that they could adequately provide for those children, especially when so many families go broke in the current economy? No. I could never be a donor because I think beyond the joy of another woman feels when she finally holds a baby in her arms.
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Daniella Lucia
01:37 AM on 09/22/2011
What ever happend to trying it the old fashioned way?
07:18 AM on 09/22/2011
There are people who have trouble getting pregnant naturally. Surely you've heard if that.
01:27 AM on 09/22/2011
What about the children who are born as a result of sperm/egg donation? Why do I never see any stories about us? 12 years ago, my parents told me that my brother and I were the product of artificial insemination. The only information I know about the donor is this:

Born in 1961
6 feet tall
Brown Hair
Green Eyes
Played the fulte and guitar
Went to grad school
Was a Polish Jew

I have often found myself wondering about him. He turned 50 this year, that is if he is still alive. I know the dad who raised me loves me very much, but I cannot help but think about where half of my DNA came from.... where half of ME came from... I have no way of finding him either. All I can do is wonder...
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CharliDenae
02:12 AM on 09/22/2011
Not so different than if you were adopted. My adopted grandmother searched for her biological parents for years with no luck. There really is no good answer for this... if you require donators to give their personal information, they may not donate... if you let them stay anonymous, the children may never know their biological parents. Such a sad situation... I hope you find peace.
04:56 AM on 09/22/2011
you need to talk to your parents and get your donor number from that you qill bw BLE TO GET MORE INFORMATION GOOD LUCK
01:20 AM on 09/22/2011
I am one of the people many of you say should not exist. I was conceived with the help of a woman who gave her eggs so my mom could be my mom. I am now an adult. My siblings were adopted and I don't appear any different. I look normal. God did not give me horns.

You think my parents had no right to treat their medical condition of infertility. You think there are too many people in the world; but the parents of all those too many people weren't told not to reproduce because there are too many people already. You may have religious objections to my conception; but someday I may cure your cancer, or develop a new computer operating system or write a sonata that brings tears to your eyes.

My parents are grateful for my existence even though I have screwed up like all people. Can your friends and neighbors say the same about their children?. Before you cast aspersions, remember that people you see everyday probably have either been conceived with help or have children conceived with help, but they don't discuss it because of the judgmentalism they might have to endure.

I have always known the truth and the only way I would ever accidentally marry my sister is if her parents were foolish enough to withhold from her the truth of who she is. I am here and I am glad. Wake up and smell your hypocrisy. The ignorance is frightening.
01:12 AM on 09/30/2011
I'm glad you're here, too. What you said is so so true. You are here for a reason!
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tmm77625
The winner is the one who stops first
12:35 AM on 09/22/2011
I wish I had thought to "donate" before I was 40. I fit all the criteria they want, and "donating" twice a week can add up to serious cash. But, apparently, once a guy hits 40 his sperm ain't worth a dime.
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CharliDenae
02:14 AM on 09/22/2011
Don't feel bad... women, either. Damn...
StevenRussell1
Christian Pilot
12:09 AM on 09/22/2011
"Righteousness exalts a nation; But sin is a reproach to any people" (Proverbs 14:34).

"Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you."
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CharliDenae
02:23 AM on 09/22/2011
What does this have to do with marketing differences between egg/sperm donators? Didn't "God" give us the knowledge to perform these miracles of IVF, etc? I support adoption, but people should have the right to try for their biological baby if they desire. My God is behind this 100%.
01:14 AM on 09/30/2011
This is the issue with so many scientists. I know because I am one. Even though you're working with data and variables all day long, somehow, from somewhere, the inspiration and analysis comes to you.
11:54 PM on 09/21/2011
Any ladies looking for a good sperm doner?
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12:43 AM on 09/22/2011
always baby.... ;) ;)~
clarissa49
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11:10 PM on 09/21/2011
I can't agree with sperm or egg donations. I don't really see an ethical difference between this donating industry and selling babies. Also, there are plenty of children that need loving parents.
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CharliDenae
02:28 AM on 09/22/2011
You have a point... there are plenty of children that need loving parents and, idealistically, adopting should be a simple and rewarding experience for both the child and the parents. In their quest to make adoption 100% safe, authorities have made it so difficult and expensive to adopt that people have turned to other methods. Also, most people want to adopt a baby and that makes it even harder. My view of a perfect world would be loving parents, a warm and happy home and plenty of food for everyone. Alas, my dream world will never be.
08:45 PM on 09/22/2011
CharlieDenae - That was the lovliest thing to say. I love your view of the perfect world.
01:18 AM on 09/30/2011
We went through two years of adoption process before the doctor's office called us with a possible egg donor. I wanted the adoption, unfortunately it fell through TWICE on us. More heartbreak. The adoption agencies, by law, only make a capped fee on each adoption. The ones who make out are the STATES - you would be astounded at the amount of $$ each state makes on a state-to-state adoption transfer (for example if the child is born in Florida but you live in Maryland). The state regulations make it so, so hard to adopt. Many birth fathers refuse to give up their parental rights... even though they don't support the child financially or ever see them. So many kids stuck in regulation hell.
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CharliDenae
08:43 PM on 09/21/2011
I do have to agree... although there wasn't much talk of women donating eggs when I was growing up, otherwise I definitely would've considered it, there was a lot of talk/jokes about men donating sperm. Realistically, a woman can insert sperm with a turkey baster and get pregnant... but implanting an egg, obviously, is a bigger deal. I don't know if a lot of guys consider that there may be a child conceived using their sperm and what will happen to that child once they leave the facility. Traditionally, they're donating sperm for the money and it's a pleasurable and relatively quick experience. Donating an egg is an unpleasant experience and requires a surgical procedure. It's something that is thought about and planned, so of course there is more emphasis on the result. Also, a mother is, traditionally, someone who nurtures and raises a child to adulthood. A father, traditionally, is someone who provided the sperm. Not saying that men don't donate sperm to help childless couples, don't get your panties in an uproar... I'm sure they do, I'm just saying that, traditionally, money has been their biggest motivator. Two entirely different experiences... two entirely different marketing strategies.
09:57 PM on 09/21/2011
One other thing for women to consider, is that they are not just donating an egg...they are donating a lot of eggs. For the procedure to be mutually beneficial, women are given hormonal treatments to force the ovaries to release a larger number of eggs rather than the typical one egg per month. Keep in mind too, that unlike men who can produce sperm continuously throughout their lives, women are born with a limited number of eggs that their bodies will produce. This could possibly cause problems associated with early menopause, hormonal problems, etc, hence the reason for more studies of women who have donated in the past.
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CharliDenae
02:21 AM on 09/22/2011
Thank you for the info! I didn't think about those factors. :o)
01:20 AM on 09/30/2011
Yes on all. Except it does not cause early menopause.
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CaptainNoLies
Telling the truth since 1776
07:50 PM on 09/21/2011
I read some of the posts before responding, and I am amazed at so many of the negative comments. A couple that wants to have children, but cannot, is one of the saddest realizations/emotions that they will experience in their lifetime. They WANT a child, but cannot conceive on their own. Science has allowed them to fulfill this desire, so what is the problem with letting them achieve their dreams?

My wife and I went through three IVF’s before we had a child – her egg and my sperm, somewhat different than donors, but we now have a healthy son now whom I hug every chance I get (until he is a teenager, of course ; )

Bottom line: There are a lot of unfit parents out there – I will never forget my wife weeping after miscarriage #2 while we were watching the news of some nut-job parents whose son had died after living in a dog cage for the last 4 years, and her stating over her tears “why can’t I have a child who wouldn’t be put in harm’s way”? I did not have answer at the time, other than an embrace. I do now, and hope others will too ...
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08:43 PM on 09/21/2011
Wonderful story, however, keep hugging your son, even when he's 70.. love doesn't have an age limit :)
10:04 PM on 09/21/2011
I have to say that it is wonderful to be able to offer someone else a child who has wanted one for so many years but been unable to conceive. It also saddens me to know there are so many unfit parents who have children and either treat them like yesterday's trash or worse kill them. I'm happy for you and your family, not everyone has the luxury of having both parents who love and support them. I just wish more fathers felt the same way about their children as you do.
03:51 AM on 09/22/2011
Indeed.
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averagezoe
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07:18 PM on 09/21/2011
Why does everything have to have psychological consequences? It would seem to be an emotionally unstable person who agonizes over having donated an egg or sperm and then tormenting him or herself because of that decision. I never thought about it, but I would have donated eggs purely for the money had the occasion ever arisen and I would not have given a second thought to the resulting offspring. There are people out there who are convinced that having a biological child is the ultimate fulfillment and if unable to reproduce, resort to donors. Little do they know what they're in for. My biological child is a rotten, ungrateful brat despite the fact that both my ex and myself have graduate degrees and are physically attractive - you never know what you'll be dealt. I have never understood why someone would sink into a deep depression and agonize over infertility. This world is overpopulated as it is, count your blessing.
09:32 PM on 09/21/2011
I wonder if you realize that the likely reason that your biological child is a "rotten, ungrateful brat" lies in your comment here. It's sad. I have one biological child, and one by an egg donor. They are both the best part of my life, and I can't imagine it without them. But I think if I felt as detatched from them as you seem to be from your child, they might turn out to be "rotten, ungrateful brats." Children often become what we believe them to be. And if they feel unloved and unimportant to their parents, they usually return the favor.
11:17 PM on 09/21/2011
Your child was a brat, even though you're both hot and educated? Wow! Real life sucks!